Can aspie men not know how to get close to women in an appropriate way?

[Anonymous]

Making inappropriate jokes and pursuing women in an inappropriate way? Just because they’re clueless?

[Summeroflove]

It can happen. Yes. If someone does this to you and ir becomes too much tell him to STOP!



That’s the problem. As a aspie myself. I know some are enabled to act however they want. Sure I fully understand every case is different.


But you need to put your foot down someone doesn’t have a right to bother and harass you much less sexually harass you

[Ben487]

yes that sounds very aspie

[Asker]

I’m not great at reading people. I’m an aspie myself, Ben.

[Ben487]

oh sorry to hear that. I think aspergers improves with time especially if you are really working on it. Do you think that's true?

[Asker]

Yes, I do. It took me three years to learn about body language. I still have to consciously try to analyse it in my head when people do things, but we can learn from experience.

[Asker]

Have you found the same thing?

[Ben487]

I don't think I have aspergers, but my sister says she has it and she has actually become very good at social interactions also Elon Musk says he has it and that guy is pretty great at interviews and stuff so I would think so.

[Asker]

Do we know each other? I’ve met two Ben’s on here and one of them knew me in person.

[Ben487]

No I'm new on here.

[Asker]

Ok.. can I add you so we can talk privately? As people?

[Ben487]

sure thing

[Asker]

I’m a bit lonely, so I’m looking to make new friends.

[Asker]

Ok, just sent you a following

[shi-shi]

You have to tell them if it's inappropriate, they struggle with social queues but people with Asperger's tend to be pretty clever so while they can't read nonverbal sign that people are uncomfortable, if you tell them clearly they're going to understand pretty easily.

At that point it's up to them if they heed your advice or not

[Effably]

Absolutely. It is hard enough for everyone without adding that extra challenge.

It gets even more difficult since it relies so heavily on social cues and who you are. One guy can do something and have it work out super well but another doing the exact same would be deemed an absolute creep. The moment to moment insight of how you are received and perceived is honestly difficult for everyone.

[Anonymous]

My sister married a rich and famous aspie and she had to teach him because he was awkward and made weird inappropriate comments everywhere. He'd be the ONLY ONE LAUGHING at his own jokes and thought that everyone around him were weird for not laughing too.

They really have no clue.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats not an aspie thing, thats a normal thing.

Most of the people I know (male or female) do that. It's so common in fact, that seeing someone who doesn't make crude jokes or flirty remarks is actually quite rare.

[Anonymous]

That is correct.