Does someone's age or looks determine whether you will flirt back?

Question

If they flirt with you and you find out they are way younger or older than you, does that change anything for you?

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

I think I’ve hit some kind of wall, lmao, I used to get looks here and there, and even though most people guess me about ten years younger, I guess that’s still too old, because the looks have stopped. Might just be the terrible hair, I don’t know, I wouldn’t holler at me either😂 Confidence at an all-time low, and mostly self-inflicted, lmao.

So I think I’m the old one now, and the women older than me are practically past flirting age, so nothing coming from ahead of me, and I gotta figure gals in their 20s and 30s have dudes looking better than me in their 20s and 30s to holler at, so I think I’m just apparently aged out of being hollerable😭 A truly sad day in any man’s life.

So it’s hard to imagine even getting flirted with at this point of my decrepit-ness, but I suppose on the other side of the coin, most of the girls I’m exposed to are at my gym, and of questionable age, and certainly too young for me even if technically old enough, so I think I just don’t interact with live women anymore. My life feels sadder and sadder as I type this all out😂 Incel vibes lmfao.

Anyway, I guess being too young would certainly deter me from flirting back. I mean, if she’s 16 years old, I’m just exiting the building, lmao, I don’t even want suspicion of that😂 Or even if she’s legal-young, 18-22 or something…. I can’t imagine flirting with them. Older…. I guess I could, but I wouldn’t want to send false vibes out if I wasn’t really into it, and I’m getting to an age where being too much older than me puts the woman in a demographic that I don’t even really think about romantically. Like a woman 15 years older than me is SIXTY, that’s crazy, and also crazy that I only have 15 years left til 60. Gonna be dead soon lmfao

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I don't flirt... Miss Flirty Phoenix...

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Yes of course it matters! I’m not flirting back to a guy who looks 15, and I’m not flirting back to a guy who looks 50, or 40. I mean I don’t flirt with anyone now that I’m engaged, but I’m still polite to any man who flirts with or even approaches me to ask me for my number. I’m never rude to any man who had the courage to ask me out. But even before I was engaged, I never actively encouraged a guy to approach me, if there was no possibility that I would give him my number.

I hope this helps
Sincerely, Laura 🤗 🥰

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Probably. I mean, there are guys and girls my age who take care of themselves properly (and I don’t mean adding plastics and such) so they look appealing and open and are nice to chat up and flirt with. Meanwhile, there are actually a lot of folks younger who DON’T take care of themselves (smoking, drinking, poor diet, no exercise, blah blah blah) who actually look way older than their age, really tired all the time and therefore don’t seem as approachable at all.

Finchie40 · Answer

No her age doesn’t really mean shit to me , as long as she is legal age of consent and I find her beautiful. I date younger and older girls’ so again her age doesn’t determine whether I will like her or not. I have dated younger girls’ that were way more mature than girls’ my age , so that doesn’t bother me. Lately younger girls’ have been making the first move on me which I think is Sexy AF when a beautiful girl approaches me and starts flirting with me , not saying I wouldn’t mind if an attractive older girl did that as well, but lately I been coming across younger girls’ which I am not complaining about lol I feel younger girls’ treat us older guys’ better , Most of them tell me it’s because guys’ her age are all assholes , and she is attracted to a mature guy that pretty much has his shit together , so it works and that’s all that matters. Plus younger girls’ are better in bed in my opinion , because they love being submissive to me , which again is a huge turn on to me

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am married and don't flirt with anyone except the girl waiting at home for me.

Damaged00 · Answer

I'm pretty sure I'm broken. Because I flirt with everyone, even women. Obviously not jailbait. But I think it might be my personality. It's light, fun and everyone walks away in a good upbeat mood. Age and looks don't matter. I like to raise people's spirits and make them and myself feel good. It's natural to me.

