Let's play. Assume you are single. In the bar/restaurant/fast food/whatever you see woman/man who catches your eye. What would you do?

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As written above, let's assume you are single. It's just a game, so please just describe how you would act in such a situation?

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

That’s a lot of variation in terrain. A bar is more conducive to a cold approach than a fast food joint. It’s common for a woman to be there alone at a bar and her be willing to meet a stranger - that’s kind of that bars are for, whereas her trying ti grab a quick lunch may be less so.

In any case if she’s transmitting those vibe & signals that she’s open to meet someone and particularly if there’s been eye contact and smiles, then my best strategy has always been to simply walk over and say hello. I usually throw in a “You look like somebody I wanted to meet.” and often a non-physical compliment maybe about her clothes, choice in drink, or something else. Maybe a smile or non-sexual thing like nails, hair, etc. NEVER her figure or body. That never seems to work to me. Then, after breaking the ice I have a moment into reassess if I misread her and should politely leave or ask if she’s waiting for someone. I always found that was the least pressuring way to be invited to stay since it give her an easy out if she wants one and isn’t forceful like asking to sit next to her.
What do you think of my technique?

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I walk over and introduce myself. Then, it depends on where we are...

Bar - I offer to buy her a drink.

Restaurant - I offer to dine with her, "I hate dining alone."

Fast food - I order exactly what she orders, and ask her to join me for a picnic outside.

RoseySarah · Answer

Depends how single I am. Might just be bi and look at the girls or just wait for the guys to make a move. Really so suck at that 😭

BadApple69 · Answer

Regardless of where the location is I've got the gift of gab. I can talk about anything and I'm very quick-witted.
Grocery store I'll talk to ladies in the checkout line. “Oh, I see you have pickled octopus... Is that any good? I've always wanted to try that.” no matter where or when it starts with a conversation. Once started you need to be quick enough to keep it going no matter what her answer is to the questions. And for me, keeping the questions simple and about her drink, her food, her car or dress... Something that she won't mind answering. Build trust before a bit then introduce yourself.

Iron_Man · Answer

When I was single, I never did anything I’ve been brainwashed by my sister and female cousin, never to bother women they didn’t actually tell me that, but from their stories complaining about men both of them when they used to look after me like babysitting when I was a kid and when I was older my cousin came over a lot and would just hang out. I would hear one story after another complaining about men calling them pigs and they would say can you believe the nerve of that guy. I was also very shy so that might’ve been a part of it to.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Those aren’t my scenes. I don’t drink. I don’t like cold approaching for a date.

What I have done is patroned a burrito joint and gradually chatted up one girl who worked there week after week. She told me quite a bit about herself. We never went out. She was transferred or left soon after showing up with a huge shiner on her eye. She said she’d gotten into a fight with another girl related to the father of her kid. I don’t recall what the fight was about. I couldn’t offer her a place of refuge but she did say she was okay living with her mother. Never learned what became of her.

But, getting to know someone in their presence does wonders.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Waiting to get drunk so i can make courage for myself... Otherwise she might start shouting at me that i'm a Perv, Loser, Creep and "i've seen her as easy prey"...
Saying this from Personal Experience! 🤷‍♂️😅

Altheavas · Answer

This is a tricky question, it really all depends on the vibe you’re getting and the person. I’ve done all of the options, I rather not show interest first, cause it will be much harder to study the person.

exitseven · Answer

I would watch her for a while to see if she is with somebody who might be a boyfriend. If she was alone or with another girl I would quietly go over and introduce myself.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

Smile and introduce myself, if she reciprocates the eye contact.

Anonymous · Answer

I would do nothing. None of those places are good places to get women. Additionally, additionally approaching the opposite sex in this day and age is a good way to get falsely accused of rape or sexual harassment.. In the cost benefit analysis, doing anything in those situations, the risk out weighs the potential reward.. So I'd do absolutely nothing.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

It’s a NO BRAINER & I’ll walk up to her & say the following. If Covid doesn’t take you out can I?

Unycorn · Answer

First look, if He wears a ring and is married. Second Look - send a Smile, If He don't wears a ring... Then depends what he does

Saramad_Hill · Answer

Sneak a few glances, admire them from afar. That is literally it.

If they're closer to me, then I'll do anything I can to avoid catching their attention. Sneaking glances are banned at this point. I am a background character now.

sage2021 · Answer

Usually the guy would wait a little while after our eyes 👀 met. Then he would just come over to my table and introduce himself and sit down and we'd start talking.

Tim2nice · Answer

I would talk to her and let her know I like her.

Lionman95 · Answer

I wouldn´t react at all. I´d probably assume she´s taken and keep eating or drinking. A woman catching my attention isn´t enough to get me going since it´s nothing special.

Andres77 · Answer

Wonder what she smells like, maybe smile and move on with my day

slatyb · Answer

I would see if I could catch hers too. If I did, I would go say something non-threatening like "Hi?" If she was avoiding eye contact I would leave her alone.

Jennz6 · Answer

I’m not going to let him notice that I’m looking.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Not really the time or place. Cold public approaches are much too awkward for me. I’ll sneak a glance or two if she’s really attractive and move on with my day.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Say he's attractive to my friends and either hide in a corner or down a shot and introduce myself

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing, I don't want to get executed by a MeToo firing squad

Sasha0426 · Answer

I wouldn’t do anything. I would just eat/drink and leave.

Anonymous · Answer

Last time I did that it turns out she was 16. So approaching women is something I'm going to hold off on

Kelly6 · Answer

i would stare at him and smile if he does same, i would go to him and flirt

Djaay · Answer

Keep on just being me and continue my business there

CubaPirate · Answer

Smile and politely say hello

BLP11520 · Answer

Smile and introduce myself

Joker_ · Answer

I don't want to play this game

Worst · Answer

Have sex with every man I see

Amiapowerlessman · Answer

Wave and say hi

goodboy88589 · Answer

I like to have a date with her

jimmy2 · Answer

Hi there may I ask you to be with me

justtryingthistime · Answer

Ignore I every saw her and suppress the memory

Adogdog · Answer

Probably nothing 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Slim57 · Answer

Nothing

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