How do I ask someone out?

[Anonymous]

How do I cold approach a girl without coming across as creepy, catcall-ish, douche, etc.

I go to the gym pretty often. There's a trainer there who I find very attractive. How do I approach her and strike up a conversation or ask if she wants to grab a coffee or something?

I hear asking a girl anything without her even knowing me is like 99% rejection.. as she doesn't even know me.
She's a beginner's trainer so she's usually either working with a client (can't bother her then) or in her office.

But again I have no idea what I'm doing besides overthinking.

[random_girl95]

First what you should be thinking is not how you will ask her out but how you will initiate a conversation for a random topic. Then if you see that she keeps the conversation going it's a good sign but doesn't necessarily mean anything. You should do it for several days and see how she responds every time. Only then you can ask her out.

[Anonymous]

There’s no way to ever do this reliably. You always just roll the dice. And if they take it wrong and don’t like it then screw it let them feel shitty about it and move on.

[Asker]

So just.. ask?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. Just be real and don’t do anything outrageous by *society’s* standards, don’t worry so much about her reaction. Doesn’t matter what you do, you could be seen by her as a creep or whatever and to stop that from blowing up on you, the recounting of the story needs to sounds reasonable to reasonable people. So just be direct and don’t infringe on any HR policies.

[TrillXHippy]

I can’t think of anything