It's not that hard to tell if you're perceptive to body language and non-verbal cues.
If he's smiling and joking with you, but you aren't picking up on any sexual vibes from his energy, he's just being friendly.
It's a hard concept to grasp, but everyone has that 6th sense if they know how to tap into it.
When anyone is flirting romantically, they can't help but have a certain look in their eye, tone in their voice, and carry themselves a certain way.
When you can learn to pick up on these subtle, non-verbal signals, it's easy to tell right away whether someone is being flirty or just being friendly.
Consider watching a few videos on YouTube about it, but really it's just about being aware of it and trusting your gut feeling.
Humans are more receptive to each other on an emotional level than people realize.
Same way you can tell when someone's pissed off, but they're trying to hide it. It's just a feeling you get.
(Note: not every guy who's nice to you is trying to pick you up. Most women could benefit from learning that)
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Attraction builds over time. Some guys might just find you sort of interesting, but if you flirt with them, then maybe it can grow into something more.
And sometimes you've got that look that he's really into and he's excited and physically attracted to you right away.
Usually if you're a young girl you can pretty much assume that every guy that talks to you wants to fuck you.
But there are levels of that too. Just because a guy wants to fuck you doesn't mean he's smitten with you.
Truly, the only way to know for sure is to flirt back. Or I suppose in your case since you think it's ambiguous, from your perspective you might think you're the first one taking the step in flirting.
Either way, good flirting is accentuating the gender differences between you two. It's about optimism and fun. Jokes, innuendo. Maybe a little personal insight.
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It is the intentions that are important here.
A guy who is genuinely friendly will not have any ulterior motive behind him being friendly. Meaning he does not want to impress the woman or make her like him etc.
A guy who is flirty will almost certainly have a motive behind doing this, which is he wants the woman to take interest in him. Unless he is flirting for time pass or for fun, the motive will be to take things forward.
flirty for me is when someone makes subtle sexual innnuendo's or jokes. I usually like to poke fun at whatever she said and turn it into a witty joke.
It can be difficult. In fact today I was talking and joking with a cashier at the store when all of a sudden she got very professional and aloof. I think she thought I was flirting at that point, which I wasn't.
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