“Women will get creeped out when approached in public so it is better to hit them up online.” Is that true?

Question

I was having a conversation with my friends and one guy said “women get creeped out if you hit them up in public. Unless you are a 9/10 or higher then you shouldn’t approach them because they’ll get creeped out. You should only flirt with them or hit them up online such as Snapchat or tinder so you don’t ruin your confidence.”

Is that dude right? He is actually the smartest from the group. Does the most reading. We always go to him for advice.

“Women will get creeped out when approached in public so it is better to hit them up online.” Is that true?

Sasha0426 · Accepted Answer

I’ll be honest and say I am attracted to attractive men and I do everything to make myself look attractive as well. However, even if the guy is attractive, I’ll still reject him if I’m not feeling the same way. But, if he starts pushing me to go out with him, that’s where I’ll cross the line.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I met my husband while shopping. Men should approach, just do it with some class.

Summeroflove · Answer

This really depends on your approach as well as the individual woman. Some people are easily creeped out and it’s just how they are as well as some people just aren’t friendly people.

Even a handsome dude or a beautiful woman can be creepy if they’re doing creepy stuff. If you approach a woman who isn’t a degenerate slut thinking only about sex. She will probably pick up on that. If you can’t take no for a answer or ask inappropriate questions. She will probably be creeped out.

If you like someone enough to approach them approach. But if she’s a stranger some aren’t trusting of strangers. Some are in relationships. Others just aren’t going to be into you for one reason or another.

If she isn’t friendly, if she doesn’t speak to you, if she rejects you, or anything like that just leave her alone.

When you’re talking to a stranger you never know how they’re going to react or not. Mostly I don’t speak to people unless they talk to me. I try to be friendly but I have bad experiences with strangers unless it’s a sweet old woman

OlderAndWiser · Answer

1. Appraching a woman in public does not necessarly mean that you need to be aggressive or pushy. You can approach, engage in a little light conversation, and then ask if she would like to meet you for coffee or a drink sometime in the next few days.

2. Women will not have a uniform approach to this matter so what one woman says doesn't necessarly apply to the next woman.

3. My atttude is that women are attracted to men who are confident and self-assured. So if I see a woman who gets my attention, I approach her in a kind and gentlemanly manner and slyly ask if she ever eats dinner. Interject some humor in your approach and you will get her to relax.

4. If that doesn't work, I go back to the dating sites or start looking for another available woman in my sphere. If you get rejected, it doesn't mean there's something wring with you, so don't get hung up about avoiding rejection. Learn to not let it be a big deal and your life will be much easier.

Guy13 · Answer

Those are the words of a guy who has No Game, or whose temperament is a poor representation of his personality. Maybe, he needs to replace his temperament with a new one from Amazon.
Women are starved for a man to talk to them…or if you can catch 3 at one of those carts or shops in the center of the mall walkway…rummage around the bans handing there for the niece…then ask opinion or help.

So willing like tear-up and turn it into a show and test your story…and pass THEN 3 different wrist sizes showing and telling…while I’m trying not to pay any attention to those breasts and the other butt moving while you supposed to be staring at another’s wrist.

melanieeeB · Answer

Not really... he probably approaching women in a creepy way in person and that's why they're creeped out by him lol

Anonymous · Answer

Women and girls. Many of y'all consider it a chill night when you're stuffing your face with chocolates or other junk food and watching some nasty ass crime doc on Netflix like the Dahmer series. Meanwhile, if a guy approaches you in a kind, respectful it's OMFG EWWW! GET LOST! I truly think women and girls have embedded issues, commitment issues and severe emotional issues. Part of that is the experiences women continue to harbour. I think more women and girls nowadays have this mind -- ALL MEN ARE PIGS, ALL GUYS ARE SIMPS, ALL GUYS WILL CHEAT/WANT SEX. So if you have this mindset ladies, you are already labelling an entire gender under your warped views. Finding women online is pointless -- girls on tinder are either looking for some 6 ft 4, 6-figure salary dude or a hot guy to fool around with, thats it. That is the cold hold truth. Thank 3rd wave feminism, stupid ass movies, toxic reality shows for ruining the minds of women. It's funny women will get triggered at this comment and give the typical -- you're an f-ing simp, female hater. Yeahhh, if that's the case, tell women online to stop promoting their OnlyFans on platforms like Reddit to get money and attention from males to get their validation and wealth. To women out there, don't act like feminism has provided you with independence when suicide and depression keeps rising in females in the West. The glorious apparent west that women think is such a liberal, free-thinking society.

ShellyB · Answer

Thinking about my own life, I have only ever dated guys who approached me but, I have not dated most guys who approach me. In other words if you ask, maybe the chances something will happen are low, but if you do not ask, the chances something will happen are almost zero, my advice would be to approach her in a non creepy non scary way, be friendly, try to make her laugh, give her a sweet harmless compliment like "you have such a beautiful smile" and see what happens, maybe nothing will happen, she might be in a relationship, she might not be interested for any reason or she might be in a bad mood or in a hurry or who knows, but if you do not ask, nothing will happen. JMO good luck!

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Of course not. I don't get half the problems most guys at GaG have with approaching women. Why do guys here believe these weird things about women?

1. You have to be great looking.

2. You have to have a lot of money.

It just seems like a bunch of nonsense made up to excuse themselves from having to try. Even women as beautiful as Halle Berry have serious issues with self-image. We don't have that. I am butt ugly and I will never have issues with confidence about my ugly mug, fat stomach or shapeless physique.

WTF?

MCheetah · Answer

No. It's relative to how attractive you are, no matter the place. Modern women f*cking HATE short/unattractive men and immediately claim they're "creepy/incels" just so they don't have to feel so bad/shallow treating them like sh*t merely for being unattractive to them.

