How do you find the right balance when talking to girls? What I have noticed is that I can't be too eager, slow, text a lot, or boring?

[poneglyphs]

So, how do I find the right balance 🤔 I hate it I messed up once and I get ghosted or blocked 🥺 so, any advice would be nice because I'm struggling 😕 😔

[RealMarek]

With texting, I would try to limit it to three or four exchanges then ask for an in-person date. You want to eliminate the ladies who just want a penpal or the feeling of attention they get from receiving texts from men. At this point a lot of women will just ghost you, but that’s okay. You want to lose the ones who aren’t seriously wanting to meet you.

After you have a date, a good approach is to send a text not long after the date letting her know you enjoyed meeting her (if you enjoyed it), then match the frequency and length of her texts after that. You don’t want to be sending a bunch of texts before getting a reply. Let her reciprocate and show interest in you too. Remember, you’re vetting her, not throwing yourself at her to get her approval. And she wants to get to know you and assess how you match with her, so just be yourself. Don’t try too hard to be clever or entertaining. Let your sense of humor come through naturally, not in a forced or contrived way. Also, don’t bring up sexual stuff before she does. If she wants to go there, she will.

[Avicenna]

The first thing you need to do is realize that you will not get it exactly right the vast majority of the time and that most women won't want to date you for one reason for another. Rejection and ghosting occur a lot, and you shouldn't be spending one second worrying about them. Focus on 1) being comfortable with the fact you will get rejected a lot and 2) Focus on enjoying yourself when you talk to women; ie., not going in with expectations. Those are things you CAN control and you'll eventually figure out what works for you. Be yourself and remember that you only need to be successful with one woman to get a girlfriend.

[Avicenna]

You can't always get it right because women have different personalities, expectations and preferences. You can't be all things to all people.

[poneglyphs]

True, for it's kinda hard but I am trying more and having fun talking

[Avicenna]

It's fun talking to women. And you'll develop a sense for how interested they are with practice.

[Avicenna]

Thanks for the MHO

[Anonymous]

Keep it close to what you want yourself. You like texting a lot , then do that. If you find someone who thinks it is too much then she is not for you.
One important thing is not to change it up too much.. maybe you do feel less like texting everyday if it has been going on for months, which is fair, but then at least tell her so she is not getting worried about that change.

[poneglyphs]

Ahh, okay well I like texting a lot to communicate 😊

[NathanDavis]

what has worked best for me is to focus on the one girl you are with at the moment you are with her... and adjust to her very own way to be or her way to engage with you

a conversation is about making a connection, so you have to follow each other... some might take the lead but others won't.. others will expect you to lead, so you have to be prepared for this

the best thing you can do is to pay attention to all these things so you can learn to recognize patterns or the different situations that you will encounter with different women

just don't try the very same thing on your own with all the women in your life, that won't work so well, have some dedication to each person as they are, individual beings

[RobT312]

Just be yourself and stop getting all wrapped up in should I do this or that.
There is no right or wrong, but obviously you are thinking too hard, getting all flustered and weird and not being yourself. People notice that and will think it’s odd.

meet up, have no expectations, have a conversation, have fun, and see where it goes

[HighlyVolatile]

Have fun with it. Don't try to impress girls so much. Just relax and have fun and also have some standards. Don't just look for the first girl who talks to you a bit; look for one with whom you both enjoy talking with both willing to initiate conversations and keep them flowing. Don't try too hard.

[HighlyVolatile]

You try too hard to win over a girl and usually what happens is that you communicate desperation more than charm. Most girls will tend to find a guy far more appealing even if he disagrees with them and seems like he isn't trying too hard to win them over than one who is constantly second-guessing himself and trying to find the right thing to say.

[slatyb]

Stop focusing on getting a date or sex, and just have a conversation. If you are thinking about how to get in her pants then you won’t be listening to her. That’s a huge turnoff. If you aren’t interested in what she’s saying, then she’s not for you.

[Anonymous]

Communicating with a woman is like defusing a bomb while color blind.

[Jaykrisss]

That cracked me up😂😂

[exitseven]

JUst be yourself only better.

[poneglyphs]

I know I do but still maybe myself too much for these girls 😊