She sees me as a friend. If I spice up our friendship with flirting, is it possible to get her to develop feelings for me?

[Anonymous]

[Doglover000]

It’s possible… depending on what her feelings now is?

[Asker]

She told me she sees me as a friend. Also she said she cares about me. She and I both have a healthy friendship.

[Doglover000]

That’s good

[Doglover000]

Yeah for having a friendship you can care about a person and like them as a friend. But that doesn’t mean that you like them more and you see a future with them. I would be careful because you don’t want to ruin the friendship. And I still don’t understand why guys just don’t tell the girl from the start that they either looking for a relationship, hook up, sex, short term relationship, or friendship. Because if not then down the road one person will develop feelings for the other person and then the person will act on those feelings. It just has made things awkward so the next time when you are talking to a girl that you find attractive or your interested tell her from the start on your intentions. And then the other side is that y’all both like each other and you start out as friends. Then yes that could develop into something more. I would ask her if she’s looking for a relationship or ask her if she sees you two taking it further. If she told you she only sees you as a friend then that is a sign. You can’t change peoples feelings and how they feel about you. You could wait around MB desperate until she says she wants to have a relationship with you. But the question is do you really wanna be waiting? I sure wouldn’t and like yeah I mean if you still wanna be friends with her and go find someone else then do that. I just don’t like when people ignore the signs that they have been given and keep on trying when clearly and not gonna happen for them. Look I don’t really know your story so I can’t really give you what you’re looking for only you can. I’m just a random stranger trying to give you advice and I have no clue so hope something helps.

[Asker]

I think that people change over time. I don't mind waiting a year or two. She's about to graduate college, so she may see what I am worth, if i stick around after she graduates.

[Doglover000]

No just no

[On_cloud_wine]

I think deep down, everyone is looking for a relationship but if a girl sleeps around and is it willing to give it up, he’s just gonna look at her like another booth call. Guys lower their standards when they have sex but high standards for a women they want to be committed to

[Asker]

@On_cloud_wine That is true.

[On_cloud_wine]

How true? On a scale of 1-10, 10 being more true?

[Asker]

@On_cloud_wine 1-10 scale. Men are a 8-9 depending on the guy when it comes to women already having sex, its actually a huge turnoff.

[kaiaebi_aebi05]

look if i were you i'd think about how you've known her, if you have known for her 5+ years then no. However, if you have known her 1-2 years then flirt with her a little but not too much, if she responds he may have feelings for you.

[MountAverage]

Absolutely NOT.