I want to date ... but I don't have money .. What to do ?

Question

I like a girl , she kinda likes me too ... but I neither have a car nor I have enough money to go on a date . What can I do ?

And what should I do to make her feel comfortable ( if I go on a date ) ?

I live with mt family and my dad pays for all my stuffs . But my dad doesn't want me to date and he won't give me money for that . What can I do ?

How can I make the girl not realize that I am short on money ?

What should be done ? Should I ask the girl for a date ?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Okay, first you have to answer this question:  Do you want to go on a date because that's what you really want, or because you believe it is what you are supposed to do with a girl you like?  If you base a relationship on the world's standards, nothing will last.  If you want to ask her out, make it for a good reason.  Be inspired.  If she loves art, ask her out because there's this amazing art museum that you want to see.  If she loves music, take her to an open mic that your friend invited you to.  Obviously I don't know a thing about either of you, but you get the idea.  Instead of a "date", meet her somewhere and go for a walk with her.  Buy her a hot dog, because it's fun and hot dogs are good, not because she's rich and you're supposed to feed a girl on a date.  (just make sure she isn't vegan or something first...) And then let your relationship determine the dates and not the other way around.  If it is a good enough relationship, then money will never be an issue.  After some of your "personalized" dates, if you want to go to some fancy restaurant, then maybe she'll ask. I've always thought that the asker should pay.  If she offers to pay, then you tip.  And save up your money for an every once in a while date, where you can splurge and spoil her like you want.  She will totally understand if she is any way deserving of the thought that you have put into this issue.  You obviously care about her, which is better than being "well-off".

Angelyn · Accepted Answer

Not all girls expect you to take them to a 5 star restaurant and foot the whole bill, doing something that's more personal and has some thought in it will go a long way with us (most of us love it, including myself).

If you like her ask her.. why does money matter, if she's only interested in dating a man that can buy her expensive things - is she really worth seeing?

Ask her to get a cup of coffee or watch a movie together at home, be creative.. you don't need to spend a fortune on us to impress us.

queefy · Accepted Answer

Darling, if I expected a boy to have money, car and his own place, I never would've lost my virginity at 13 to a high schooler. No, he was living with his parents...but he was sweet, funny, good looking and had a huge weiner. Even to this day that's enough for me because I pay my own bills, believe it or not.

Forgetable · Accepted Answer

I'm not rich, but for the cost of gas my girlfriend and I have had some really amazing dates, not the typical kind of dates, but really we just love each others company, yes for the first few dates we did more traditional stuff like going for coffee, lunch/snack out, etc. After awhile we just felt so comfortable and just clicked that we went for hikes, and spent a lot of time in the back of a truck making observations and talking/getting to know each other better. Now we do whatever, we've gone to a local national park, gone to some movies, stayed home and watched movies we love that one of us seen, but the other hasn't, we've even just gone to stores to walk and check out things we may be interested, we've even done some grocery shopping together.

You don't need a lot of money to have a good AND romantic time.

Nic92 · Accepted Answer

I think you don't have to go to expensive restaurants, save that for when you win the lottery... take her to a quiet cafe, or if you're very short on money, take her out to the park for a walk. A date does not have to be in a restaurant/cinema so don't worry too much.

In any case, however, I think it would be necessary to have at least a few bucks cause you never know what might happens, and you'd probably spend it at some time, an ice cream for example.

Samanosuke47 · Answer

In my experience if you ask a girl out on a date, you need to have something in mind first beforehand, cause if she says yes, you'll, like me, be kinda surprised she said yes, and then realize, hey I didn't have this planned out if she said yes. lol So plan something out first, try something that's not really a date, but more of a hangout, like go to a park and just.. walk a talk? lol Idk.

saphirasilverwings · Answer

I think you should ask her out on a date that you can afford, i.e. costs nothing (or very little if you do have some savings you wish to spend on it). Some ideas? Go for a hike or bike ride, walk your dog, borrow your neighbor's dog if you don't have one, play games, hang out at the park, bake or do a craft, find a free event or festival to go to. Dating should be about having fun together and getting to know each other, not proving that your wallet is bottomless.

