I feel like a predator/creep when approaching random girls?

[Anonymous]

the idea of talking to random girls is so weird. my friends do it and they all get girlfriends, while I'm an abercrombie model and I don't ever get girls. am I messed up in the head or what? I don't know why I'm so terrified of being labeled creepy. is it? what should I do?

after the gym while walking through the cafe I saw a group if girls look over, whisper to themselves and kinda giggle. after the fact I realize they were probably saying how hot I am (I'm not trying to be stuck up I just look good :/) but at the time I was thinking "i shouldn't stare that's rude". fuuuuuu

[Buckminsterfuller]

do you have a lot of friends who are girls? because the guys who get girls are the ones who are used to tlking to them and being around them and therefore knows how they like to be talked to. if you feel awkward around a girl, chances are you will make her feel awkward too. my advice is learn how to joke around in a friendly way with girls (hence making friends who are girls is a huge plus). There is no magic formula for what to say to a girl as an opener (lets say you're at a party; you could start with something as simple as "i just saw the craziest thing...") but when approaching a girl confidence is a necessity.

also, there is no reason for you to feel like a creep when approaching a girl. girls don't assume all the guys that approach them are creeps--its only the ones that don't respect you or are too aggressive with their flirting who get labelled that way. honestly, don't feel like you have to take on some kind of persona for flirting; once you've gotten used to it you'll see its not what you say so much as how you say it and you can just be yourself.

p.s. girls like getting looks from guys in general, just don't look for more than a few seconds and keep your eyes on her face! :)

[udolipixie]

That's a good thing most guys don't realize approaching is a privilege of society just like the approached girl being nice is a privilege not a right.

However you seem to have too much of a good thing just approach girls who are open, friendly, obviously interested, and look approachable.

[Asker]

its rare around here for girls to look approachable, most are on their bb's or iphones :/

[udolipixie]

So go for the ones not on their bbs or iphones

[SkyBlossom]

Oh wow, well I feel the same way about approaching guys. I don't want to seem weird or desperate or like nothing. This is not solely a male thing, we ladies feel strange about approaching some of you guys too! Be smooth, and if someone looks at you funny for staring alittle too long, well then they're are weird. Just change your thinking, you are just doing what is natural. Can't we all look?

[Anonymous]

Try to approach girls that don't act that silly when you're around. Maybe someone who is your level of attraction or is flipping through a magazine? Oh wait, she might be skimming a Cosmo article on orgasms...scratch that.

[Asker]

why should I go for girls on my level of attraction? obviously I want someone pretty to look at, but that's not a huge deal to me, just a normal girl who is down to earth.

[moviedude714]

so do I