OLD MEN WITH YOUNG GIRLS relationships?

[Melisserian]

So there is this man that I really really like he is 58 while I am 18. We joke around, laugh and small talk anytime we get the chance. We work in the same building but for 2 totally different companies. We now follow each other on insta and he gets so happy every time I go and meet him in his office to the point were I know he is colleagues and when he is not there we laugh at him and wait for him to come.

I don’t know if I should tell you guys the whole story so that it can be easier for y’all to give your opinion but anyways my questions is: what is the next step? I obviously don’t want to marry him but I would like to go on a date with him and have his phone number so that we can text time to time.

Ps
He knows my age and i know his but I still feel like he is proceeding with caution, and that is good but I wish he was less careful and scared and more direct and possessive.

** last time we talked I was waiting for him at his work and when he came he asked his coworker said: “wow you have a really nice friend that visits.”and he asked if they’re jealous about it.


HOW SHOULD I TAKE IT? What should I do?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It always surprises me, why a woman would want to fuck an old man, when there are so many blood pumpingly hot young guys,

What do you think, what might 58 year old guy possibly find common with an 18 year old girl?

Think about it…

Again…

Again…

And then tell me, other than the possible sexual gratification from that fantasy, does it give you any good feelings to know that this 58 year old man, (who most likely has children older than you) even dares to think that he can get you?

I know I have had lots of older guys be interested at that age and younger and it always grossed me out.

If he has any sons, his son might be a better fit for you.

Think about it, He wants you because of your almost taboo like youth, of he wants it, it means youth is desirable, then why shouldn’t you enjoy the best world has to offer instead of settling for the attention of a man who might even not be able to get it hard before you are 30.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

There’s nothing wrong with old men. It’s just, make sure you’re not used as a new toy for his sexual gratification. Other than that I can’t picture anything else 58 year old man would have in common with an 18 yo.

[Melisserian]

It surprises me that girls would rather be with someone near their age instead of a mature stable older man. I just feel like being with an older man is the quickest way to a stable happy life.

I really don’t want to hear that crappy we will grow together and make mistakes together. I want someone who has been through everything to tell me what to do and what is best for me cause he loves me.

I’m low key a perfectionist so making mistakes is of course never in my plans so not only are older men physically hotter especially if they take good care of theme-selves, but they are mature too and most of the time know exactly what they are doing

[Melisserian]

Me and this man talk about everything, I’m going on a trip too so we talked about that. We talk about me becoming a big girl since I graduated and got my drivers license we talk about work too of course we talk about holidays and many other things

[Melisserian]

I haven’t slept with him and defined never going to sleep with him so that is not going to be a problem I guess

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So you are looking for a father figure, you never plan having sex with him. It’s just a friendship then.

Do you have a father? Because I honestly feel like that’s what you are looking for and no one can do that sadly, no one can be your father other than your actual father.

Others will use you.

[Melisserian]

I have a very present father in my life and I always have🥰

[Alli39]

Def slightly concerned about why this guy is pursuing you and I really hope he is proceeding with caution given your age gap. It's not going to be looked at kindly by society. Next step is be careful. If you really want to make a move that's your prerogative, but please be smart about it. Make sure he's someone safe (and that you're clear on why you find someone 3x your age attractive) and if he agrees to go out with you/asks you out, make sure your date is somewhere public enough to be safe if you need to leave (good advice for all first dates) but private/far enough away that it won't cause you both issues by running into someone you know who won't be understanding or supportive. You're an adult but the gap gap is large enough that you should still be very careful.

[Romeo0071234]

She said that she is pursuing him based on how I read this.. so it seems mutual. Yes there’s a huge gap in age but she’s of age and it seems like she’s more pursing it then he is.. so I’m a bit confused by all this 😂

[DannyUk2017]

You profile says ur 26, but u saying ur 18? Then u must like the "daddy" fantasy, u must be one of the "bad ones"... well you say u want him to come more forward, but he cannot, maybe he has its reasons, because won't sit right to him to be seen by others with a girl that could have been His Daughter. 🤷‍♂️

[Melisserian]

I created the profile a couple of years ago when I was under 18 so I used a fake age then, but yeah know I’m 18😘

[DannyUk2017]

Ohh.. ure a little 😈 aren't you? 😄😄😄🌹

[richardcory]

You are an adult so you are free to choose. If its just for fun and you aren't expecting anything long term, its completely fine. Just be careful not to get into a situation where there is a big power imbalance or where you can't end things if you want to

[Melisserian]

What do you mean by big power imbalance and in what way would I ever end up in that situation

[richardcory]

Lets say you moved in with him because he was a lot wealthier and had a really nice place to live. You quit your job, because it seems pointless. Then a year down the road you realize that you don't have your own money, place to live etc. That even if you get tired of him, it will be difficult for you to leave.

[AviatorTom]

It's perfectly okay to have this guy as a friend, but be careful that he doesn't try to make it more than that. And make sure you spend a lot of time with friends closer to your age.

