Does he really want me to leave him alone?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been having arguments kinda and he said he’s got a lot going on in life… so I asked him if he wanted me to leave him alone… and his response was don’t ask me cuz imma say yeah.. then told me to do what it is I feel I want to do.. It’s a newish connection. Probably like 2 months now.

[SteveSmith1985]

This sounds like a situation where... you (indeed) should wait for things to cool off a bit before making that decision. He doesn't know. But he knows he's not in the right mindset to be able to answer that properly. He sees that he is perhaps going to make a decision he regrets in anger. That's actually where he's "at".

So, you should, (at least) sleep on it. THen you do obviously need to have a conversation with him about your relationship. But no good comes from trying to force decisions to be made in-anger. Talk with cooler-heads so that you get a true picture of what he really wants (and what you really want too) 🙂

[summiter]

I don't think it is going to get better until you have an honest talk with him about it. Is it affecting your sex life with him also?

[Asker]

No. Basically I had got into my feelings and accused him of playing me.. And then he was saying that I was putting what others had done to me onto him and he didn’t wanna deal with that.

[Anonymous]

Never make a man tell you more than once that he doesn’t want you. Don’t let things get to a point where he’s showing it through his actions, whether it’s verbal or less effort in general. I saw in another comment that this situation is new, so you should have no problem washing your hands of him rather than stick around and wait for him to disrespect you any more than he already has.

[swettannie]

You're loosing your time with him