I want to reconnect with an old friends with benefits as we are both single again. Do I keep trying?

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he’s friendly/flirty in person but won’t reply to messages. Is he keen? Do I keep trying?

Been on/off friends with benefits for years, just want the same setup we had last time. How forward can I be without freaking him out?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's difficult to say for sure whether your old friend with benefits is still interested in that type of arrangement without more information. However, based on the fact that he's friendly and flirty in person but not responding to messages, it's possible that he's still interested but may be busy or not as responsive to online communication.

If you're interested in reconnecting with him for a friends with benefits arrangement, it's important to communicate your intentions clearly and respectfully. You can try reaching out to him again and expressing your interest in a casual relationship, but be mindful of his response and any boundaries he may have.

It's also important to be aware of your own boundaries and expectations, and to communicate those as well. Make sure you're on the same page about what you both want from the arrangement and what your boundaries are.

In terms of how forward you can be without freaking him out, it's all about finding the right balance between being clear and respectful. You can be direct about your intentions and interest, but also be mindful of his response and any signals he may be giving off. It's important to respect his boundaries and not push him into anything he's uncomfortable with.

Overall, communication is key in any type of relationship, whether it's a casual friends with benefits arrangement or something more serious. Be honest and clear with your intentions, and be open to hearing his perspective as well. Good luck!

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

He won't reply to messages probably because he's messing with someone else. I had a female friend who was in your same situation, but deep down I think she liked it, as a lot of women like a man who ignores them.

But at your age you should be moving on from that to a more mature lifestyle of being married and spending the rest of your life with somebody you will love and who will love you too.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

he probably already has someone else lined up because if he wanted to, he would have contacted you...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Tease him with a non nude sexual picture and write you miss his touch... I'm sure he'll come running

AviatorTom · Answer

If you knew him well as a friends with benefits, you can be very forward. Be blunt and tell him what you want. His response will let you know if that's going to happen.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Just fucking ask and you will probably receive. You're acting all worried about reactions and shit like you're dealing with a woman. We are simple creatures. If we're not, it's probably because that guy is gay or something. 😂

snowboarder720 · Answer

You must invite him to a camping trip. When you ask him to bring out the bag of marshmallows for s’mores you must surprise him with a ritual dance wearing a loincloth and face paint beating war drums and howling at the moon.

Cb142 · Answer

id just talk to him see where he stands and be straight up if he can't be straight up with you i wouldn't waste my time on him

slatyb · Answer

Some people just don't pay all that much attention to text messages. When you see him next, ask him to meet you for lunch/coffee/dinner/whatever.

SoftM · Answer

You don't care whether he is single/chaste or not right now? As in, would not bother you? Or you think/assume/guess he is singke/chaste?

David4358 · Answer

why would he freak out? if this was something you did in the past then just say you want to start up again.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

if he’s not responding then he’s probably not interested

Whatnameisnottaken · Answer

Well he is one lucky man I can tell you that. If a hot, cute girl would hit me up for having sex I would jump on the wall I would be so happy. I guess he is very attractive and good looking. Is he?

Alex8736 · Answer

you have nothing to lose what's the worst that can happen except him saying he doesn't. life is too short

shades777 · Answer

Its easier to get your point across in person, texting and calling a person can be wishy washy

Anonymous · Answer

Send him a seductive message and teasing pic 📸 obviously without your face in it.

Anonymous · Answer

Bro notice how all the women are anonymous. What happened to hoes being honest... that's all we want... honest hoes

AsaKyo · Answer

How about you just find a real boyfriend

Anonymous · Answer

Don’t be thirsty. Look elsewhere

Anonymous · Answer

Contact him again.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Just go ahead. I'm sure he won't be freaked out

Awantika03 · Answer

Try it

In_Trance · Answer

Call him

Anonymous · Answer

Then go talk to him?

Anonymous · Answer

Why don't you get married?

I want to reconnect with an old friends with benefits as we are both single again. Do I keep trying?

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