Guys, can you get emotionally attached to a girl through eye contact?

[Anonymous]

Like if you locked eyes everyday for months? but no talking. would you start to feel something for her?

[mobligator]

I don't think the Headline question correlates very well with the question that follows, i. e. quote: "Like if you locked eyes everyday for months? but no talking. would you start to feel something for her"?
To become emotionally attached to someone you would need to do much more than to simply look at them or "eye them up" like in the above question. Sure you might begin to feel as though you want to get to know the girl personally after having eye contact for a period of time but this wouldn't be considered emotionally attached by any definition. You would have to get to know a person personally to ever become emotionally attached and this might take anywhere from weeks to months. I don't have much faith in the adage, "Love at first sight". I firmly believe true love only comes from knowing a person well but a great attraction to someone might have been at first sight and consequently it later turned into love.

[Bananaman177]

Dude, WW2 pilots would put a DRAWING of a girl on their airplanes. They pinned black and white photos of women to the walls of their barracks.

Men have gone to certain death, horrible and agonizing death, and steeled themselves against the fear by looking at a flower that a girl gave them months ago.

I think it's fucking sad the way women take men's love and adoration for them completely and totally for granted. I think it's sad how women perceive men as emotionless because we have to learn to shield our emotions from the world from such a young age. Why do they think we have to be so tough? We're guarding something in ourselves that is incredibly fragile and delicate from a world that has absolutely no regard for it.

I think more women than ever before have no regard for what's inside a man's heart.

[Asker]

Well thanks for your answer, i am just trying to figure out if this shy guy likes me, he looks at me a lot makes eye contact and looks at me when im not looking stuff like that, but then sometimes he ignores me... what do you think? and by the way i was the one who started looking at him

[ZbitHound]

This is critical ground. You are both sizing each other up. All the emotions you feel, guys feel, and sometimes with more intensity. Bananaman177 made a good point too. Guys are, by society and history, the family member that is tough and willing to die for his family. Father, Son, Cousin, Uncle, Grandpa. They all have to be tough. I am more expressive with my emotions because I didn't care when I was young, and I have mental problems. This causes my dad and I to clash because he is more on the tough end of the scale and I am nearly soft enough that a spitwad would punch a hole in me. I hope my example helped, and I had to commend Bananaman177 for his observant explanation as well.

[Khitaka]

Yeah to a degree. Not like, relationship wise. But if a random girl looks me in the eyes it shows me that she's more open and interested in me. Which is of course an emotional attachment. Like, Ooh this girl seems into me, I'll flirt her up and see what she's like. It's more of an emotional attachment than I'd have to any random tranche I don't have time for.

[Matthael]

Wow, my initial answer was no. But then, I've had those moments that truly exemplifies the phrase "the eyes are the windows to ones soul".

Someone may accidentally let some emotion slip through their strong facade through their eyes. And I guess from seeing those emotions, you sort of emphatize for that person and so build some industries of one sided emotional attachment.

[1988fido]

Eyes are gates to the soul.
:) if he stares there is possibility he like u. And if he didn't from the start he will if he keep doing it.

The minimum there is a crush and attractiveness sexually.
Maximum there is love from first site ( which I never experienced don't know if it is true but some swear by it )

Safe to assume he is interested in u and want to know u more to get to like u

[shadow1332]

yes. ones eyes are believed to be a key to a persons soul, it is therefore to make a very strong emotional connection to a person when you look into a persons eyes. It is for this reason you can tell when someone is lying to you. This is a sub-conscience thing and can't be prevented

[FýrdracaDócincel]

I can say I did. We already knew each other for a while and I already kinda liked her. Thing was she always seemed so hardened and sad (still a nice girl though), but one time she looked at me with a kind of happiness and life in her eyes that seemed to be such a huge contrast from her normal pessimistic, depressed self.

I was immediately hooked.

[Cplee98]

if you count a crush maybe and it also depends if the girl is cute and how long we'd locked eyes ex: too long = creepy ex: too short = just passing by (unless if its constant) other than that the guy would start to notice the girl

[Asker]

It's kind of long, but do you still think he would like it?

[Cplee98]

well do you sometimes notice him taking glimpses at you too? its kind of hard to tell since i dont know him myself but try talking to him somtime

[Asker]

He looks at me a lot and when i look his way he turns away really fast

[Cplee98]

there might be a chance he might like you too don't quote me on that. he may just be as shy as you are

[Asker]

But at least he thinks im pretty?

