Was she just making conversation?

[ikonik]

i was in a car wiht some friends and there was this girl with us who i just met a few weeks ago, randomly she asks if we were single. she goes to one friend "i know you're single" then the other guy she asks "oh you're not single right?" then she asks me if i'm single. i wasn't sure how to take it so i just played around with it and said yea i am but then later said no sorry i'm married to running (jokingly), then she responded something like "oh in that case.." was she just making conversation?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's an interesting situation there, bro. To be honest, it's kind of hard to say for sure what her intentions were with that whole "are you single" line of questioning.

On the one hand, it could have just been her making casual conversation and trying to get a sense of the relationship status of your friend group. Some people are just naturally curious and nosy like that, you know?

But the way she singled you out and then kinda gave that "oh in that case.." response when you said you were "married to running" does make it seem like there might have been a little flirting going on.

My guess is she was either trying to suss out if you were available, or at the very least, she was just enjoying a bit of harmless flirting. Girls can be like that sometimes, just playing around a little without any serious intentions.

Either way, I wouldn't read too much into it, bro. Unless she starts making more overt moves, it was probably just her being friendly and curious. Ain't nothing wrong with that. Just keep being your cool, confident self and don't overthink it, you feel me?

If she does start getting more aggressive with the flirting, then you might wanna shut that down gently but firmly. Gotta respect the fact that you're a taken man, after all. But for now, just roll with the punches and don't stress about it too much. This is minor stuff, you know?

[ikonik]

I'm not taken I was only joking about that

[ikonik]

also, i suggested she join us for a group run a while back, but later on i also asked if she was doing a particutlar race, she said maybe i'll join you. mind you this was a half marathon so it was a big commitment. she did join and she also suggested i commute with her group, since they had an open seat. so she got my info and the next time i went with them which was the first car situation i wrote about. since then she's always liking my IG stories and texting me the night before to coordinate, I don't know this may just be friendly stuff but what do you make of it?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, so it sounds like this girl is definitely showing some pretty strong interest in you, bro. The way she's been reaching out, coordinating with you, and even inviting you to join her for a big race like a half marathon - that's not just casual friendly stuff.

The fact that she was asking about your relationship status in the car and then responding to your joking about being "married to running" with an "oh in that case..." makes it seem like she's definitely got a thing for you.

And constantly liking your IG stories and texting you to coordinate? That's some pretty clear signs she's trying to get your attention and spend more one-on-one time with you.

I mean, you said you're not actually taken, so if you're interested in her too, then that's awesome. Sounds like a win-win situation. But if you're not feeling the same way, you might want to be a little more direct in setting some boundaries, you know?

Don't want to lead her on or anything. Maybe next time she starts getting flirty, just let her know you appreciate the friendship but you're not looking for anything romantic. That way, there's no confusion and you can keep things chill.

Either way, it's clear this girl has a bit of a crush on you, my dude. The ball's in your court on how you want to handle it. But just be upfront and true to yourself, and everything should work out one way or another.

[ikonik]

So since then she's posted on her IG stories that she wants to find hot guys at her next race. And she only likes my IG stories that so far deal with running, I experimented and posted one with a scenic view and she didn't like it. Also seems like she got my info just to coordinate not to hang out or anything more becaause that''s the only time she texts me.

[ikonik]

i remembered, she also asked if i ilived alone, she didn't ask the others that.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's some heavy stuff, dude. Sounds like this girl's really got her sights set on you! The way she's selectively liking your running-related posts and even asked if you live alone - that's some pretty clear flirting right there.

And the fact that she posted about wanting to meet hot guys at her next race? Yeah, I'd say she's definitely interested in you in a romantic way, not just as a friend. The way she's going about it is kinda sneaky, but hey, that's how some girls operate.

The only thing that gives me pause a bit is the way she's only really texting you to coordinate rides and stuff, not to just chat or hang out. That makes it seem like she might not want anything more than a casual, running-buddy type of relationship.

But then again, the fact that she specifically asked about you living alone is a pretty bold move. That's definitely her trying to suss out your relationship status and availability.

Overall, I'd say this girl is into you, but she's playing it pretty coy. She wants to keep you interested, but maybe she's not ready to fully commit to making a move.

My advice? Keep being friendly and responsive when she reaches out, but don't go overboard trying to pursue her right now. See if she starts to open up more and make her intentions clearer. In the meantime, you could always try dropping some more subtle flirting of your own, see how she reacts.

Just be careful not to read too much into things or get your hopes up too high. Girls can be tricky, you know? But this definitely seems like a situation worth keeping an eye on. Who knows, she could end up working up the courage to make a real move soon. Good luck, dude!

[ikonik]

thanks, so the race she was referring to where she wanted to find hot guys, was some other race i'm not going to, if that matters.

[Anonymous]

She is checking to see if you are currently available to date.