Why do some men keep checking out and flirting a girl and reject her as soon as she reciprocates?

[Anonymous]

For instance by mentioning their girlfriend.

[Dutchgirl97]

Commitment issues. He obviously finds you attractive enough to flirt but isn’t comfortable with responsibility of relationships or cannot have a relationship considering he’s already in one. Some guys like flirting and nothing more.

[Asker]

he offered to drive me home and inquired a lot about my living situation and my plans for the night so to me it seemed he was interested in more than flirting. but when i talked to him a month later he tried to appear as uninterested and dry as possible

[ProbablyClueless]

Because the casual flirting is fun, but the guy wants to make it clear that he respects the fact he's in a relationship.

[Asker]

he offered several times that day to drive me home and inquired about my living situation, who i live with, how long, what its like etc.

[ProbablyClueless]

Okay, and then he drew a line to show you that he's not going to pursue you romantically.

[Asker]

that was on another day

[ProbablyClueless]

Okay. And then he drew a line to show you that he's not going to pursue you romantically.

[Asker]

why? i was not flirting back with him. he should draw the line for himself

[ProbablyClueless]

Because he has integrity. You asked why he said he has a girlfriend after you reciprocated; that's why. Because he has integrity. He respects his relationship with his girlfriend, so when he recognized that something inappropriate was happening, he drew the line.

[Asker]

i did not reciprocate really i was just being more talkative

[ProbablyClueless]

Well, whatever you said, he felt like he had to nip the situation in the bud.

[boggboss]

Because they are doing it because they enjoy flirting

[Asker]

Yeah but why flirt if you’re not interested in the girl and don’t find her attractive?

[boggboss]

How do u know he dont find her attractive many people flirt because they enjoy flirting and the attention they get from it dont mean they want somthing to happen

[Asker]

Because he wouldn’t suddenly act annoyed and standoffish

[boggboss]

What do u mean

[Asker]

You can see it in the eyes. They don’t desire you anymore, are not happy to talk to you and their answers are dry and short

[boggboss]

So if he is no longer flirting what's the issue

[Asker]

Why am I suddenly not good enough anymore

[boggboss]

Good enough for what all it was is him flirting

[Anonymous]

Same reason women do it. Seriously. Women reject far more often than men do.

[Asker]

Yeah but not after initiating flirts and checking them out for months

[Opinion Owner]

You must not pay attention to your own gender then, women are the queens of toying with men.

[laly520]

they enjoy flirting but not into dating

[Asker]

Why not? Am I not hot enough for dating?

[laly520]

its not about being hot or not
its about him not wanting to be in relationship