Why would a guy flirt with you but ignore your dm?

[Anonymous]

Yeah so why would a guy flirt with you in-person but ignore your DM it’s very confusing lol

[Anonymous]

Flirting doesn’t always equate to “let’s take this thing to the next level” or “let’s see where this goes. Sometimes it’s just fun to be in the moment, or to have that dynamic with someone where you both understand it. I have a set of opposite sex friends who basically orbit around each other at work or when we got out for drinks. But outside of those places they don’t really speak at all unless it’s about something.

[Asker]

Yeah that's true. Sometimes I do this too. But its more sporadic instead of consistent haha

[Opinion Owner]

We are all guilty of it lol and hey nothing against him for doing it either, if you have fun with it too! But I would say that if you’ve started liking him then you might wanna have a chat about it, considering he’s worth the effort and not just some fuckboy lol. Because then if he is one then you can decide if you even still want to engage!

[Asker]

so true!! thank you this helps lol :)

[Anonymous]

Maybe he feels awkward chatting on DM’s? But ask him.

[Asker]

thanks!

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome

[Anonymous]

Ok so please explain how he was flirting w you? Seems like men car even have a conversation w women these days w out them thinking he’s flirting. According to all women men are flirting 24/7.

[Asker]

I’m a nice girl he’s a nice guy. I’ve had guys thinking I’m flirting just because I am being nice and talking. So you tell me how guys can tell I am flirting with them vs not? He seems to be friendly with a lot of girls but I have not seen him flirt with a lot of girls. As I am friendly with guys but do not really flirt as often as I am majority friendly

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so maybe he’s just being friendly. You haven’t given an example of what he did to make you think he was flirting.

[Asker]

Ok. Well he looks deep into my eyes when I am speaking. He blushes and gets nervous around me. Fixes his hair. Points his feet toward me while talking. He holds eye contact with me from across the room. He smiles. He looks at me while I’m talking to other guys. When it’s just us speaking alone lowers his voice while talking to me. Shows off. Before I knew him too he pointed me out at a bar said hi and kept hanging around me the whole night and looked nervous. When he hugs me there is something behind it as well

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so maybe he just likes to flirt but isn’t actually interested. Maybe he just likes to play around.

[Asker]

I have known of him for long enough I don’t get that impression from him he likes to play around

[Opinion Owner]

Then if you’ve known him long enough to know that then you should be able to tell why he’s doing what he’s doing as far as ignoring your DMs.

[Asker]

I am not quite sure to be honest. I know that when I like a guy I’m very good at talking to everyone in the room but the guy I actually like. One time we were messaging and I responded two weeks late because I was actually nervous to even initially open his message

[Opinion Owner]

He may just like the attention. It’s like women who love attention from men but would never date them.