On the other hand, if I'm actually attracted to a guy, I actually don't flirt. I'm pretty sure I come off weird and awkward to them when I try to flirt back. It's not pretty lol.

oldawg · Answer

I have been with quite a few women and more than I care to admit but one thing I know that I received a lot of compliments from the youngest wild in the sac to the older more conservative woman and I find that it is not the age that matters and I am finding it hard to put it into words and I don't want to come out sounding like a jerk or an complete dickhead but here goes I find that if I am being flirted with I can usually tell if its going to be wild and crazy night or just a wild night or taking someone home so you are not going alone night. Its all in the brain a connection and something that gets the blood flowing and it happens with all ages but I have found it is a hell of a lot better with a older women

Randomdude849245 · Answer

To me age only matters for serious relationships. Of course as long as everyone is an adult, of course. If a 20 year old wants to fool around with a 60 year old that's both of their choices.

For me though, I want kids someday, so I'd at least want her to be the age she can safely. But if I was much older than her I don't think I'd go for it. I wouldn't want to be dead when she turns 40 with so much of her life ahead of her.

But I'm not going to lie. I'm always going to find younger women more appealing generally.

sage2021 · Answer

You can't judge a book by its cover they say, and it's true in my case.
Some people in my family don't look their age. I guess it's a genetic thing.

Just a few weeks ago I asked a man I know how old do I look. And he said about 50-55. But I am chronologically much older than that.
I act young at ❤️ heart 😎 I don't feel old.
I don't have any gray hair and no wrinkles whatsoever.
My son is the same way. Looks very young for being 46.
🤷🏼‍♀️

Kiss_Me · Answer

I always flirt. I consider it practice.

Look at it this way... An older person has potentially seen and done more than a younger person. They present a learning opportunity to practice and learn some new flirting skills.

Plus, it fun.

BetaBucks · Answer

Even if single, I'm not going to flirt back with underage girls or elderly women, so there's obviously some component there that matters. Obviously attractiveness matters the most. Why would I flirt with someone I'm not attracted to? It's mean to tease people.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Well yes but if only ever flirt when single , I don’t invite attention or respond to it otherwise. It’s nice when I realize another woman is being playful though even though I wouldn’t respond or reciprocate.

Being single though a woman’s age and generally level of attractiveness predict IF I will flirt back. I think that would be generally accepted though?

SugarSugarplum · Answer

There's serious flirting, like OMG, this guy is AMAZING! I hope he wants to hang out with me, and there's playful fun flirting that you'd do with the 65-year-old while you're both waiting in line at Subway.

So, yes, I'll flirt with an older guy. Not that I'm going home with him or anything.

HawkPerception · Answer

Kind of. When it comes to girls, I've come to realize as I've gotten older I have to be much more careful about who I even compliment as it might come across as creepy, regardless of if I find them attractive or not.

If a girl flirts with me, it's fine. I'm okay with girls of any age flirting with me as long as I know they're not underage. If they look underage, I might ask them, "Sorry how old are you? 😅" as respectfully as I can.

TonyV · Answer

Yeah age and looks are definitely a factor, if a 90 year old 400 pound woman with beef jerky skin, in a wheelchair missing a leg and has a hole in her neck she breaths through cause she got throat cancer smoking and is talking to me with the wond cause she dosent have vocal cords hits on me I'm not gonna flirt back.

alice55 · Answer

Younger is ok older no. I'm 25 so if he's younger than 30 it's ok but older no, I don't want to date wrinkly people. Also I don't get along with them in terms of personality, they often have a too strong personality where they're sure they're right even when they're wrong and like you're younger they give you lots of shit. I don't like their superior attitude.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

If they look older than me, it's how they look First.. As, their age matters less as long as they are looking good.. If they are younger or at least look younger enough to still look close to being a teenager then the age definitely matters first..

strangeatcircleK · Answer

Id say, it's all situational. It also depends on what type they are looking for and if they have an S. O. already

As much as I ask for advice on this... If there is a specific guy. Find a way to talk to him and feel it out

