What's the worst backhanded compliment you've ever received?

[lilBigPotato]

Intentional or unintentional

[BunBun369]

Well to shed some light on the interesting situation with the man I have been with for 10 years lol he always tells me I look good until I open my mouth! 🤦🏽‍♀️🤣😂🙋🏽‍♀️👀🤔. I just say a lot of throwed off shit. That he doesn't expect ever. He sometimes looks at me like a little cute puppy that gets kinda confused and tilts his head to one side and then the other. 😇

But 10 years a long time to just be dry ass miserable. Lol AND keep staying around doing the dishes. And working and hanging out.
So... I figure he will one day stop saying it, Or I will come home and find his lifeless body hanging off the side of the dish sink with all the silverware at the bottom unfinished. Cuz who likes washing dishes period let alone silverware? And he a petty piece of shit 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️😂😂🤣😂

[NotTacocaT6969]

A guy once told me “You have such an awesome personality compared to the hot chicks and OH MY GOD THAT CAME OUT WRONG!”

[lilBigPotato]

Ou h 🤣

[HiveBee]

Lmao I can relate to him though. Sometimes the hot chicks are a lot less desirable than another girl who doesn't go into category "hot chick."

That doesn't mean you're not hot though. Hot chicks probably requires that the girls are fanatic about style and makeup and purses and looking hot all the time at all costs.

That doesn't make her more desirable or better. Often times I know I fall madly in love with one girl who is objectively less hot than other girls who like me.

But I prefer this one over here.

It's goof right? Lol.

[Mangospacho]

That just sounds like a pickup line to use on a “hot chick” . He basically called you a “hot chick” in a roundabout kinda way.

[Anonymous]

Not really but I've witnessed girls get mad because all they see when other people speak is back handed or sneaky insults.

It happens all the time. I've been working with women for years. They are constantly doing battle in the verbal arena of subtle insults.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Can you explain what a backhanded compliment is because it sounds a lot like negging or gaslighting which I use frequently to have sex with women

I’ll say something like “ Bowlegged girls are always pretty “

very similar to training animals with a stick and a treat

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 I used to get a lot of that and I don’t take them seriously anymore. It’s not on me. It’s on them. They’re just jealous. Don’t let them get you down.

[Rei13]

You’re pretty for a fat girl or something along those lines. That I had a pretty face but my stomach was too big. Or the “I really like your personality/you have a great personality”, which is good cause I like mine too but it was in relation to trying to find a compliment that had nothing to do with my appearance

[Nikki1989]

It is usually something to do with my boobs. It is typically a compliment in one way, but it can also be taken as an insult.

[spartan55]

How do insult and compliment boobs at the same time?

[Zachgoat308]

nice fake boobs

[spartan55]

@zachgoat308
Good one... probably 90/10 insult 😂

[Nikki1989]

@spartan55 When they ask if they are real.

[spartan55]

@Nikki1989
That's a very dumb comment to make because it could easily go both ways. Why risk it? Besides, I'm not even a boob guy and I've guessed wrong only a few times.

[Rei13]

Haha usually for me I would get unsolicited comments from other girls about my boobs and how they’re going to sag when I get older and give me back problems. Didn’t even waste time throwing a compliment in there and didn’t even have the prerequisite of me asking 😂

[Zachgoat308]

@Rei13 your forehead is bigger than your boobs

[spartan55]

@Rei13
I thought women supported each other? 😂 😂 Seriously though, sorry you went through that. I mean, how hard is it to refrain from commenting on someone else's body? That's something I would never do.

[Rei13]

@Zachgoat308 what is with the forehead comment? So unnecessary

[Rei13]

@spartan55 it depends on the person lmao. But honestly I agree, I don’t understand why people have to make unnecessary comments in general. I would never do that to someone else

[charrissanextdoor]

You’re so pretty and you got a little something something for an Asian 🙃

generally speaking just give a compliment, don’t have to compare you to someone or something else that you typically see. It’s offensive and you won’t get anywhere with those backhand compliments.

[MissusFluffyPants]

My sons primary school teacher met his little sister for the first time and with a surprised look said

“Oh! YOU have very good looking children?”

