When someone shows interest in you, do you prefer someone confident and direct, or shy and reserved?

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Personally, I LOVE an outgoing and confident person who knows what he wants and goes for it…I like someone who takes initiative, makes his intentions clear, and isn’t afraid to show his interest. That confidence is definitely attractive to me..

ohsheeT · Answer

I know a guy that is just like both of those questions

Because he is quiet he is shy and he is reserved he doesn't let too many people in

But once he does He will show you Exactly who he is By displaying Everything that you're looking for

But he's not going to do it all at one time because any guy that does that you better run because it's bullshit

The guy you're talking about Better be faster than a Hot Wheels car More powerful than electric train set And able to step over A Lego building With one step and better be wearing a cape

And please don't take this wrong but I have to say it LOL when you get done with him in bed and if he can get his cape back on he's going to walk out of that room so dizzy bouncing off the walls like he is drunker than drunk because you're going to tear him up
He's going to have to call Uber to pick him up cuz he's not going to build a fly that's for sure LOL

No I believe that every girl should be looking for what you just said but not all in one breath that the guy prove it to to you who he is in time

There are men out there that know exactly who they are they're worth and what they do and they're not going to give you all that at one time because when they give of themselves it comes from their heart

And with each one of those things that you're looking for there will be the right moment to not only prove it to you
In his own way but there will be meaning behind it and you will know that it is real

There are guys out there that know what a woman wants and they will give it all to you just like you said it but that is a manipulation

The guy who is it to you slowly and not all at one time he will give it to you by you reading him and feeling it in each moment of everything that he does but he's not going to just come out and prove it to you

He's not going to say this is who I am he's going to show you who he is by the things that he does and the things that he says

Because any guy can come out and say this is who I am but the odds of that being true are very slim

A man who knows who he is will show you exactly who he is in his own way
because he has nothing to prove to anybody he already knows who he is and he definitely doesn't need to talk about it

You will see it through his actions his words his demeanor
And it will radiate through his spirit is so his heart

But I do like your question and I do believe in that and I wish every man was like that but

You have to be very careful because there is a generic side and then there is a fake generic side

That's what I mean when I say that real person that true person you're looking for will not give it to you all in one time you have to read it coming from him and you will know when it's right when it's true and when it's real

AviatorTom · Answer

Confidence is best but I can handle shy. The important thing is that we connect and start a conversation.

queenofcardio · Answer

I feel the same as you. Confidence and being direct are sexy.

Although, I do date quiet guys. Sometimes, the mystery of how they are can be attractive. I’m usually loud and always talking, so sometimes our energy levels don’t match, especially if we don’t have much in common.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I think there are levels to interest.
Sometimes affection and chemistry is there but circumstances aren’t helping.
In such case pushing too hard will ultimately leave both of us feeling hurt.

But when I find myself in a situation where something is worth doing, very little can stop me….
I admire women who do the same

aceleon · Answer

honest? i am afraid of both of them, i don't want to end up like vatan şaşmaz.

also shy and reserved? well i really don't met any shy or reserved girl in my life so i don't even know how that would work, like they are not movie like shy right?

Beckybooboo · Answer

A combination of both. I'm usually the shy one! It's nice when they have the Confidence to actually talk to me but in a friendly way.. not arrogant or too direct.

As a girl, the state of intoxication does matter lol Having said that, most guys are respectful.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I don't know if I have a preference, because my experience says both preferences cited happen, just not simultaneously.

Talking phase is very often the same, I'm looking at people reserved, that includes me. Then somewhere along the road, it becomes quite direct and it remains like that over time

thegreenyogi · Answer

This is so hard to answer... I do like an equal mix between shyness and confidence. I'm a very confident person but I am not a chaser so if a guy wants me he has to be driven and fearless of me personally but there's a difference between being direct and overstepping my boundaries and whether I am attracted to him or not.

MrChinaski · Answer

Timidity, indecision and bluster has little to recommend it. That said, this is a process of discovery and it takes work to transition from 'This person seems really cool' to 'Wow, there really is something that intrigues me' to 'Let's have lots of sex and babies'. People can and frequently are amazing people that still aren't people you want to live with and build a life with. That process doesn't need a lot of time, but it does require effort on both sides.

Which is my timid, indecisive and blustery way of saying that I far prefer confident and direct.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sweet, kind, lovable, funny and outgoing but all at the same time are not necessary. Luckily, I found someone WITH ALL of those. And, boy, will my fiance be pissed when I tell her about her!! (Just kidding, JLB! It's YOU!! MWAH!!!)

gasman70 · Answer

I don't want them to be overly direct but directness is nice. I know that it's very scary to put yourself out there like that for rejection purposes but if you like someone, tell them. you only go around once. I like the flirting style to be heavy.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

I suppose confident and direct because I myself am already shy and reserved enough for like literally 10 people lol...

OneViewpoint · Answer

Confident and direct. I'm sorta done making allowances for and devoting my time to developing a personality in shy wallflowers.

Still-alive · Answer

It would really be great if they just straight up told me. The guessing game gets tiring lol

Anonymous · Answer

Everything you just listed is a turnoff to me.

If she has so little cofidence that she needs some of mine to feel whole, then i'm NOT interested. At 30+ she's an adult. I'd much rather her be attracted to who i am than who she percieves me to be.👍

Nikki1989 · Answer

Confident and direct. I don't want to have to second-guess everything.

rgb008 · Answer

I prefer to have their interest in me fade. I prefer to feel interest first

exitseven · Answer

I was very shy around girls and would appreciate a little push.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

I like people who are confident without being overbearing. When people act shy and retiring I feel sorry for them and wish they'd shape up.

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

Confident and direct, same as me!

wkhan_87 · Answer

Confident and comfortable

Kathryn4_ · Answer

Direct but subtle.

jahaims · Answer

Shy means no emotionally healthy

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