How should a girl flirt with a man who is her friend?

[Anonymous]

I have a crush on my friend and I think he likes me too... I am shy, but I need to show him my feelings... how should I flirt with him? We are really good friends, but I want to make a move. Can you please help me?

[Guy13]

If you break the three feet space rule or grab his arm or some sort of touch then he should figure it out. Make certain you have a warm smile and not a look of terror when doing this. I am going to suggest that you go to youtube and search Betty Boop for drama "hints". Watch how she works it. I am daring a little her now...

[Asker]

I will do so! Men wouldn't get intimidated right?

[serious]

Why must you flirt with your guy friend? What is the need? I don't understand this.

[Asker]

Because I love him!

[serious]

Flirting is not an indication for love.

[serious]

I don't know about other people's opinions but I see flirting as something that is inappropriate and cheap.

[serious]

Maybe I am an exception does not matter. However, the point I wanted to make is flirting does not equate love. There are so many more pure ways of showing love, care and affection towards the one you love.

[serious]

Please don't misunderstand me, if you really wish to flirt only then by all means go for that. There are so many ways you can go about that.

[Asker]

You are right :) I never thought of it that way :) pure way is what I need, to be honest :) ... because I think love is one of the best and most wonderful feelings one should experience! Then can you tell how I should show him that I care about him? What should I do? :)

[serious]

Good that you took what I said in the right way. Seems like you are an open minded person

[serious]

I will reply very soon.

[Asker]

:) Thank you, I like people who can guide others the right way :) I never say or think that I do things correctly, I thought flirting would be the best indicator for that special person in my life. But I really appreciate it :) will keep my eye on your comments and suggestions. Thank you so much! :)

[serious]

Yes so there are some really good points in my mind right now. I will reply right away.

[serious]

Some of the things that you can do which would show that you actually love your guy friend. They are as follows.

1. Compliment him. Yes you should give him compliments and plenty of them but ensure that they are genuine compliments and true. I mean don't compliment him just so that you can see his reaction and just to make him happy. The intention of complimenting is important here. Don't compliment in order to test him in some way.

Compliment him because you like that about him and that you want to do it because you think it is the right thing to do.

Yes a man certainly likes compliments and especially if it comes from a woman but then not all men will like compliments so if you see he is uncomfortable then you should him upfront if he likes compliments or not and if he says he dislikes compliments then you should refrain from giving any compliments.

2. Be available for him, if possible be an open book type of woman.

I mean to say when he needs you then you should be available for him. Maybe he just needs your company and not your help but then you being available is a very clear indication that you love him.

Yes there are men who love open book type of women.

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[serious]

3. This point would be a stark contrast to point no #2. Never play any sort of mind games with him. Mind games means playing hard to get, using the jealousy card, taking too long to reply. Giving others priority as compared to the man you like/love.

You should strictly refrain from doing any of these things for whatsoever reasons. Doing these only shows that such a woman is an attention seeker and she does not care about the man she loves. These are highly disrespectful acts.

If you want to show your love, then you should do exactly the opposite of this. You need to show the man you like/love that he is the most important person for you and that he is best man in your life. You need to make him feel like he is on the top of the world.

4. Encourage him to follow his dreams and passion. If you truly love him then don't hold him back, you should love that he loves to dream and he is man who goes after his goals and objectives and you should support and encourage him to do that.

This shows you truly respect and love him.

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[serious]

5. Even if you are a take charge kind of person but you should let him take charge if he wants too and let him plan a movie or if he wants to go out with you.

This will show you trust and love him

6. If you are a woman who likes getting gifts, be it small or big then if he gets you something you love or something a woman loves in general for eg TEDDY BEAR etc then you should show your appreciation by not only thanking him, you can also hug him (provided he likes hugs).

If you are a woman who loves these little things in life that will be a huge plus points because it would indicate to him that you are a very sweet woman and it is really easy to make you happy. It will encourage him to give you more respect.

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[serious]

7. Talk to him and share things with him about whatever is going on in your life. I mean whatever you are facing. Involve him in your life. Take his opinions and listen to them attentively. Give importance to what he is saying.

This will show that you care about his opinions and also the fact that you love him.

8. If the guy friend of yours does not mind physical touches, then give him plenty of non-sexual types of kisses. Like forehead kisses and keep your hand softly on the back part of his head and stroke it gently.

Yes a man can also do this with a woman and it means the same thing. This is a very pure form of physical love and they are non-sexual in nature.

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[serious]

Well, I am sure there are some more points but as of now I can only think of these best points.

[serious]

I am sure these are excellent points that would show that you actually love him.

[serious]

I did not want to make you wait long and so yes this the reply.

[serious]

You seem like a naturally curious woman and I don't know if this is true but if you make a woman wait too long then I think their curiosity dies off and also the interest levels become low. I believe this is very true

Hence I thought it was disrespectful to make you wait long. That is why I replied fast. I think your curiosity should be satisfied.

Just making it clear.

[serious]

Wish you good luck going forward.

[Asker]

:) How lovely of you to reply right away! You know what, you are the same age as he is, and you have pointed out to some stuff as if you know him so well! He loves compliments, really! And I know he loves hugging and receiving presents :) I will do all that you have said and not play games with him! I do think that you are a really genuine person who takes his time to give comments and help others! I hope all that you wish will come true :) thank you once again for everything...

[serious]

Yes I like to use my logic and my rational thinking to give the best possible opinion.

[serious]

Thanks for your kind words.

[serious]

"He loves compliments, really! And I know he loves hugging and receiving presents"

That is great. Then it means whatever I have said should be very useful to you going forward.

[Asker]

Thank you once again for your precious time and giving me such great ideas to approach him! Good luck with whatever you would like to do!!! :) Take care and all the best xx

[serious]

Thanks for the MHO

[Asker]

Thank YOU for your comments🙏☺

[serious]

It's fine. You are welcome

[Asker]

Can I ask you something else too? What would men think about women making the first move or telling them they like him?

[serious]

"Can I ask you something else too?"

Yes.

[serious]

" What would men think about women making the first move or telling them they like him?"

Well that would appeal to a man. He would definitely admire, appreciate the woman's courage. In short men like it if a woman makes the first move.

[Asker]

Thank you once again for taking your precious time to answer my question 🙏🙏 you are very kind🙏☺

[serious]

Come on!. It is okay. You seem like a very sweet person.

[Anonymous]

Tease him. I don’t mean by licking your lips either. I mean joking around w him, maybe a slight touch here and there. Treat him different than you do the other men. Maybe you bring him a drink or a snack. Little things that you notice. I noticed you broke your favorite pencil, I got you one. Simple little things. Laugh w him. Maybe bump him a time or two in passing. When you want to show him something like on your phone stand close to him.

[MeSultanMm]

I think you need to give him something in a gift
A small startup

[Asker]

Oohhhh really🙏🙏 he wouldn't think I am desperate, right? It is a great idea🙏🙏

[MeSultanMm]

Why you gifting so expensive
Just start with little one

And second thing if you are fear in everything then how you forwarding up in your relation dear

[Wise4myage]

Compliment him, but don't' overdo it. Drop subtle hints about being single and not liking it.

[Asker]

:) So then you should give me an example regarding how to not overdo it :) ... how about if I tell him how I appreciate him being so clever and talented?

[Wise4myage]

Don’t be desperate.

[Asker]

Haha you are funny🙄

[MrCommodore]

It kinda depends on how you both currently hang out together, also how comfortable you currently are together.

From that it would be possible to figure out how to strategically escalate things.

[In_Trance]

friends don't do that