It”s a good job I’ve stopped worrying about other peoples opinions of me.

[Anonymous]

She told me "I didn't find you attractive when I first met you". In her head I think she thought she was complimenting me. So I returned the favor and said, "I didn't find you attractive when I first met you either... and I still don't".😆😆😆

[Zatsuma]

You are really good looking 😊 ... for your age 😳😡

[valentina4eva]

him: “wow! ur not as dumb as u look!”
me: 😂😂😭😭


however (from a diff guy) i’ve also got: “ur not pretty enough to be this dumb”


😅😅🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[19magic]

You're actually quite interesting, considered you're a girl
Or
For a girl, your surprisingly good at games.

[lilBigPotato]

Oh I hate those... 😒

[ta-ra]

Wow you're so smart!. . for a girl

You're so nice! ... Never would have thought that by looking at you

And so many more 😂

[Sasha0426]

I had a teacher say the first one to me once. Don’t know if he was joking 😅

[ta-ra]

A teacher? What an ass! 😂

[beautyjoyfover200]

“ Your high maintenance”
I believe it was supposed to be an insult during that time, but to me i take it as compliment no matter what.

[Wonderingguyy]

“Oh wow You’re actually smart”
And
“I wish I was brave enough to wear that”

[scentoflavender]

"You have really good teeth for such a dirty mouth"
Side note, it was a reference to my proclivity to cuss, not over stuff.

[electromagnetic]

My sister said, the front of my massive forehead and for extra memory space. That’s why I never forget anything.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I can’t remember. I am sure I have received quite a few. But I don’t want to spend my energy on recalling negative things.

[Spongebobssocks]

That I look like Michael Jackson and Jesus😭😭😂

[Sasha0426]

I’m sorry, I laughed at this 🤣🤣🤣

[Sasha0426]

I mean, imagine Jesus dancing like Michael Jackson. That would be cool.

[Spongebobssocks]

@Sasha0426 hahahha yesss😭😂

[catarecute]

you who are smart meaning i dont think you are smart

[Datboi65]

"You sound quite articulate" and it was definitely racially motivated.

[MementoMori777]

Good question but I don't think I got any, or I can't think of one rn 🤔

[Kayayy]

You look good now, with all the weight that you lost, but I liked you better fat.

This was a customer of ours, that came into my work

[Clyde_123]

"Oh wow I never thought you're good at English"
"You look fat but you're prettier now than before"

[love_conquers_lust]

Anything can be backhanded with wnough creativity

[gothbxtch]

“you would be really pretty if you didn’t dress like that”

[LiamJHayden]

"You look like Jim Caviezel, only younger and not as good looking."

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

"You're the kind of guy I'd marry, not date."

[Sasha0426]

Does that mean they’ll jump right into marrying you or what? I’m confused 😅

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

@Sasha0426 Generally, that means "You're boring, but I'll keep you in mind if things don't work out with the guys I'm actually into / I can't lock them down."

[Sasha0426]

Oh! That makes more sense. Damn 😅

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

@Sasha0426 Yeah, it's not a compliment, and they know it isn't. 😒

[dolemite58]

“you’re so handsome now” so i wasn’t before? 🙄

[spartan55]

Your handsomeness had to spend time in the minors. 😁😁

[Pohjolan]

He is much stronger than what he looks like.

[Anonymous]

You’re a nice person, even though you have a RBF

[Anonymous]

"You look like you were very handsome when you were younger"

[Paris13]

I am with @Pinay_ako xxoo

[Pinay_ako]

Thanks baby girl

[Paris13]

@Pinay_ako Welcome, sweetheart. xxoo

[Anonymous]

"You are beautiful, don't let it get to your head"

[sheenagwapa]

i never received backhanded compliment irl

[Danny_dan92]

Backhanded compliment?

[Sasha0426]

They’ll give you a compliment and then insult you at the same time.

[jacob33131]

“Aww it’s so little and cute”.

[spartan55]

Oh no...

[Becky03_]

Your pretty for a “black woman”.

[HMZ444]

Never received any