ThrowawayRandom · Answer

I mean, it mostly depends on how you approach them. 9/10 guys that come up start the conversation by flirting or complimenting and don’t give girls enough time to get a read on them. And since 9/10 guys are creeps, it’s safest for us to assume that any guy coming up and complimenting right away is probably a creep since most are.

My advice would just be to start an actual conversation, make her feel comfortable and don’t push boundaries or be weird. Online isn’t much different, if a guy messaged “hey your cute” I assume he just wants in my pants like all the others that say the same thing n I’ll ignore him. But if someone sparks up a real convo and is treating me like a person I’ll engage

Sour-rose · Answer

I'm not creeped out, just on guard to wtf do you want with me, bud. And if you get in my personal space, I'm gonna assume you a threat. But honestly, if you just come as you are to me, I won't be creeped out. And online is... worse as I'm gonna just leave that mofo on read if i can see through him.

slatyb · Answer

It depends on how you approach them. "Wow, you look great. Can I take you to dinner?" mostly won't work. After a few minutes of conversation you'll have a much better chance. Con you do that? Hold a conversation where you take turns talking and listening?

tiamatx · Answer

Wrong as hell.

Especially wrong if you are NOT 9/10 or higher - in life you can be witty, energetic, dynamic, have great sense of humor, masculine vibe, be bold and daring. These traits are hard to convey online without any deeper conversation.

What's more, and I couldn't stress it enough, you miss the factor of doing rather than speaking when online. Fortune favors the brave, not the ones who read the most :)

OC1990 · Answer

It depends on the approach. If there’s been some eye contact and she seems approachable then speak with her, be polite. If you bothered her or she’s not interested then be nice, apologise and move on. I think confidence of in person approach is more attractive and often online it can be stale or repetitive chat that is just small talk. Also don’t send a dick pic unless requested 🤣

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

If they're strangers then Isn't that called online dating? No, I think face to face is more natural and way less artificial... Plus it's not something specific to girls... For everyone : if someone approaches you and they're your type then it's fine.. If they're not really your type then they're awkward and creepy...

nrm736 · Answer

Your mate may be the smartest from the bunch but apparently his strategy is failing him so he must have said that out of some recent sore experiences.

Rejection is a part this game so you have to be prepared for that as well. By the way I'm sure a number of women appreciate that you had the balls to approach them even if they rejected you.

Damian69 · Answer

A lot of women are creeped out because whoever was hitting them up came on strong. Just strike up a light conversation instead of immediately saying how you can't wait to bang her or smth like that. Be an actual nice person instead of one of those "nice guys"

Minahh · Answer

Not true. If a boy came to me for example in the library and asked what are you reading? We likely would have a nice conversation. On the other hand asking for a number or ig is a no, God forbid having some nasty comments on top of that. Gee these modern guys. No social skills and manners. Also boy oh boy is the online space full of creeps.

MountAverage · Answer

No. The problem with approaching women in public is that most guys suck at it and have zero tact. You wouldn't believe how many women would prefer to be approached IRL over online, but they're so used to only weird creepy guys doing it, that they just don't expect it anymore.

BLYNd · Answer

No they are impossible both ways... We man rather buy a masturbator and fund sex robot projects. We want cheap sex robots, and forget all the women. You can pick a child from the foster house, and everybody is happy.

I d suggest only boys as you need a special rasing techniqe with girls, in order to prevent them becomming the same as their parents...

AnUglyBarnacle · Answer

I mean, a lot of women are scared of their own shadows nowadays, so, yeah, online is sadly the only acceptable place to initiate with some of them.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Just have some common sense on where and when to approach. Don't approach them at night while they are alone and do it in more public places.

Ninania · Answer

I don't like being approached by a stranger anywhere, irl or online. Don't really see the appeal of approaching someone I don't know for any reason either.

kramchancel · Answer

All the women saying he is wrong is probably thinkning that yes its alright to get approached in public as long as your handsome. If you are fat or ugly or both lol goodluck

zagor · Answer

No, you just have to use discretion and be appropriate to the situation. For example, if you're 30 hitting on the teenager working at McDonald's would not be appropriate.

genericname85 · Answer

Looks do definitely matter. They're more likely to think you're a creep if you're ugly. But i think social skills and the way you carry yourself make the bigger impact overall in this.

LazerBean · Answer

Anyone who voted yes is either mentally retarded or didn't have his father in the home.

Anonymous · Answer

Since #metoo, you're very likely to get falsely accused of rape and sent to prison, Absolutely not worth it. The potential consequences out weigh the benefits. Best to avoid women in public at all costs and possibly stick to online.

ThatCanucker · Answer

You just have to remember 3 simple steps and you should be good.

hissugarbuns · Answer

try both id go up to them it shows confidence!!

Anonymous · Answer

Are you looking to buy a bridge? I have some on sale this month.

Anonymous · Answer

6 one, half a dozen man. Women always reserve the right to be flakey regardless. You do you, whatever that entails. And just take the nuttiness as it comes.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I approach in person all the time. If I have ever creeped a girl out she did not reveal it.

Pohjolan · Answer

Approach them in public, hit on them on the internet.

InsecureLivesMatter · Answer

Anyone who voted no either is a liar or doesn't believe in God

msc545 · Answer

Better not to approach women at all any place. They are unpredictably dangerous.

Rose_M_Harto · Answer

Dude, they get more freaked out when you do that online (sometime/most of the time), they might think you're a scammer, or a pervert, or worse!

Jamesbon · Answer

American chicks mostly rude and poorly socialized. It's the culture.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

No. That displays a lack of confidence in my opinion.

AsaKyo · Answer

How about just be my buddy and we'll see

Fuentes · Answer

I hit them up online more then person.

strateguy632 · Answer

nope

Likes2drive · Answer

Totally agree

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