I need to take some of my own advice, you never know if you don't ask

Alli112 · Answer

I mean, I'm not going to flirt with an old man or a kid so yeah, age does kinda matter? (Then again, I can't say I flirt much to begin with lol)

DevikaButts95 · Answer

I will flirt with anyone.
But if you're younger than me, I'll be really drawn to you to make into my own personal chair. Lmao.
And likewise, if you're older than me (and a girl), I'm trying to become your chair.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

nah... as long as they are adults, I don't care

Kaneki05 · Answer

Of course at extremes it does like ya know a 80 year old even then you can be nice about it though as like a jokey thing.  So not really.  Flirting is just a nice thing to do typically.

xoxosilentgirl · Answer

I don’t flirt with people, but if i do definitely not someone looking 50 or someone looking 15. I’ll just give them the bombastic side eye👀

WhitneySnow · Answer

I don’t flirt because I’m in a relationship, but if I did I would probably only flirt with people close to my age (within like a couple years)

delsworld · Answer

Age doesn't matter to me but physical attraction does.

loveslongnails · Answer

"Attraction" matters, and a lot of things factor into that. For me, flirting is a casual thing, until it becomes clear that it's not! LOL

clampfan101 · Answer

I’m not very good at guessing ages. I’m not entirely sure how that would effect things without them first telling me their age.

dragoblack · Answer

People age differently, but i do tend to go to those i find physically attractive to me... though my flirting is not pickup lines... it's more, me actually making effort to get to know her as a person.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Definitely does. I don't flirt with people too young/old or who looks grimey or homeless.

Fireguy17 · Answer

if they are way too young, not age appropriate then no I would not flirt back. Otherwise, why not make someone's day a bit better.

DJB72 · Answer

I never really cared how she looked as long as  I  was attracted to her and she actually was of legal age.

CieloAzul · Answer

I don’t flirt back but of course the age matters, not the looks. Because I’ve been told that I look younger than my age, if a younger guy flirts with me, I'll just smile, and they'll get the message.

RavVid · Answer

While age does matter if it is just flirting it doesn't matter so much.

jjr23 · Answer

many reasons to flirt or accept as there are people

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I've dated 20 years younger to 3 years older in the last five years, so no

Miah04 · Answer

Yes. Looks is the first thing we learn about someone.

DrPepper12 · Answer

An opportunity to make a woman smile is bot to be wasted

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

as long as they're "of age", right? don't need to be going to jail, over flirting, right?

Anonymous · Answer

I’m 22 and if a woman’s 30 even 40 I may flirt back. If she’s really old maybe a smile.

Still-alive · Answer

looks yes not so much age unless they look too young

Staximus · Answer

If the women are in their early 20's to early 60's, it's open season

12karen · Answer

Yes, what if they're fifty or older As if I'm dating my dad's friends, eww no

LiamJHayden · Answer

I am usually oblivious to flirting. If I pick up on it, Age matters if she is under age.

Anonymous · Answer

I think that's a factor (s) with pretty much EVERYONE, regardless of what they might claim. Now how much will vary from person to person.

jack1924 · Answer

It was a long time ago when I was that guy that other girls would hit on but not anymore lol

pethouse · Answer

Nah it depends how they flirt. I gotta feel Comfortable.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't flirt, cause I'm kinda too shy, and I really don't know how.

robocop666 · Answer

I have had women twice my age flirt with me they knew they were hot

Ironco · Answer

I don't pay attention to age, if I like the person I'll flirt back... just to have some fun and see where things lead.

Zacksparrow · Answer

your so beautiful

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Maybe, depends on the age I think

Kelly6 · Answer

@7phoenix7 age doesn’t matter to me

Wiredone · Answer

Looks and age doesn't matter

Dongie · Answer

How old doesn't matter unless they are to young.

msc545 · Answer

Looks matter a lot, including apparent age.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yep that definitely matters for me

eagle1951 · Answer

age doesn't bother me to an extent.

blondfrog · Answer

Yes it does

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