[Summeroflove]

If you wanna do it. You’re a adult now so. Try it

[SnowedIn]

If you are both happy and your consenting and their isn't some sort of weird power dynamic - go for it. @AviatorTom had a great point of make sure that you still maintain friendships with guys and girls closer to your age.

But, yes, it can work and if you want to, go for it.

[Bricealan]

The large age difference is just that, and I guess girls think it is 'odd' for you to be attracted to a guy that much older. When I was 29, I was dating a girl 19, and I thought that was a big difference. Just take it slow or however you want to take it. Your choice.

[Melisserian]

I don’t understand how girls AREN’T attracted to someone much older that knows how to keep a conversation going, are more experienced, don’t play too much..

[Bricealan]

@Melisserian That will always be a point of contention, with many since some younger girls are attracted the way you are, and I think some of the 'objections' come from those that are jealous of the relationship, wishing they had the same. I have always had the company of younger women, and in one case when I was 30, had a relationship with a woman who was 60.

Go figure?

[Billlewis]

I've occasionally been in non sexual sugar daddy relationships with young women, most of whom had a boyfriend at the time.

[Melisserian]

And would you say that both hot you enjoyed the relationship and were happy

[Billlewis]

Oh, it was incredibly hot, especially because I was so jealous of her boyfriend! Of course, I often bought gifts for him, too.

[molonski2]

Its no big deal , you know each other well , just give him your number and say " would you like to catch up outta here " for a coffee or whatever , because of his age , you need to be the one moving it forward.

No big deal at all , don't overthink it , just do it.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If you are comfortable dating him, then do it, take things slow and not too fast. Because of your age, he wants to warm up to you slowly also he could be shy to get to know him more, you really need to open up communication and get to know him more by all means best wishes !!!

[Melisserian]

Could you give me some tips on what I could do to show him that he has the green light

[Melisserian]

Or things I could say

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Melisserian Always welcome him or invite him to talk with you over coffee or a restraunt, but by all means use security such as never leave any drinks to go use a restroom. Ask him if he would like to go out for dinner. Ask him if he likes to go for a walk in a park. You want to make sure he warms up to you. Tell him you would like to get to know him better. Ask him if he has dated younger ladies. These are some things you could do.

[ShesRad80]

only you know how you feel. you can't spend your whole life worrying about what others think. if you are interested go out. you are both consenting adults. talk , text see what happens you know?

[SnowedIn]

This.

[Melisserian]

I actually asked for his number today with the excuse that I was gonna bring him a donut and didn’t know which one he would like so I was going to send a picture with all the different flavors.

Sent the picture and he didn’t answered after a couple hours I went to meet him with a muffin and said why he hadn’t answered and he said he had no idea where he had kept his phone. We laughed and I was on my way couple hours later he texted that it’s only now he seeing the message and that he is sorry and that he was a bit busy…

So yeah that’s cool I guess… I wonder what then next step is tho

[ShesRad80]

❤❤❤✌ ask him to a movie or something, just go for it

[Romeo0071234]

I agree. Both are of age and single it seems. So I don’t see the issue.

[WonderBell99]

I don't want to be politically correct - this just does not sit right with me. I'm super weirded out by the fact that someone, who could be older than your dad, is romantically interested in you. You should definitely proceed with caution.

[Melisserian]

I really don’t think it’s weird especially when I also find him attractive

[Romeo0071234]

She said she is the one pursing it.. read all the messages. Why is it an issue if that’s what she wants and she’s of age. It doesn’t seem like he’s forcing anything

[Anonymous]

I don't know what you're expecting. He's taking it for what it is. You expect him to give you some older man fantasy? Then ask him for that. Tell him he's old and you're not interested in anything serious "obviously". But you still want him to treat you like that. He might actually comply.

But why would you think he'd voluntarily do this. He's most like not that stupid.

[Melisserian]

Voluntarily do what?

[Opinion Owner]

Comply with your wishes of giving you your fantasy.

[normalice]

Guys that age who have any relationship interests with girls your age are notoriously immature. If you go through with it you will outgrow him. If it's just for sex it's possibly fine, though.

[Melisserian]

For his age he is extremely flirty and like confusing at the same time, I mean like I followed him on insta and he accepted but sent no request. He sent a request 2 days after and removed it immediately and I was devastated lol. After a week I saw him outside and we quickly greeted each other and 2 days or so after that he sent the request on it

[Melisserian]

I do find it interesting the way you used the word notoriously. Could you make an example or like expand :))

[normalice]

The guys like that that I've met - and I was in the army for 6 years so I met a lot of them - all think and act like they are still in high school. Every single relationship started with a doe eyed teenager ended in her growing up but him trying very hard not to. Men's second deepest despair is the relentless slide towards old age and we all cope with it in different ways - simply refusing to accept it is certianly one of them.

