Not too long ago, I met a guy my age on a cruise. I didn't talk to him at first, but my friend got his snap for me. I added him on snapchat, and we mostly just exchange snaps. I've tried starting some conversations with a simple "hi," but they tend to die out quickly without much substance. Last conversation he asked what I was doing since I had asked him first, and I said I’m with a friend and he just said “cool” leaving no room for another topic. I make small comments on his snaps sometimes by giving him compliments and he does the same but it’s no conversation starter, just a thank you and back to snapping.
My goal is to get to know him well enough to eventually suggest meeting up, but I want to avoid asking weird or irrelevant questions. Once we've had a decent chat, it's easier to keep the conversation going by referring back to what we've discussed. It's tough when things don't progress. I know I’m being too critical but I don’t want to mess things up.
Any ideas for more interesting conversation starters? I don't want to keep saying "hi" without any real progress.
My goal is to get to know him well enough to eventually suggest meeting up, but I want to avoid asking weird or irrelevant questions. Once we've had a decent chat, it's easier to keep the conversation going by referring back to what we've discussed. It's tough when things don't progress. I know I’m being too critical but I don’t want to mess things up.
Any ideas for more interesting conversation starters? I don't want to keep saying "hi" without any real progress.
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Hey, starting conversations online can definitely be tricky, especially with someone you barely know. A few things you could try:
- Comment on his latest snap story in more depth than just "cool." Ask a question to get him talking, like "Did you have fun at the party? Looked like you were all cracking up!"
- Find common interests you can discuss further. If he mentions liking a certain sport, ask a gameplay/score question. Bring up a new movie or song you both might dig.
- Get more personal without being too heavy. Compliment his smile in a snap and say something like "You should show those pearly whites more!" Flirty banter can help loosen things up.
- Suggest moving the chat to another app like Instagram where you can DM back and forth easier. Snap convos die quick but IG leaves the chat there.
- If all else fails, just straight up say you enjoy talking to him and want to meet up for lunch sometime to get to know each other better. What's the worst that could happen, right?
Hope some of those ideas help spark longer talks! Keep it light and fun for now. You got this sis 👊
Well have you tried doing the hot potato shit when you start a conversation and hot potato all the hard responses to him? For example, you say hello, he response then ask him questions about himself and he technically has all the hard responses, you just gotta ask questions, this will also show you real quick if he isn't interest if his behavior in replying doesn't change, if they remain short and are still convo killers by all means just move on, he isn't interested, I can assure you that you'll waste a lot of time if you keep pushing for interest and never receive any.
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