Do I break it off?

[Anonymous]

I feel like im in competition with other women when im with him. he's just so friendly to other women. And i get so jealous. It makes me look like an awful girlfriend.

We have vrchat we met on vrchat, and he introduced me to all his friends including the female ones. He let me know what groups he's in, he's very honest which i love.

But he let's people give him head pats (he's in the furry community and I guess it's a common thing) but they do it to me as well.

But sometimes he pokes their noses and he's got seats on his head that people can press to sit on his head and he runs around with them on there.
He treats my friends like his own, and he's very helpful and sweet. He even got our avatars drawn up by a girl he knows. And he has my irl selfie as his background on his phone. And he's also got our avatars on his background on his computer.

This is all online, so maybe I'm just making it out to be something else.


But these things make me jealous.. like when he gets headpats or pokes noses. I shouldn't have to tell him? But maybe he thinks of it as an innocent thing I don't know. I accused him of liking my friends but he said he talks to them cause he knows how important they are to me. And I felt awful. I dont want to make issues out of nothing cause that might drive him away. he's coming to see me soon in April.
Maybe I'm just impossible to love
He isn't ever afraid to show affection in the game around his friends and around mine. He always says romantic stuff around them as well. he's just a very friendly in the game.

I have talked about him liking my friends, and he said he only wants me. I don't know if I'm just that insecure? I don't know my friends said he really likes me. I feel like i shouldn't have to tell him either. The one thing he never does is force me into anything and he doesn't ever say anything gross infront of my friends. He sends me countless reels on Instagram and doesn't follow half naked women.

[Cormac995]

This guy is almost nothing but green flags from the sound of it. I think you need to look at yourself right now because this post screams insecurity and self doubt and I don't mean this as an attack I say it as a concerning observation. You need to be less hard on yourself and have more faith in yourself value because based on this post I think that deep down you feel insecure and like you don't deserve him. If you felt secure in the relationship you wouldn't be so jealous and self-conscious about this.

That said head pats from girls you aren't dating once you're no longer single is a bit inappropriate. Once you're no longer single there are things that are simply rude to do to your partner this is one of them. Then again though you said they give you head pats too as well as each other it implies to me in their circle of friends this is completely platonic.

It's a bit different with guys assuming they're straight and he's not bi because men that are friends sometimes do stuff like this too (It's very, very rare though a lot of men avoid touch with other men even ones they're close to because of societal pressure.) You don't have to worry about this guy cheating either. When it comes to online dating this is the definition of "coming on strong"

He's clearly very into you but I saw you saying degrading things to yourself as well as a lack of confidence multiple times in this post. The problem here isn't him, the problem is you need to convince yourself your worthy of his love. This is you problem because you're not assigning enough value to yourself. You're trying to sabotage the relationship subconsciously because you feel guilty for being with him because you think he deserves better than you.

I've seen it multiple times and you need to get passed this or you're going to drive away a guy that sounds pretty genuine and caring. When you constantly insult yourself and act like your not good enough, you're hurting your partner because 1. nobody likes seeing someone they love in pain. 2. When you constantly shit on yourself when they're trying to love you it feels like you're rejecting their love.

If you're sweet and kind to someone because you love them, and they act unhappy and upset all the time it makes you feel like a failure as a partner because you're not making them happy which is a big part of a loving relationship. By insulting yourself you're rejecting him basically and insulting his abilities to be a loving and compassionate partner.

in my opinion you should go to therapy about yourself value, to me you sound depressed and don't shut him out or you'll ruin everything. Let him in and let him show you your value because that's what he's trying to do. The fact he makes so many of these little changes that show his affection for you tells me he's going to be broken hearted if you push him away because to me it sounds like he's very excited to see you and over the moon right now.

[Blueeyes81]

Man I'm old. This all sounds so strange to me. But here's my take. You are looking for reasons to be jealous because there are no reasons to be jealous. This is a you problem, not a him problem.

[Abbycado]

You are really insecure. He chose YOU as a girlfriend. Not the other women.

[Asker]

Did you read the full thing?

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[Asker]

Did you even read the full thing?