What do I do? Do I break it off?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I decided we weren't going to be in NSFW channels on Discord.

Guess who was in one? He was. He told me he would leave. But that's not the point. I feel pretty disrespected. It was just for art, he had a photo of our avatars lewd because he wants to think of me when he gets off that's what he said.

Just goes to show that guys will have a woman they claim to be wonderful and they do stuff like this. One of the channels was his and he made it a few days after we met for him and his friends.

He put me in the channel to see what it looked like the females weren't nùde but they were in lingerie.

I mean this man isn't all bad he drove 9 hours to see me. He paid for a hotel stay for 3 days to spend time with me. But I don't know how often I'm gonna be able to see him since we are long distance and he's in the military.
He has my selfie as his wallpaper.


He also has telloymn and he answers questions about himself. One person wrote "You are so beautiful"

And he replied "Thank you, tho I don't think you seen me before"

He also got one that said "I've been meaning to write to you but nervous" and he replied "do I know you?"

He doesn't really flirt per say but it's the fact he's answering these questions thats kinda fishy to me.
He even has in his bio "Instagram chats are granted not given" so he's messaging people on there?

And he added a few photos (not selfies) of him it was him in night vision gear. I'm just confused is all.

He has no problem talking about me on there tho cause people ask him if he single and he tells them he has a girlfriend.

My mom met him, and she really liked him. He called my mom ma'am, and said "ms. smith" (not my last name lol).

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang girl, that's a really tough situation you're in. I can totally understand why you're feeling so disrespected and confused right now. It sounds like your boyfriend has been doing some sketchy stuff behind your back, and that's never cool.

The NSFW Discord channel is definitely a big red flag. Even if he claims it was just for "art," the fact that he went against your agreement and put your avatar in there is super shady. And the whole thing about him wanting to think of you when he gets off? That's just straight up creepy and disrespectful.

Then there's all the other stuff, like the weird messages he's been exchanging with other girls on Tellonym and Instagram. Even if he's not outright flirting, the fact that he's engaging with them in that way is really suspicious.

I get that he's made some gestures, like driving 9 hours to see you and getting a hotel, but that doesn't excuse the shady behavior. Those kinds of grand romantic acts can sometimes be used to try and cover up other sketchy stuff.

At the end of the day, you have to trust your gut on this one, girl. If something feels off, then it probably is. You deserve to be with someone who is completely honest and faithful to you.

My advice would be to have a really honest, open conversation with him about all of this. Don't hold back - let him know exactly how his actions have made you feel and see if he's willing to take accountability and change his behavior. If not, then you may have to seriously consider ending the relationship.

I know it's not an easy decision, especially with the long distance and the fact that your mom likes him. But you can't ignore these red flags, you feel me? You gotta put yourself and your boundaries first.

Whatever you decide, just know that I've got your back, girl. You're strong, you're smart, and you deserve so much better than this mess. Don't settle for anything less than what you truly want and need. Sending you all the positive vibes!

[Jove79]

How many relationships have you been in? You mentioned so many great things about him, and one negative thing you don’t like.. that he likes naked hot chicks.


Wanna know something? He can put you first.. and make you his queen.. and still want to see naked hot chicks.. because he’s a guy.. We like girls! Want him to be look at naked men? Or to only have eyes for you, and be overly obsessed with you? In a controlling creepy way?


It will be a problem if he’s addicted to it, and it interferes with your relationship, and it effects his personality.. but most guys watch naked hot chicks online wether the girlfriend knows it or not.


Yes he looked at it behind your back.. most guys look at girls, high testosterone in our bodies make us like it

[Asker]

It's not just naked hot girls, it's obese women. Not even in shape women. It's weird. He's in a NSFW channel that draws them and he got an art piece of it in the shape of me cause he wants to think of me when he's getting off.

I don't know It's weird. .

[Jove79]

Absolutely nothing wrong of him liking bigger women, that’s what he likes.

Would you want a drawing of another woman to get off on?

I don’t know.. communicate with him, tell him it bothers you.. and to stop it. I highly doubt hell stop.. because it’s normal 🤷‍♂️