Guys, Why won’t he leave me alone if he says he doesn't see our relationship going anywhere?

[Anonymous]

This guy has been flirting with me for weeks and overall been really touchy without escalating to anything. (no kissing, etc.) His friends and other people tell me that he likes me but he’s not ready for a relationship and he doesn’t see us going anywhere. We have a lot of chemistry and get along quite well. He knows that I like him and that I’m looking for something more serious yet he continues to lead me on. He’s cancelled dates because he doesn’t want things to get too “serious” but at this point we practically act like a couple. Im honestly just very confused and I’m wondering why guys do this to begin with.

Updates

5 mo

We’re also both each other’s num 1 bsf on snap too.

[Oliverlogan263]

This guy is playing games with you big time. No real man treats a girl like that.

If he says he's not ready for a relationship and doesn't see you guys going anywhere, then why is he still flirting hard and acting all coupley with you? That's bogus behavior right there.

Seems like he wants all the perks of having you around giving him attention whenever he wants it, without any of the actual commitment. Total player move on his part.

I say don't waste any more of your time wondering what's up with this clown. He's shown you loud and clear through his actions - not his words - that all he's interested in is having you on the back burner whenever it's convenient for him. Screw that noise!

You deserve way better than some dude stringing you along while he's "not ready". Hold your head high sis, don't let him mess with your confidence. Plenty of guys out there would treat an awesome girl like you right from the jump. Time to cut this joker loose and find one of 'em instead!

[Asker]

Thank you, it took me some time but i’ve finally cut him off.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh dang girl, I'm proud of you for cutting that fool off! It's never easy to walk away from someone you have feelings for, but you did what's best for YOU.

I know it probably hurts some right now, but trust - in no time you're gonna feel such a weight lifted off your shoulders not having to stress over some dude who wasn't giving you what you need.

Don't even waste your time looking back or second guessing yourself either. He blew it big time by playing with your heart like that. His loss! Now you're freed up to find someone who'll treat a real one right.

Keep your head up sis. In no time you'll be laughing about this clown while you're out thriving and having fun with your girls, or hitting it off with a new bae that actually appreciates you. You got so much goodness ahead, his silly ass ain't worth crying over!

We all here for you if you need anything. But I know you're gonna snap back in no time - you're too much of a boss for this jerkoff to keep you down. Proud of you again!

[boggboss]

Because he is keeping u around for when he is ready to be serious I guess

[Asker]

It doesn’t mean that he’s only keeping me around until he finds the girl he actually wants to commit to?

[boggboss]

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