Anyone here flirt with a lot of people every day?

[Anonymous]

I never flirted in my life and suddenly I am flirting every single day with many women. I was very shy at first but as I open up more around them they are flirting more and I am flirting back and it's been fun.

But I don't know if I should bother trying to date any of them. I asked one out and she rejected me. I realized people just flirt just to do it.

So it feels good to flirt but at the same time it feels bad to know that the flirting doesn't = anything more necessarily beyond just flirting.

Any general tips on this stuff?

[Changiis07]

It can lead to something, it's just seeing who is interesting and who is not

[Asker]

Do you stop flirting once they're deemed not interesting? What if you see them all the time at work and school? Would you just stop flirting with them one day?

[Little_Bumblebee]

I generally don't really know how to flirt on purpose with someone I like.
I can flirt with a few friends for fun, because I know it's for fun and they take it that way, and we reciprocate the flirting, but that's it.

[Asker]

I almost feel like I don't want to flirt. I build up affection for people too easy. I'm a hopeless romantic lol. Flirting while fun and feels nice to know that someone even wants to flirt with me, it still kind of hurts because I really just want to find someone to love.

But you gotta flirt to do that right? Lol. So boom I've gone full circle.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Well, at least you know how to, and have the confidence to do it.

But yeah, I get the struggle when you're a hopelessly romantic as well.

But I don't know... do you have to flirt to fond someone to love?

[Asker]

No I don't think you have to flirt at all for that. I guess flirting just maybe makes it easier for two people who are feeling affection for eachother to connect?

For me in the past I never flirted and I know I missed out on potential love for sure.

But I have loved a girl before ever even talking to her so maybe I'm just crazy. That's it. I'm nuts lol.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Hmm yeah I don't know, sometimes I'm confused by flirting I think.
But maybe flirting can help showing interest at least.

It's a shame looking back at it like that.
I'm just horribly awkward and unsuccessful when I actually did try.

How can you love someone you haven't had a conversation with though? Isn't that infatuation, more than it is love?

[Asker]

There's just certain girls when I see them it hits me. I can't stop it.

Why those girls? I don't know. They're not the hottest or the prettiest or the cutest.

Usually I just see them talking to others and being themselves and I kind of just appreciate them from a distance. I grow a crush on them which I never act on. And I just love them from afar because thats all I could do in the past.

Lately I've been flirting with the girls I have crushes on so that's been nice! Maybe I'll actually get to date a crush for the first time ever.

I also have loved and been married before. I know what love is. I don't really care what anyone thinks about that. Love is not a Disney tale fantasy it's a feeling and just because the circumstances are not leading to a perfect marriage doesn't mean it's not love. Love is on a small scale too.

I love very easily that's just how I am.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I hope you end u dating a crush then ^^

I used to get crushes so easily when I was younger, and now it's been so long. So I don't know if I can say that I love easily :P
It's great that you do. Nurture that.