Is she interested in me as a friend or as something more?

[Anonymous]

So I started talking to this girl I met through a dating app. She didn't specify what she was looking for though, but I was still interested in her regardless as friends, casual, something serious, etc. We got to talking and explained how we're both antisocial and don't have many friends, to which she asked if I wanted to be her friend. I said "absolutely!". Today we texted for hours and only stopped because I said I was going to try to take a nap and she said the same thing. I couldn't sleep (I have trouble sleeping even when I can't keep my eyes open) so I think I'm going to just do stuff until she texts me. In our conversation she asked me if I had any plans and I said "Not really. I would suggest we hang out, but I need to mentally prepare first" and she said that she would need to prepare too and we scheduled something for next weekend. She suggested breakfast or lunch to which I agreed for breakfast. Growing up I was taught that the guy should always pay for the girl which I got no problem with, but I know nowadays some people think that's uncomfortable. I don't know if this is a date or not? I'm feeling super confused and don't know how to proceed? Should I text her? Should i not? I mean we just started talking yesterday and we already have plans for next week, so this has to be a good sign right?

[HollyK21]

You met her on a dating app so chop it up to a date👍

[Asker]

Not gonna lie that makes me feel pretty good! I mean she's very pretty and we kind of share the same personality in a way

[HollyK21]

That’s good stuff! Try to go with the flow and don’t think too much, this is still new, plenty of time to figure out what’s going on☺️

[Asker]

I just asked her if she was looking for a boyfriend (our conversation got sexual) and she said "I'm not looking for anything lol I'm trying to vibe with people and make friends and if something happens it happens". Is that a good sign?

[HollyK21]

She might be playing it safe but I’m not a fan of that answer. Like does that mean she plans to string you along or friendzone you? It’s a little sus, not saying you have to drop her but keep your options open, don’t put all your eggs in her basket and try not to set expectations too soon. I personally had a 2 month rule before I got into the relationship I’m in now. I would form any attachments until what would be the honeymoon phase is over and I’m able to see their true colors. People put on their best face within those first two months and that’s assuming it even last that long. I feel it’s better to date that way so if things go left you can leave without feeling horrible.

[Asker]

I mean we talked about sex quite a bit and I learned that she’s one partner only so I’m viewing that as a good thing. I just need to learn how to take things slow. Whenever she sends me a selfie I compliment her and I don’t know if that’s the right call you know? I don’t want her to know that she has control over me now, but I’m having a hard time hiding it 😅

[DreamLife7]

No she's not interested in you