How do you know the difference between subtly flirting and just being friendly?

[thatshydork]

[hahahmm]

It's all the same depending on what's in the other person's mind. But obviously there's a line between overtly sexual and non-sexual.

This is what a lot of women don't get... when they try to be friendly to some dude they also don't want to be interested in them. It really doesn't work in most cases.

[WhitneySnow]

It’s hard to tell sometimes, but generally if a guy is paying a lot of attention to you it’s because he likes you and not just cause he wants to be friends (unless he’s gay or ace/aro or has a girlfriend he really loves, and even in the last case there’s a good chance he likes you anyway, even if he won’t act on it)

[Nikki1989]

Apparently not, according to people I know.

[ohsheeT]

There's a different type of energy and a different type of look or words when flirting deeply

[OneViewpoint]

It's difficult. Some people are only capable of very subtle, indirect flirting. The same behavior from another person in another circumstance may just be the way they interact all the time and not mean much at all.

Unfortunately, if you don't know the person well or you can't tell if they are shy and lacking confidence or gregarious and just being themselves there is no way to tell for sure.

Test it by flirting back and see if they escalate or just move on in the conversation.

[bowenw]

It’s not always clear as the person doing it may be trying to see if you like them without making a fool of themselves

[Kayleigh2005]

Omg, guys if I’m at work I am not flirting with you, fck

[Anonymous]

Flirting often involves a hard on, being friendly rarely does.

[thatshydork]

But guys have flirted with me without having a hard-on (I know because my friends have told me afterwards that a guy was flirting with me and I wasn’t getting it).

[Opinion Owner]

Oh it's possible to flirt without a hard on, but if it goes on for awhile usually you at least get a semi!

[Pohjolan]

Just because someone thinks that they are flirting while their actions are indistinguishable from those who aren't, doesn't mean that it actually counts as flirting.

[woahhh152]

I'll put it this way, a close friend might say something sexual sometimes but they both know they are just friends and won't cross the line.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Someone tells me afterwards.

[thatshydork]

Me too haha

[Staximus]

Subtle anything is ineffective and unnecessary when you didn't need to be subtle. If a girl is not touching me and invading my personal space, I'm not going to be inspired to make a move (unless she flat out says she wants to see me again)

[debtfree_oneyear]

I know guys are confused about this but I had no idea women were as well

[msc545]

Not just this with women... there is a lot more...

[ehatsham_hussain]

You easily can notice the difference..

[thatshydork]

I can’t, I’m very blind and naive when it comes to guys flirting.

[ehatsham_hussain]

Different guys different signs , but you easily can notice,, if he flirt he will try to come more close than normal

[thatshydork]

Gotcha!

[msc545]

When they offer oral sex tthat is the clue.

[saraupstairs]

Maybe that's just being friendly.

[msc545]

@saraupstairs It could be, but I suggest you take them up on the offer regardless. A free orgasm is a free orgasm after all...

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Lol... What... People talk to you?

[LunarEclipse433]

Sometimes they are one in the same

[saraupstairs]

You can't.

[vj0090]

Check ur inbox

[thatshydork]

I’m confused

[vj0090]

We connected before... thought we can connect again.. no worries

[Jmmmfi4]

I DEFINITELY DON'T

[Iron_Man]

I can tell when a woman flirts

[RedInnocent69]

Aren’t they the same?

[DenizTurkey]

women understand all kinds of things.

[Anonymous]

The dirty signs...