I wanna talk to a girl in my class but I’m unsure whether she likes me and I’m a bit nervous, how should I approach it?

[Gluggerz]

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It’s in college and we’re in a English class on Monday only.

[overthinkergirl]

you’re the same age as me! anyways just ask her something maybe you can first start talking a little and themn ask her out or or ask her is she has any interest in you. maybe you can firstly just ask her somethung basic about lecture or what is for homework or sth:)

[Gluggerz]

Okay I’ll try, I haven’t talked to her yet but last Monday she was looking at me during the class. When she had to move table she sat near me and was looking at me during the class when I wasn’t looking. She sometimes would look at me whilst adjusting her hair or whilst I was talking to someone else on that table. Also I saw her whilst walking around and smiled at her and she smiled back. She would sometimes look at my work and what I wrote down. Also today I accidentally locked eyes with her when looking around so could she of been looking at me before.

[overthinkergirl]

ooo that’s cute and thing everything is going in the right way and slow enough:))

[Gluggerz]

So they seem like positive signs

[overthinkergirl]

yeah you wrote a lot of positive signs that she likes you and i hope everything goes in the right way just dont be to quick cause you may scare hear

[Gluggerz]

Yeah tbh I’m nervous about talking to her and I haven’t done it yet. Not really sure how I should start talking to her, the only time I have was when someone else on the table was asking about what courses we were doing and I asked her what course she was doing.

[overthinkergirl]

yeah just ask her about school first and that you can ask her how is she or how was her day

[Gluggerz]

Do u think I should sit at the table that she usually sits at or just try and talk to her after class

[overthinkergirl]

you can try talk to her! you got this!

[Gluggerz]

Thank you :) should I try and sit at the table she usually sits at or talk after class

[overthinkergirl]

as a said you should talk to her

[Gluggerz]

Yeah I’ll try, thanks anyway

[smilelots]

What’s the worst thing that can happen she doesn’t talk to you or she doesn’t says leave me alone I’m not interested etc. you never know until you try so try and keep trying with her be with her or with another woman or girl depending on your age and what you prefer to call them never give up because if you don’t try, it may be very hard for you to have a relationship unless somebody comes running after you

[Gluggerz]

It’s just idrk what to say 100%

[smilelots]

Well, the first thing you can say is hello and if you know any of the classes that she is taking, you can ask a few questions about that whether you’re trying to help her or whether she can help you you can complement her on what she is wearing or her beautiful smile or how soft and silky your hair looks Start small keep it simple and try to read off her reactions. Women like to be with fun guys. If you can make her laugh, that will go along way.

[Gluggerz]

Im pretty sure she’s doing animal care (I’m in college by the way)

[Anonymous]

The only way to find out is to go talk to her and see how it goes. Feeling nervous is normal, but don't let it stop you.

[Gluggerz]

Just not 100% sure what to say tho

[BarryLiverstone]

What do you know about her?

[Gluggerz]

Nothing, I wanna talk to her and that’s why I’m asking how I should approach or talk to her

[Gluggerz]

If u look at my other post on here, it says about how she looks at me in class and stuff like that

[BarryLiverstone]

You then gotta find something in common and talk to her about it. You are both in English class. Can’t you say hi and ask her what she thinks about the class so far?

[Gluggerz]

I guess I’d have to sit at the same table as her cos she sits at the same table everytine

[BarryLiverstone]

No need. Just say hi after the class

[BarryLiverstone]

Here is the truth for you. Knowing how to approach someone new and break the ice is a skill no one is born with. So just try with her but try with other people. The more you try to talk to new people the easier it gets. If you are fearful and wait for them, then you will not be talking

[Gluggerz]

Okay what should I say after the hi stage

[Gluggerz]

Should I get her number or snap or something

[BarryLiverstone]

No need to get her number right away because you are seeing her each week in class.

Don’t go in with a goal of getting her number.. you freeze up and can’t be yourself. Instead just say hi and say how you feel the class is going or even look at something you can both see and comment on it.

That way you have a quick talk and the next week you see her then you can say hi and show her that you can remember her name or things you just talked about.

Don’t ask for her number until you have learned 3 things unique about her and know of something you two have in common

That’s lots of instructions , any questions?

[Gluggerz]

I appreciate it a lot, so I just talk to her after class and not sit at her table?

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya. You just wanna get used to talking to her there at class. I mean just because she’s attractive.. you could talk to her and if she’s got a bad personality why ask for her number?

[BarryLiverstone]

also of you notice she’s got a friend talk to them also. Be friendly

[Gluggerz]

So talk to her after class and in class

[BarryLiverstone]

Yup. And like I said talk to other people. You are in college.. talk to lots of people and make friends.

[Gluggerz]

Hopefully after talking to her I’ll be able to talk to other girls. (And people)

[BarryLiverstone]

Because in addition to increasing your network of contacts. If you talk to a girl romantically and she sees you have friends that’s boosting your value. She will know you can be resourceful and not boring

[BarryLiverstone]

Here’s a homework assignment if you want. This week talk to 5 new people. Doesn’t matter what you say. Just break the ice with 5. Next week do the same. Like I said it’s a skill and it gets easier every time you try.

[Gluggerz]

I partly know how to but how would I talk to her romantically

[Gluggerz]

I sort of know how to but how should I talk to her romantically and when should i

[BarryLiverstone]

In public and especially when you first meet her you don’t be romantic. You can flirt a bit. But remember that she is judging you from the first interaction. So if you are romantic too early when she’s a stranger then she knows you will do that with other girls.

Instead just focus more on getting to know her over the weeks of class and being kind. The romance would start once she’s earned some of your attention via one on one talking like socials or a date

[BarryLiverstone]

I’ll give you an example. Let’s say you notice that she’s always wearing a certain clothing brand. Then one week she doesn’t wear it. Well you can tease/flirt and ask her if it was laundry day. That’s showing you pay attention to her style but isn’t too harmful to her personally

[Gluggerz]

Ur good at this stuff, what if after class she leaves before me should I try and catch up to her to say hi and it sounds stupid but how would I be flirty with her anyway

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. Don’t literally chase her down. That’s creepy.

Flirting is a mix of teasing and compliments. It should be fun, can involve hints, and it’s another skill you should start learning. If you are curious find some yt vids or ask your friends for examples.

[Gluggerz]

Yeah obviously not chasing her down, I know that 😂, sorry I forgot but should I talk to her by sitting at her table or after class

[BarryLiverstone]

Both. I mean I’m not in your class so don’t know how much time you all have to talk. But you aren’t talking now right?

[BarryLiverstone]

I just suggested talking after class because if you try to talk during class she may feel distracted as she’s trying to focus on the class and learning.

[Gluggerz]

I haven’t talked to her yet but last Monday she was looking at me during the class. When she had to move table she sat near me and was looking at me during the class when I wasn’t looking. She sometimes would look at me whilst adjusting her hair or whilst I was talking to someone else on that table. Also I saw her whilst walking around and smiled at her and she smiled back. She would sometimes look at my work and what I wrote down. Also today I accidentally locked eyes with her when looking around so could she of been looking at me before.

[Gluggerz]

I don't know if this means anything rlly but what would u take from it

[In_Trance]

Talk to her