If a boy notices you is attracted to you but never acts on it?

[Anonymous]

Like he doesn’t seek you out one on one to chat

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you’re 30, but that aside, if he doesn’t talk to you, how do you know he’s attracted to you?

[Asker]

You're right I'm actually 80

[Opinion Owner]

😂😂😂

On the off chance I’m right, don’t use the word “boy” when you describe guys. It’s a dead giveaway that you’re actually my age or probably younger.

[Asker]

I can say boy at 30 something.

Man feels older like 40 something.

You would be surprised at how 30 somethings are actually just more mature 20 somethings

[Opinion Owner]

You can say it, but it will make a lot of people (me included) think you’re under 21. And I don’t think we’re wrong.

[Iron_Man]

Yes of course I think a lot of people have crushes, but they’re too shy to act on it

[Asker]

Signs he has a crush but is too shy to act on it?

[Iron_Man]

He looks at you he smiles. He’ll look at you then he’ll turn away real fast. He seemed to be close to you, but not too close in your area.

[Asker]

He's very strange. For example once I came in and was looking where to sit and he said you can sit here. He was sitting on a bench. As in like beside him.

The same day I was looking at him multiple times and he was looking back multiple times.

Once I seemed distant and distracted and he kept looking to his right side (I was on his right). I looked at him once he was almost like I don't know looking down to the side so I was like? He just continued looking.

But he never talks to me one on one only in a group setting. Once out of nowhere he was so mean to me.

It makes me think maybe he doesn't like me

[Iron_Man]

He’s just very shy how old is he? Some people never do anything about it. They just dream and fades away. It’s a shame. he’s probably afraid of rejection when you get older and more mature , you become more outgoing.

[Asker]

He's in his 30s but I get the sense it is possible he may be inexperienced with women his culture is pretty conservative (like mine).

But unlike women who don't get as awkward around men I think men get more awkward around women.

Do you think this guy actually likes me? How should I let him know I like him and want him to approach me.

[Iron_Man]

Some people like that, they will never approach you. They’re just too shy. Why don’t you try smiling and talking to him and saying hello then let him carry the conversation, but be interesting and be full of energy and see what happens and be very positive and smile.

[Asker]

But does he already like me? Or is he just aware of me and shy.

[Asker]

The thing is we had a somewhat nice convo (in a group setting). So I thought things were good.

But the next time I saw him he was so cold and mean and indifferent. I asked if I could sit beside him (there was literally an empty chair) and I asked if someone was coming he said... kinda and no I can't and someone is coming there. It was so rude and mean who says that to a girl.

When I was awkwardly standing he didn't really attempt to make any room for me at all.

Eventually I sat down on the same chair after nudging from a girl that I could sit there. Eventually when I moved (too many people) they were looking for volunteers to also move. He could've moved too. He just sat there.

I was like fine he doesn't care.

[Iron_Man]

I can’t tell you that 100%. I’m not there in person but there’s a good chance of it. But if you wanna find out what’s going on, you’re gonna have to make a move probably if not, this is gonna go on and on or somebody’s gonna be transferred out or end of quitting and that’s gonna be that.

[Asker]

Why'd he do that chair thing that was so mean.

[Iron_Man]

I didn’t read this part of the question that was rude of him to say that anyway did somebody actually sit next to him or was he lying?

[Iron_Man]

He is an awful weird guy

[Iron_Man]

Well, like I said, did anybody actually sit next to him or was he lying?

[Asker]

It was! Someone had said that they would sit there but it was like the organizer of the event so they could move it wasn't set in stone. Plus the girl felt bad for me and said I could sit - he didn't.

Anyways the organizer of the event eventually ended up sitting elsewhere.

He is an awful weird guy. I don't get him at all.

[Iron_Man]

Well, it’s up to you if you wanna try if not move on let me know how it goes, but don’t let this thing drag on for many more months. The next thing you know you’re looking at Christmas and you’re still confused. Is this in America.

[Asker]

It is in America!

Do you think he’s just a mean guy or I should try to tell him how I feel

[Iron_Man]

I have mixed emotions. I’m not really sure it depends how you feel. You have to think it over because I don’t want you to get hurt but make your best Decision and let me know how it turns out

[Anonymous]

He could just be really shy and inexperienced with women.

[Anonymous]

He just finds you attractive. Does want to be with u

[Mariogirl09]

He doesn't like you enough to do anything

[Asker]

He seems a bit insecure and somewhat shy

But I wondered too maybe he just doesn’t like me all that much