[Melisserian]

I always thought about it like he is older so in a way he knows what’s best for me and just simply has more life experience and therefore help me easily…

What’s men first deepest despair then?

[Melisserian]

By the way did you ever think that in those relationships you saw between the older man and the “doe eyed teenager” was love. Like maybe not from both sides but do you think any of them was really in love?

[normalice]

I think the girls were and the guys took advantage of that.

Men's first despair is not enough sex.

[WhitneySnow]

I think he likes you and it sounds like you like him but that is a big age gap. Maybe better for you guys to be just friends?

[Melisserian]

Maybe…

[slatyb]

Just ask him to dinner. Here's not going to ask you because of the age difference. "I really like talking to you. Would you like to go to dinner sometime?"

[PeteA380]

As far as I go, all of dating questions are a matter of readiness for marriage and for pregnancy.
There isn't much more to it (except to waste time on various angry propaganda sources and crappy ideas)

[DarkLegacy]

ust go for it, but you age on your profile says 26

[Melisserian]

Yeah I know, I made the account a couple of years ago when I was under 18 so I used a fake age then. But yeah I turned 18 this year.

I’ll see if there is way I can change it 😘

[Jerre]

I am 52 and have dated many 18+ girls, always a great time. Go out with him and enjoy yourself.

[Melisserian]

Cool love that. Who normally showed interest first?

[Jerre]

Usually the girl. She has heard about me from other girls.

[VforVindication]

Lucky guy if you are attractive. He has won the jack pot if he gets you and you are very attractive.

[Melisserian]

He is lucky

[Felca]

Its fine, i can say it is a kinda o fetish maybe, i already wen throught this, if you wanna talk, send me a message

[Melisserian]

Would love that

[Felca]

Just DM me ☺️

[Luckycharms12]

Of course he like young woman like car that got the cream.

[Melisserian]

I hope so, a friend said that a 58 yeard old man that gets attention from somebody who is 40 years younger must be very, extremely flattered

[Luckycharms12]

Ya but would really want 60 year old fucking nah rather someone younger and cute but is fun to tease

[NYlatefun]

I may be biased but I’ve had many relationships like that and they worked well. You do you!

[Agape93]

Long as you're both adults, it's fine.

[eagle1951]

your older enough to make up your own mind. this is what's called being an adult.

[VikingWarLord]

That's perfectly normal, and the way it should be

[Melisserian]

I just wish he was more sure of himself

[Cheerfull009]

Have sex with him, he will physically satisfy you

[ROGERTC1]

I am 71 and my girlfriend is 70. Lovew her.

[Melisserian]

Good you should marry her I think is time?

[FeelinBlue]

I don't see anything wrong with it at all.

[Melisserian]

This!!!

[Provingdatruth]

That’s downright disgusting!

[leahzrc]

it is very creepy

[BarryLiverstone]

No you are 26

[Melisserian]

I did this account when I was under 18 so I wrote 24 or sum

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh you lied

[CrimsonAngel09]

That was illegal.

[Melisserian]

Arrest me

[Melisserian]

Sue me😂😅

[riverrat3]

Go with it

[Melisserian]

Yeah!! But what should I do next to show him that I’m interested; I don’t wanna be too direct and I feel like he is the one that has to make the move. I understand why he has to be careful tho but at the same time why is he SOOO careful like do something

[riverrat3]

Do you get off work at the same time

[Melisserian]

Not really like I see him working during my lunch break mostly, also sometimes he starts his shift and I finish.

[riverrat3]

Tell him you would like to see him away from work and give him your number

[Melisserian]

I’m low key nervous tho

[riverrat3]

He may say no, or not respond, but is anything happening now. My only regrets of my past are what I did not do

[Melisserian]

That’s true at the end of the day the worse thing that could happen is him saying no tbh

[riverrat3]

Right and you could still be friends

[riverrat3]

He may think the age gap is too big, that may be holding him back

[Melisserian]

But that’s exactly what I don’t want him to think cause i don’t think the age gap is that big and tbh who cares

[riverrat3]

You may need to let him know it is a non issue

[Melisserian]

Mmm I’ll see

[riverrat3]

He may think you think it is an issue

[riverrat3]

Communication is key

[Melisserian]

But like I’m constantly happy when I’m with him joke and you know as I mentioned earlier he asked his workmates if they’re jealous of how often I come and greet him and all that

[riverrat3]

Without mentioning age, tell him you would like to spend time away from work site

[Melisserian]

That I could do, maybe like ask him to have lunch break with me to start with

[riverrat3]

Right

[riverrat3]

Touch him in innocent places

[Melisserian]

We’ve hugged a couple times one of them being extremely long and he talking in my ear. But then it’s a bit hard to touch him since there is this big desk that divides us. But last time we talked he came straight to me and caressed my hands🥰

[riverrat3]

You can do this

[Melisserian]

I’ll se him in like 12 hours so I’ll try my best

[riverrat3]

You can do it