[serious]

No, I won't get emotionally attached to a woman if at all I did something like having an eye contact for months ( which I won't have in first place).

Hence no I won't feel anything also.

[Asker]

Well if i guy would make prolonged eye contact with a girl for months what could that mean?

[serious]

"Well if i guy would make prolonged eye contact with a girl for months what could that mean?"

Even I don't know for sure, but it could mean that the woman's facial features are very attractive or that guy finds the eyes of that woman beautiful.

[Asker]

But he wouldn't keep doing it because he thought i was ugly? i was the one who started looking at him by the way, and he noticed and looked right back.

[serious]

"But he wouldn't keep doing it because he thought i was ugly?"

Ok, so you think you are physically ugly or something? yes you are right if a woman is ugly or not that good looking then a guy wouldn't have eye contact for months, that would be strange yes.

[serious]

" i was the one who started looking at him by the way, and he noticed and looked right back."

Well it doesn't matter who started it, but if he has been having eye contact with you for months then it means he must know you as a person and so he definitely admires you in some way, he definitely likes your personality.

That has to be the only other reason possible.

[uknaked]

Not if you didn't at first, but as you keep doing it there is attraction on both sides, you both need to communicate. Someone has to speak first! Get on with it!

[Anonymous]

NO.
Men who say otherwise are confusing lust with "emotional connection".

Thinking a girl likes him will make him like her back because it makes him think there is a female who is willing to have sex with him.

[Asker]

So me looking at him a lot makes him like me back? that's why he always lock eyes with me?

[Opinion Owner]

No not "like" you back... but he will take interest because there is a female showing interest in him and that means he can get laid.

[Asker]

But is there a bigger chance that he would start to like me if he feels like that?

[Asker]

you know if i started talking to him

[Opinion Owner]

If you start talking to him he will likely be interested (in sex) but if you hold off he will be forced to get to know you and if you have a good personality, he might start to get feelings for you.
But if you give up sex before that happens, he will only see you as sex.

[Asker]

But how is he gonna get to know me if we don't talk?

[Asker]

Sorry read your answer wrong, i get what you mean.

[Asker]

So i should start talking to him but don't have sex with him, and then he would hopefully start liking me?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely -- this happened to me once, we locked eyes for months, but it turned out I was just in her line of site from across the room and she didn't feel anything. But yes, I was infatuated for that time.

[Anonymous]

Yes definitely if he didn't like you or lost interest he wouldn't look at you anymore, he may be just nervous and unsure if you feel the same way, men can't read woman's minds or tell how they feel just by the way they are looking atthem, so we look for some sort of a signal...

[Asker]

What kind of signal?

[Opinion Owner]

A smile is usually a good signal that you would like to be approached

[Brisk]

Agreed. However, if she's a player, things get complicated. ;)

[Asker]

I know.. i don't know why i can't smile at him.. when we lock eyes i get kind of lost in his eyes so i don't think of smiling...

[Opinion Owner]

Can i ask you a question are you really pretty?

[Asker]

How would i know?

[Asker]

Why do you ask that?

[Opinion Owner]

Because beautiful woman can look very intimidating when they look at you and don't smile

[Asker]

@babbyfaaace look for yourself and tell me what you think?

[Asker]

That's my user name, - the @ lol

[Brisk]

@babbyfaaace You are definitely attractive (in my eyes)!

[Asker]

@Brisk well thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes you are you should definitely give him a smile when you see him again or even just go talk to him you both like each other but he is too nervous to come talk to you!

[Asker]

But im so unsure of that, you know if he even likes me.. i was the one who started looking at him so sometimes i think that's the only reson he looks at me because i look at him..

[Brisk]

95% of guys would like the girl to take the first step. So don't worry, you are attractive and he's most probably not gonna turn you down.

[Asker]

@Brisk Im way to shy to make a move...

[Brisk]

Well then, just look at him and concentrate on giving him a little smile or look shortly and then look away on the ground and smile. Both should indicate him that you are interested and maybe he will make the move.

[Asker]

@Brisk Thanks i will try that!

[Opinion Owner]

Just give him a cute little smile when you see him looking at you again, trust me he will come talk to you within a day or two if not even straight away... If he does't and you really like him you gonna have to go talk to him else you will both just keep staring at each other! Trust me iv been there before when i was in my 20s

[Asker]

Thanks, i hope it works.

