If you’re not attracted to them, why is flirting still so fun?

[Parakeeta]

Someone you aren't getting something for free from, like a hairstylist. You are paying them and tipping them. But you still like to flirt. Why is that fun? Occasionally you will get someone that takes you seriously and you will have to reject them perhaps, but not everyone can tell it's just for fun.

[Master_Debator]

I don't believe them... I've seen too many flirts claim the "no attraction" thing, and while under that guise, they still ended up spreading their legs for that guy. I mean, am I wrong and they just have sex with people they're not attracted to as well?

Flirting is nothing less than foreplay in my mind. For example, I don't walk around telling guys or fat chicks they have pretty eyes and a nice smile... but I sure as fuck say that to hot chicks.

[bowenw]

A lot of people like to confirm that they are attractive to the oppositive sex.

[Parakeeta]

I get that, but some flirt with everyone. Does that mean they want everyone to find them attractive?

[bowenw]

It’s impossible to know what they are thinking, but they could flirt with everyone to increase their odds receiving compliments or getting sex.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[jazzy34]

That's why I only flirt with men whom I'm actually interested. Flirting "just because" is stupid to me.

[Nikki1989]

Flirting is not always intentional. Some people are just naturally like that... for better or worse.

[Project129]

You want the simple answer? There's a fine line between a compliment and a flirt.

I compliment people, regardless of gender, which tends to come across as a simple and to-the-point statement. The caps or jewelry on someone's dreads, a nice shirt, at most maybe say they're looking great today. Then I drop it entirely and move along with my day... Why do I do this? Because I don't like toying with people and sometimes people need to feel like they're doing well. I don't push further, I don't add more into the statement, I just give a kindly compliment and go about my day without a care in the world and they get the hint pretty quickly I wasn't doing anything other than being friendly. It makes me feel good to do this because a small compliment goes a long way to improve someone's day. It makes me feel good about myself that someone else might've liked my shirt because now I know they had a good laugh or they enjoyed seeing something on it, I made someone's day a little brighter kind of deal.

But for those who say it is fun to flirt with people you don't care about I think there's something wrong with you. Many women wonder why guys 'don't pick up on signals' or 'won't respond to my approach' it is EXACTLY because people are doing this. This is also how a lot of guys get girls bitter when they flirt, hit, and have no real attraction to them. All it does is give off the wrong signals, confuse some poor sod, and might end up causing issues.

[molonski2]

It's a lot of fun of course , agreed some take it too far , but it's not really about being attracted , it's about your own sexuality so it's confirmation , and really great fun.

[objective_calendar]

Validation. Approval. It's a great feeling to know somebody's attracted to you even if you don't feel the same way about them.

[ironsteelbirade]

It's more often than not fun when you are and you just want to have the feeling and emotions, especially if you are emotionally close with them.

[MaddieXH]

It makes us feel wanted and validated. Like we have power over someone else

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

If I wasn't attracted to the person, I don't think flirting would be fun.

It would be like window shopping for stuff you don't want.

[MrChinaski]

It's fun to land big fish even if you throw them back.

[Anonymous]

I don't really flirt with people I'm not attracted to, and I don't think most people do.

[jahaims]

Because you are broken so unhealthy validation feels good

[Anonymous]

I don’t flirt for fun. I only flirt when I’m single and I’m really interested in the person.

[queenofcardio]

Playful banter can be very fun

[DonaldDarko]

Just the interplay. I guess

[robocop666]

women do this and it wastes mens time

[theskyrider]

That person might just be enjoying the attention

[eagle1951]

i loved doing it