Physical contact when you first meet a girl and she's into you.

[Anonymous]

Like when you meet a girl for the first time like at a small gathering of friends (not a huge party) and she seems into you and makes some subtle physical contact like touching feet/ hands on "accident" or slowly moving closer to you etc,. what does a girl expect the guy to do? I never try to make a lot of physical contact at first because I don't want to have a girl think I'm just a horny guy and get creeped out. I guess I'm kind of old fashioned when it comes to this but I think I don't make enough physical contact and then end up losing their interest because they either think I'm not interested or whatever other reasons.

So what should I do when a girl does that kind of stuff? I'm in college but kind of new to flirting...

[Anonymous]

You nailed it on the head my friend! You don't make physical contact soon enough and you lose her.

I had a situation a couple years ago at a party, where I was flirting with this girl and we hit it off. Then we were sitting on couch and her thigh was right against mine. Her foot would occassionally "accidentally" touch mine, and she'd playfully hit me in a teasing way in conversation. I started rubbing my feet on the carpet and shocking her with the static electricity. We were playful like this for awhile. I managed to get her number in the cab on the way home and asked her out for the next week. After a few drinks out and more flirting at one point she just leaned in and started totally making out with me. It was the fastest I'd EVER gone from meeting a girl to getting her in bed (we went back to her place). I still think about that night!

[Asker]

Haha f*** yeah man! Something like that happened to me before but we only ended up making out because her jealous guy friend **** blocked us lol. But she really initiated and made most of the physical contact.

[Opinion Owner]

You totally should've followed that one up later on a one-on-one date. In my case I asked for a one-on-one date but she turned it into drinks with friends. Then it was just us, her friend and that girl's boyfriend. They left eventually and we went to another place for a drink. The cover charge was really a waste since she was all over me halfway through the first drink and we went back to her place shortly after that. As a guy who's NO sort of player, it was an incredible rush!

[hsshannah96]

The only touching I would be alright with when I first meet a guy for about the first few months is stroking the arm or palm or hand, holding hands, putting an arm around my shoulders or patting my shoulder... face is extremely intimate and by far off limits for a while. Same thing with THIGHS. This is a very intimate area. for people you love. and a LOT of repetitive stroking and touching the back a lot is very very intimate as well... that should come later... at least in my opinion

[Anonymous]

just tactfully put your arm around her or something cute like that. or start talking and get really close (that always ups the sexual tension), or offer to buy her a drink, or ask if she wants to go outside for a bit.