blondie2013 · Answer

Do things that don't really cost money, like going for a walk in the park, going hiking, watching dvd's at home, playing video games, playing board games or cards, something like that. They won't be the most exciting and original dates in the world, but if she really likes you, she won't care. It's about being with each other, not how much money you spend.

avella_Dec · Answer

Find out if she is interested in you as well and then there are many options.  Do you mean you do not have "any" money or that you don't think you have enough for her..? Please, if you are not a leech and like her, ask her out. Many people have an abundance and just really want a good caring person in their life.

snowboarder720 · Answer

well I don't think a date is absolutely necessary to be with a girl. There are ways to getting to know a girl without spending cash. All they are really looking for is a guy who'll give them good company, regardless of the activity.

Ask her on a walk and talk about each others day, take her to the zoo, bring a soccer ball and play a game of pass. Just be yourself, that's all they are looking for.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

Ask the girl out,money doesn't make or break a date. Any woman that cares about a date having to have involved money is not worth a damn anyways. Just let her know you don't have much atm and want to enjoy a home cooked meal (you make) or a walk out with something that doesn't cost much or ya, just let her know.

AskMeYourQuestions · Answer

MONEY IS NOT AN ISSUE. If she is the right girl, money will not be an issue. When I met my boyfriend he was a broke college student, and I had no problem with that. Be honest, and tell her your broke. If you like her, make sure she likes you for you... the REAL you.

Eiffelgirl21 · Answer

Do something else...ask her to meet you at the park or something...

prepare lunch...and bring it along..and bring a blanket...

or just play sports..or hang out and talk...I would LOVE any of that.

Tell her that you like to be different..when you say why the park...or something.

iLoveHouseMusic · Answer

"the girl whom I want to date is kinda rich" - and this is AWESOME!

Do something with her what she has never done before!

Ask her Do you want to remember this day forever? and take her to McDonalds.

If she will not order there anything no worries! All you need is a place where to walk or sit so you can both chat. Take her somewhere where poor people go or the things they usually do!

jillianjoyce · Answer

Do something that doesn't require money-I'm pinching pennies like you wouldn't believe  because I hoard my money to the point of going without food, and I think its much sweeter to hang with a guy at his house or just meet up at a park or library than to go blowin money left and right. So what if she's rich?! All the more reason to impress her on how much more fun a date can be without $$ ;)

Anonymous · Answer

You don't need money to go on a date silly. Location ideas include, beach, museum, park, lake (if you have one near by). Ask her out for sure, if she likes I doubt your financial status won't be the most immediate thing on her mind, Show her what your personality is worth.

iveth · Answer

let her know the truth and well the way you can get money is get a job or tell your dad hey I need to buy blah blah blah give me money but instead you go on  a date and plus some girls don't mind if a guy is broke a girl is also willing to pay.

AmberChick · Answer

Ask her but tell her you aren't able to go on extravagant dates because you're broke. Then take her someplace where it doesn't require you pay for her, like a walk on the beach or something, and then get a job

eliza517 · Answer

If she's worth it, then go out with her. Do something free, like invite her over for DVD's or something. If you need to try to impress her with money, she ain't the right one.

girloncue · Answer

1. get a job. 2.you don't have to have money. go for a walk and talk, go for a drive.

Blankname1 · Answer

There are many things you guys can do together that is free.

Anonymous · Answer

if she's shady don't waste your time. but don't ask her on a date and tell her to pay lol

Hades · Answer

No money, no woman I'm afraid. I'd wait until you have some.

ambrielle82 · Answer

I agree with a lot of the comments, there are plenty of things you could do that will involve minimal to no money. If the girl likes you as well there shouldn't be an issue.

gigi_zeppelin · Answer

you can go to the park and just chill or go to a museum, some of them are free :)

oOsweet~o~nessOo · Answer

... Why won't your dad let you date?

Alanaaa · Answer

Yeah, just do something free.

yougotwhatineed · Answer

do something that doesn't involve money

AllDay · Answer

if she likes you then nothing else matters

MzNatalie · Answer

Get a job.

ColtsFanForever · Answer

you don't need money to go on a date

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