Why don't girls approach me?

[dimtri]

I get a lot of girls smiling at me and making eye contact more then once, I find it hard to approach girls when others are watching. I'm trying to get over this and I am slowly, would be nice if some girls just started talking with me?

[suprice]

Why don't girls approach me? I get a lot of girls smiling at me and making eye contact more then once, I find it hard to approach girls when others are watching.

It's a common question that plagues many men: why don't women approach them more? After all, if you're receiving smile after smile and prolonged eye contact from a woman, doesn't that mean she's interested?

Unfortunately, it's not always that simple. While it's true that a woman may be interested in you if she's smiling and making eye contact, there are other factors at play that may be preventing her from approaching you.

Let's take a look at some of the reasons why a woman may not approach a man, even if she seems interested.

1. She's shy

Shyness is a common reason why women don't approach men they're interested in. After all, it can be nerve-wracking to walk up to a stranger and start a conversation.

2. She's not sure if you're interested

Another common reason why women don't approach men is because they're not sure if the man is actually interested in them. She may be second-guessing herself and wondering if she's misreading your signals.

3. She doesn't want to be rejected

Of course, no one likes to be rejected, but women may be particularly worried about being rejected by a man they're interested in. The fear of rejection can be a powerful deterrent to approaching someone.

4. She's worried about what other people will think

Another reason why women may not approach men is because they're worried about what other people will think. She may be concerned about what her friends will say or whether people will think she's being forward.

5. She doesn't want to seem too available

In today's dating world, there is a lot of pressure on women to play it cool and not seem too interested. She may be worried that if she approaches you, she'll come across as desperate or needy.

So, there you have it: some of the reasons why a woman may not approach a man, even if she seems interested. If you're a man who's wondering why women don't approach you more, it could be any one of these reasons (or a combination of them).

Of course, the best way to find out if a woman is interested in you is to simply ask her. But if you're not ready for that just yet, keep an eye out for these signs. They just might give you the clues you need to make your move.

[slatyb]

There's "would be nice...", and there's real life. In real life if you want to talk to a woman, you have to say hello.

[SueShe]

You are the only one that can help that situation.

In order to have friends or a girlfriend, you must be pro-active and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

[dimtri]

I agree... I need to stop worrying about what everyone else is thinking and just do it. I don't care if people think it's wrong for a guy my age to be with a girl a lot younger, if we both like each other. I don't see a problem

[PrettyPriya]

I will not opine on this question because I believe @SueShe has given excellent advice. I also often give similar advice about finding a local activity club where you will meet likeminded people.

It gives you a head start on striking up conversation since you will naturally share interest in one area. Make sure (when allowed after 24 hours) to select the best advice for MHO (Most Helpful Opinion). If me, her opinion is what I would select.

[SueShe]

@PrettyPriya Oh, c'mon, my pride will make me explode :-)

[PrettyPriya]

@SueShe I would have written the same thing. You know, I had a very dear friend meet someone not too long ago in the same manner. She got involved in a community garden and met a very fine gentleman. We plan to all have dinner next weekend.

Goes to show the advice works and is very good. 🙂

[dimtri]

What are activities that nice girls attend? Iv never thought about it

[SueShe]

@PrettyPriya That is nice and that is exactly how the asker should proceed. You never know what those gatherings can bring in terms of positive news.

[dimtri]

I do have a collection of stones that IV found over the years maybe lapidary

[SueShe]

Stone collection is quite uncommon but you could visit an exhibit and share your expertise and knowledge about crystals and other minerals.

[jennifer_bloom]

Girls like being hunted and they have to sense desire to want you back

[Chiarac2003]

Maybe they’re giving u the opportunity to go up and say hi or something. Be brave an sweet about it🎀

[cryscrys1]

I think instead of questioning what and if’s just go and say hi
you won’t lose anything
If the girl speaks to you first that’s good if not you try it. Who cares if they don’t talk back.. don’t take it seriously.

[dustybiker]

You have to force yourself to be brave. You could spend you whole life waiting.

[Anonymous]

maybe because you are 38 and girls are intimidated by older men.

[Opinion Owner]

and expect him to be taking more initiative, likely being the more experienced

[dimtri]

I only look 25

[Opinion Owner]

I doubt every girl thinks that.

[dimtri]

I only just getting use to beautiful girls giving me attention, it happened when I was younger, I'm learning to be honest and just being friendly. It's hard to know if she is just being friendly or wants me to ask her out

[dimtri]

What's a good question I can ask to find this out? Is it ok just to ask them to come hang out right there and then

[Opinion Owner]

best question is surely just to be direct. it is ok, if they have time they might go, if not they can give you their contacts so you can schedule for something later.

[Anonymous]

I've been rejected a lot in life. Dont like the feeling

[Uptowngirl88]

You're a man why should they be obligated to approach you?

[Anonymous]

Dude women aren’t going to approach you. It’s just not how they work.

[Guy13]

Lot of people have this “kind smile” which is like saying hey 👋 but no time or energy to speak.

[anon1903]

Totally

[dimtri]

That's me a lot of the time. I'm not fast enough on my feet to think of things to say sometimes or I'm busy thinking about something

[anon1903]

Be quicker then, sweetheart

[anon1903]

Evolution has screwed it up for both genders. In essence, men are expected to take initiative ASAP, or their fellow bro will.

[dimtri]

Yes and I'm sick of seeing the ones I like and they like me with 2nd choices cause I never moved in when it was offered to me. Never directly as that never happens but I do understand the signals girls give. I'm only really getting back to the confidence level I had as a teenager again. It's a good feeling

[anon1903]

Sounds good. Just work on your communication skills a little, okay? You'd be fine.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe they’re shy. Girls get shy too.

[hostboy__fastestlaps]

Just hit the gym or find a park nearby

[Wise4myage]

Dude, really?

[dimtri]

It would be nice. And would show confidence which is what I'm looking for

[Wise4myage]

Good luck with that.

[dimtri]

Yeah I'm still waiting... Have to say that I girls are very interesting, the other week was dancing with this one girl and she would back right onto my dick then I'd try and touch her and she would say no no...

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know why