Sometimes you have to know when to let something go, even if for the moment. You both agree for the moment now is not the right time. If he loved you and had to make the decision due to a situation or whatever I'm sure his feelings didn't just die away and that is why he keeps talking to you like usual. It is almost like you both can't help what forced you apart.
I don't think you should give him ultimatum like that. However, if it is difficult for you to accept things the way they are maybe, you need more space. You have to make a choice as obviously it is affecting you. The choices are take a break from even the friendship and give each other space. Or remain his friend and I'm not sure what why he is talking to you that is the same but just let him know, since we are not in a relationship I prefer you don't talk in such and such a manner.
It is like you two are broken up but holding on making it not official, but it is official at the same time. Something has to change, and again you might need space. With space you never know if he meets someone else. But you two are holding and someone needs to let go if it is not going to be a relationship.
It would be great if you two want to be together just separate temporary and pick up again when everything is better, if possible.
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You can always ask him straight up, in 2 ways. 1. Is there a reason why you don't want to be in a relationship with me? Will there be "us" again sometime in the near future?
2. Maybe we should cut contact and not talk to each other anymore
Now if you ask him number 1. And he says that yes you guys will be back together, you don't need to use number 2. But if he just wants to talk to you like nothing happened, then tell him number 2.
You will need to move on if he doesn't want a future with you, and the only way you can do that is by cutting communication from him.
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Well, you already said you understand it's not the right time for you two to be together so it sounds lie you know why he isn't with you. I think what's bothering you is that you can't control that you aren't together. You're playing make believe in your head. If he doesn't want a relationship with you, then you have to tell him not to talk to you in certain way and stick with it, tell him to leave you alone, or keep talking like you are, but whatever you decide, you need to stick with it. The only thing men hate worse than nagging is a girl that plays games.
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