When a stranger of the opposite sex compliments you, do you take that as they're interested?

[7Phoenix7]

I like giving compliments where they're due, whether it's a man or woman. But sometimes guys assume that I'm flirting.

If a woman compliments you in a store or something, do you usually think it's because she's interested?

[Sparkie460]

It all depends on what they say and how they say it. It's the tone of their voice that changes it from a regular compliment to a flirty compliment.

[7Phoenix7]

Exactly I agree

[Sparkie460]

Thanks for the mho

[7Phoenix7]

You're welcome 😊

[MrCommodore]

No, definitely not. Maybe if she gives me sustained compliments over several meetings, but not a once off compliment.

[7Phoenix7]

Yea definitely.

So like say you are both standing next to each other in an aisle, and she says something like, "wow, you look good." Because ur in a suit. Or she gives you a thumbs up and says "you look handsome" while looking at your suit. Is that flirty to you?

[MrCommodore]

Yeah its probably slightly flirty, but in a playful way, not necessarily that she actually wants to get it on with me. Like women sometimes will say "You look handsome in thst suit", but it doesn't mean anything.

[MrCommodore]

Can I ask what type a compliment is definitely flirting by you?

[7Phoenix7]

If I'm intentionally flirting, I'll use different tones and facial expressions. Like, "you look good.."



As opposed to, "you look good"



And when I flirt, I'll continue talking to him about random stuff and eventually ask for his number or he'll ask for mine first lol

[MrCommodore]

😅. Very direct. I wouldn't compliment a woman I'm interested in like that, not unless we are dating already. If I do compliment, it would be very subtle... playing it cool 😎. I'd probably tease a little if interested.

[7Phoenix7]

Lol Yea this is how I am if I find him really attractive. ill go back n forth from that to just playful and getting to know him. But I think I am pretty naturally flirtatious

And i think that's good, playing it cool. Especially being a guy

[MrCommodore]

Yeah playing it cool definitely helps build that tension, like good tension, chemistry

[7Phoenix7]

Yea I like that as well. You talking about chemistry is making me wanna post a question about it lol

[MrCommodore]

Cool, glad I inspired you 😎 😂

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope, I just take that as them being nice.

[bobinnes00]

I think a woman approaching me and giving me a compliment couldn't be taken as interest unless the interaction continued and there was some flirty back and forth banter perhaps but as it's never happened to me it's only a guess.

However to understand men's thinking on this, I often quote the following:

In the book The Female Brain, Dr. Louann Brizendine, writes:

“Men have two and a half times the brain space devoted to sexual drive as women. Sexual thoughts float through a man’s brain many times each day on average. Much less through a woman’s. Women can interact with men in a friendly manner without any sexual thoughts floating around in their brain.”

Biologically, men are programmed to view most interactions with the opposite sex as sexual interactions, whereas women do not.
This results in a disconnect between how we communicate with one another-especially in the initial part of the interaction.”

I think that as women tend not to approach men they are interested in because that is generally viewed as the man's role by society, instead women give vague ambiguous signals that men are supposed to decipher as inviting an approach, most men could probably be forgiven for thinking, why on earth would a woman approach me and compliment me if there wasn't some level of interest?

[BoopBoopBeep]

No it's just a compliment. Unless it's like "nice package" which is probably not a reflection on the bag of kitten treats I am carrying. That one I'd write off as interested. I try to say something nice about 5 people a day (if I see 5 people). I'd never say some of the stuff women have said to me, so if it's something I would say, it's just a compliment. If it's something explicit, it's probably more.

[7Phoenix7]

Yea same here, I love giving compliments. I won't compliment his bulge lol but like if he's in gym clothes and I can see he just came from the gym I'll say, "you look good"

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yeah that i'd just take at face value

[NathanDavis]

nope, I am used to them... I have experience with this, so I can usually tell and sense when a compliment is indeed a compliment as a compliment... and when, it is also a hint for more and definitely has that bit of flirty too... lol

in general, no... I am not going to assume things and surely not as much... lol

again, experience it is, and I do use it (=

[7Phoenix7]

What sort of compliments do you get?

[NathanDavis]

well, some on certain looks, appearance, "style"

others are on my personality, or character... others about some things I do, or won't do... lol

it can depend on the context... lol

[NathanDavis]

so... what about you, what kind of compliments do you get?

[7Phoenix7]

Same as you, honestly

[Fuentes]

Lol I assume most women want me when they talk to me, cause why else are you talking to me, a compliment would solidify it. But I don't act on every chick that talks to me or compliments me. I'm just friendly to everyone depends on my mood if I wanna smash them or not.

Unless that chick throws her self at me I'm not tryna fuck every girl who gives me attention or pursue it. I care more about money $$$

[7Phoenix7]

Ok I understand lol and I'm assuming you don't give compliments unless you want the girl

[Fuentes]

I'd have to be some sort of interested to give a compliment lol

[7Phoenix7]

Makes sense

[Fuentes]

But I am not giving it for a romantic interest it's more to fuck

[7Phoenix7]

Got it lol

[Joshydavid25]

Not necessarily.. Anytime a woman compliments me I just say thank you and give em a big old smile and sometimes laugh if they give me a really good compliment..

[7Phoenix7]

Lol Thats what I like

[Joshydavid25]

Most definitely.. Especially if they do it in front of their man.. 😂..

