Are you aware or mostly oblivious when someone likes you without them telling you directly?

[Still-alive]

Like are you aware enough to notice signs they definitely are into you? or are you mostly oblivious unless they just tell you?

I usually can tell they like me even if they don't tell me

Sometimes i can tell. some signs give it away more than others

I usually can't tell at all and need to be told directly

[meetkitty123]

I am usually painfully aware when People are attracted to me. I am also aware when they find me attractive but do not want to act upon for reasins such as they are in a relationship, they are my superior, they are much older than I or they are not sure of themselves. I can also get a sense of when they are just a player or genuine.

My current boyfriend was so cute. He never picked up on just how genguine my attraction was for him. He picked up on some flirting but figured I was just a sexy friendly girl. In fact it took me flat out telling him when I realized hints were not working and wven then I actually had to convince and repeatedly attempt to convince him that I was being serious and I truly did like him. I suppose he thought I was just being nice and trying to boost his ego.

He actually took me a lot of effort to finally snag up as all mine lol 😂.

[Still-alive]

Did it make him more attractive to you that it took so much effort to get him?

I heard that a lot of women like working a bit harder to get a guy and aren’t easy to get.

[meetkitty123]

I have to say I certainly learned that I enjoy it more when I'm the pursuer than when I'm pursued it was fun though at times a little frustrating but I have to say I really enjoyed the run he gave me but I also had to play it both ways I realized I had to chase and then pull back and let him come to me and then Chase and pull back and play nonchalant and have him seek me out a few times eventually it paid off where I had him seeking me quite a bit of times and I didn't have to do so much chasing now it's just become a nice tendency between us a little game of tag Chase seek and back and forth we alternate throughout the day on who reaches out for who first

Overall the key is not so much that they're not easy to get. Or that they're difficult to get The key really is that they have a Modest non egotistic and not overly eagered disposition. It's fun when the guy offeres some challenge but they make themselves available in the right amounts and they're not overly eagered or come off full of themselves

It's the same for when you want a guy to chase you make yourself available within modest portions you do not make yourself appear over eager and you got to know when to pull back

[Still-alive]

It seems like its a bit complicated when you put it like that. Like i have to be aware not to be overeager but also not pull back to where she thinks im not interested. Its a delicate balance that seems hard to maintain.

[meetkitty123]

Exactly it has to be a balancing act. You have to want just enough but not excessively then give a little space and then show some interest

It kinda reminds me of homeward bound the How to get food lesson. (ya I seriously paid attention to sassy's lesson as a little girl) a person has to be more like Sassy less like Chance.
https://youtu.be/SmbppU9bULU

[Still-alive]

lol love that movie

[meetkitty123]

Ya its a great movie and I'll admit sometimes us ladies can be like "Sassy" Like: hi pay attention to
me hi 🙂 what no I can't I dont want any... oh but maybe... Um No I simply couldn't oh well if you insist 😉 Sure... "

[Still-alive]

you're definitely a 90s kid lol

[DancingQueen16]

Most of the time I'm oblivious, for example: Before me and my boyfriend started dating we were best friends and he had sort of been dropping hints that he liked me for years but I always thought he was just being nice because I thought we were way too deep in the friendzone for him to like me as anything other than just a best friend

[Pohjolan]

That's a dilemma of the broken censor though.

We don't know whether we are not getting a reading because there is nothing there or if the censor is not working properly.

Needs a: Don't know. option.

[SnowedIn]

I don't get that sort of attention much these days. When I do, I can usually tell but I'm far from perfect.

[Still-alive]

a lot of girls on here some to like you. i noticed lol

[melanieeeB]

I can tell it without them saying anything

[Still-alive]

what do you usually do when that happens?

[melanieeeB]

Depends on how much I like him back.. if I don't really care, I will do nothing.
If I think he is cute but I don't care if we get together or not, I will do nothing but would agree on a first date if he would ask me.
If I do find him cute and care about getting to know him better.. I might start a conversation and try to get to know him a little but I must also honestly say the last view years I didn't bother much and just did nothing.
I'm used to men who are just straight forward and mostly I don't even have to think about what to do cause before I can even start to think, he is already in my face and starting a conversation lol

[Still-alive]

nice i like your approaches there.

so if you don't like him back and you know he likes you what do you do? just do nothing?

[melanieeeB]

I do nothing, I think it would be weird to go over and be like "I think you like me, but I don't like you" lol... unless he does approach me and asks me in a normal way, I will say oh thank you, how brave of you to ask me but I'm really not interested and hope you might find someone else and if he is being an ass while asking I will be an ass back lol

[menina]

These kids are so cute! 🥰🥰🥰

I can't never tell when someone likes me. They can be giving me signs all the time and I still don't get it. 😂😂😂 I usually need my friends to tell me that a guy is into me.

[Sour-rose]

Now a days after seeing so many kissing, and I'm still asexual, I can see the signs. Signs that a normal person wouldn't do if they didn't like that person at all. Do i reciporcate? Eh, I might if I feel the same. Buuuuut i don't tho :c

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Sometimes I can tell. Some signs give it away more than others

[LiamJHayden]

I usually pursue, but when I am the pursued I am oblivious to the point that I have had girls sit on my lap to get my attention.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Plenty of ladies showed the signs and nothing. I'm not oblivious. I'm just somebody nobody wants.

[llorando]

I usually can't tell at all and need to be told directly.

[magiusX26]

doesn't matter these days for me.

[lottiebannotie]

I'm oblivious