[Brisk]

I hope so too. :)
Feel free to share your experiences.

[Browneye57]

You have it backwards - the feelings are manifested in the staring.
Geez, just say hello or something. [shrug]

[Asker]

Don't really understand?

[Browneye57]

The answer is no, a guy does not become emotionally attached to a girl if he stares at her. He stares at her because he's attracted to her.

[guysaskgirls555]

not really true. Some people who im not even attracted too give me emotional attachment because they may remind me of someone. I just think browneye is a robot so he cannot feel.

[Browneye57]

@guysaskgirls555 Evidently you don't even know what emotional attachment is sonny. :)

Guys get it from sex, not staring at her. Duh.

[Asker]

How could guys get emotionally attached from sex when they can fuck every girl without feeling anything?

[Browneye57]

You are showing your lack of understanding between the difference of girls and guys.
Girls connect emotionally. Guys connect physically. Their brains are wired differently. I know, the FI keeps telling you everybody is the same - they're just not.

And not all of them 'just fuck every girl' - those are the ones you're supposed to avoid. 80%of the girls are chasing 15% of those alpha fuck-boys. Consider just not doing that.

[Asker]

I feel like most guys are like that, they can have sex with every girl they see and still they don't feel a thing for any of them..

[Browneye57]

It's a shame that you think you can actually think for the guys you know. You really should consider just not doing that - it won't serve you well.
You're just confused about all this. I suspect you won't get the answers you need here. Perhaps there's someone more mature in your life that you trust that you can talk to.

[guysaskgirls555]

browneye thats not true at all BUT sure does give you emotional attachment both man and female. Even someones facial expression can make you feel a certain way about them. Some people are not as simple as only getting emotional attachment from physical interactions and the feelings that someone develops from looking someone in their eyes may be pretty minuscule, but it sure is there otherwise you would think nothing but sex when you see a girl. The only time I correlate a girl with sex when im looking at her is if she is dressed in some revealing clothes as it is sending off a different type of message per say to a girl who dresses normal.

[Lumalu]

Yes once I have seen a girl and in the first second I knew I just had to get to know her!

[Joedegr8]

yes.. but given that its a friendly and long lasted looking..😇

[MrAssHat]

yes lol.. also guilty of falling in love with a voice lol

[OGEuphonium]

Yes, it's a scientific thing with mere exposure blah blah. Yes though, it's very possible

[DrBiG]

yes, I thought for sometime that I am in love with girl with I just had eye contact. but nothing

[Totally_A_Dude]

Yes, this has actually been scientifically proven (weirdly enough).

[Ranude2011]

Definitely, it's one of the starting steps of a kiss anyways

[Deathraider]

No. We could feel the urge to approach, but no emotional connection.

[Bilo007]

Love at first sight, Happened to me once. long long time ago...

[thomasans]

Stop believing what your fantasy's are. Go talk if the stare is real. Then you decide.

[Asker]

And how will i know when i talk to him?

[thomasans]

You will feel it or not. Never will know if you dont try. Dont wait and hope it happens. Make a trail to help it happen. What can you lose?

[Asker]

But how would i know? how will he act if he likes me?

[thomasans]

He will be polite. Listen and smile. He'll make you feel comfortable

[Asker]

And if he doesn't like me?

[thomasans]

He won't be as talkative and happy. And why wouldn't he?

[Asker]

I mean people are mostly polite so that's not really a sign that he likes me more than a friend right?

[thomasans]

If he goes out of his way to be noticed. Some guys get lazy if a girl shows interest

[thomasans]

I dont know. Why dont you just tell him you want to go on a date. I like that and it usually always worked, if I was Avaliable.

[wellwisher_a]

obviously! I can also approach if these are most often.

[nickh1100]

lol you can get attracted but you can't get attatched, not for a good reason at least

[funexplorer]

I would start to like her and then I would approach her and start a coversaton.

[idk99]

yes speaking with eyes is better than words to me

[Davh10]

Yes , with the pass of time, a man who see a girl everyday starts feeling good doing that and some noise in his brain obligate to start talking to her

[Ghassan2]

Yes, it is the chemistry inside every man that does this to us. It's beautiful.

[Anonymous]

A guy can get emotionally attached to a girl in a lot of ways with eye contact being among them.

[Anonymous]

I look at her because I like her, I don't like her because I look at her.