[7Phoenix7]

Lmao no when I was in a relationship I kind of didn't do it as much. I told a guy I liked his shoes, and my boyfriend was like, "what the f----" ... he was over the top tho, haha

[Joshydavid25]

Oh, it's usually young women like you.. It's usually older women who compliment in front of their boyfriends/Husbands.. And it's not subtle either.. Lmao..

[Joshydavid25]

It's not usually**..

[7Phoenix7]

Oh yea I know exactly what you're talking about lol

[rienna888]

Umm if a guy compliments me it really depends. Sometimes they’re trying to be nice, but you will know that they’re just trying to be nice and not flirting. They will kind of say something afterwards to show that they aren’t interested. Like “you’re such a good friend”

[Thestupidusername]

Depends what the compliment is but I'm socially retarded so I probblaby wouldn't know either way

[7Phoenix7]

Lol 😂

[Thestupidusername]

😭😂

[bededazzle]

no i basically assume someone is not interested until like a fourth date lol so a compliment is just a nice little bit

[7Phoenix7]

4th date? Wow lol

[bededazzle]

also guys should know that women are just really good at compliments with their social skills

[bobinnes00]

If someone wasn't interested would there be a fourth date? ... I would have thought no more than two maybe?

Unless it's a woman who just enjoys free dinner and drinks, lol! :D

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nope, I can't detect flirtiness so everything just straight up goes to kindness in my mind.

[7Phoenix7]

That's good. That's cus you're innocent lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't think I'm innocent, I'm just clueless when it comes to flirting there's a difference ☻

[7Phoenix7]

I think ur both 💀

[ChicoFromThe305]

A perfect balance, I'll take it 😂

[clampfan101]

It heavily depends on the compliment, but I imagine mostly not. Some people just enjoy being nice.

[7Phoenix7]

Yeah that's me lol 😊

[Anonymous]

If a guy does, a woman thinks he's flirting. When a woman does it, a man just thinks she's just being nice.

[7Phoenix7]

Haha

[Opinion Owner]

I mean, it's because society tells men they need to pursue women sexually, and if he can't get them, he's a failure. People think like this of narratives society pushes.

Which are damaging. It's because a lot of guys are less emotional. Like a woman can compliment her friend and call her pretty, and it's okay, but men can't really do the same with others because they are going to be called gay or flirting with a guy.

Which is not good to be emotionally repressed like that. Men don't get any compliments from men or women, It's sad, but I can't do anything to change it.

[7Phoenix7]

Why did you go anonymous?

I feel you a little. I'm not sure that society tells men to only pursue women for sex. But I do agree with you about how a lot of guys are repressed emotionally

[KrakenAttackin]

Men almost never get compliments so we do tend to see this as flirting.

[7Phoenix7]

Well that makes sense

[IslaTheWitch]

If it is a stranger, I would more suspect they want something from me... I wouldn't get the compliment as genuine.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. I just think it’s a compliment. Assume if she’s interested she will ask me out

[7Phoenix7]

Yes indeed

[BarryLiverstone]

Thanks

[Guido]

They are being nice as they know I am married. It is nice to hear them.

[7Phoenix7]

Well, there are some women that would flirt with you knowing you are married too. But I get what you're saying

[Guido]

Flirting can be fun when you know it's just in fun and not going any further.

[rachel776b]

i don't like strangers to approach me in this way

[sage2021]

I just take it as a compliment, smile and say thank you.

[Lisia]

I don't.. unless it's excessive complimenting.

[Lionman95]

To be honest yes because it happens rarely. If it was something regular I would take it casually.

[RedInnocent68]

Generally, no. But I also think girls are pretty guarded when it comes to complimenting guys for that reason.

[mandyfire98]

Depends on the compliment really.

[7Phoenix7]

That's what I'm thinking. Maybe it's the type of compliment that makes it seem more flirtatious

[mandyfire98]

Yeah it's definitely how and what they are complimenting for sure

[ThrillSeeker01]

It really depends on the context/situation/what they actually say.

[Kelly6]

They are always interested, so I always reply back with thank you and talk a bit more

[JesseP1nk]

No, i dont take that as they are interested. I just take it as a compliment.

[maroon_eyez]

Depends on who she is, on the context, on what the compliment is about

[Jmmmfi4]

LITERALLY NEVER HAPPENS

[HappyWoman34]

I take it that they’re flirting with me.

[Worst]

I've never gotten complimented irl

[7Phoenix7]

The lie detector determines that to be a lie

[Worst]

no joke lol

[Nikki1989]

Nope, I ignore it.

[Anonymous]

I think they are joking

[7Phoenix7]

If they compliment you?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I don't think I'm worthy of compliments so generally I deem they are only looking for money or something if they do that

[7Phoenix7]

Well thats sad 😕 don't know why you feel that way

[Opinion Owner]

Because I'm ugly inside and out and well in my line of work you carry a lot of cash that is passed onto others

[laly520]

no I dont, I only take it as a compliment

[Paige90]

Yes I do

[7Phoenix7]

I think with you they probably are lol

[TheSpaceGnome]

Depends on the context.

[AydenHazor]

I assume a compliment of just that, a compliment.

[Luckycharms12]

No need more go on then someone being nice to me

[Z1pTD]

No not unless they just keep going lol

[LoveWorkingOut]

I guess id take it as she was interested

[CubaPirate]

Maybe just Maybe

[katiesmuff]

No not necessarily!

[LavLavLuv]

Nope

[collie22]

Yep. .

[LiamJHayden]

Nope.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No..

[FenixG45]

Usually