If a girl that already has a boyfriend kisses me, does this mean she loves me more than her boyfriend?

[Some-Guy]

Last night me and my friend who I have had a crush on for about 4 months were lying together watching a DVD. She was cuddling into me. After the DVD I just played my xbox cos it was almost time for her to go home and I wanted to show her something. She lay across my lap looking up and me. Every so often she lent up and bit my face (its just a joke kinda thing), But every time she did it she got closer and closer to my mouth until finally she kissed me on the lips (she had kissed me on the cheek several times before). Then she got up saying "im sorry" and started to get her stuff together. She was ill and maybe she wasnt thinking straight. I then walked her home because she had been fainting a lot in the last week and I didn't want her to faint when nobody was around. I had my arm around her cos if she fainted I could catch her quickly. I looked down at her face and saw a tear running down her face. I asked if she was okay and she said she was fine. We got to her house and she hugged me as we always do.

Later on I was talking to her on msn and I asked her how she was and she replied "sorry". Then I said "you know I love you too". Then she started asking if it was friend love or do I actually love her. I said I actually love her. There was a silence for about 2 minutes and then she finally said "i don't know what to say". The she told me she loved me as a friend and she loves her boyfriend, but she doesn't know,she confused right now. Then she said she had a dream when she fell asleep in my arms that we kissed and my brother walked in and was that real? because she said it felt real. She then said "I quite like it cos all of my dreams are good". She is acting/pretending she didn't kiss me.

At the moment we have resumed talking normally but there's still a tention. She has trusted me with her deepest secrets and mine with her and we are like best friends but I hope I haven't ruined our friendship.

[marwuzcraze]

Either it's a spur of the moment kind of kiss, or she's confused.

I say, if its the first, she needs to stop flirting with you, and you with her. It's only going to hurt you both more, and if her boyfriend found out, he would not approve. So lay off the cuddling.

If it's the second one and she's truly confused, she needs to tell her boyfriend! She needs a good break from both of you guys! And she needs to make up her mind. She needs to think about who she likes more, and who she wants more--- Not who she's going to hurt.

This situation is unfair to everyone, but that's my advice. This happened to my boyfriend before we dated-- kinda... We never really kissed, but we flirted a lot without noticing... And one day he realized that he didn't really care for his girlfriend the same way anymore.

You need to talk to her, and she has to talk back.

And she needs to tell her boyfriend-- that's if she's confused.

[Angera]

I wouldn't get involved with a girl like that... any girl that has a boyfriend is a big no no. she obviously is very confused and she's probably crying because she hurt her boyfriend and she's afraid to hurt you too. I think you should give her some space to really think things through. I don't want to seem harsh but I think it's mostly having something you can't have.

[aelita]

she is probulary very confused, she obviously likes you though she doesn't want to because it changes the situation between her and her boyfriend, and her and herfriendship with you. If I were you, I'd wait it out, go with the flow and wait for her to calm down and have a chance to think things through without any pressure. good luck, I hope everything works out ok

[Tehlrov]

You're walking into a huge drama explosion; do you really want to have to be the one the boyfriend blames for the inevitable breakup? Do you want to place yourself in the position of a scapegoat?

I'd honestly try and avoid this. You could choose to press the issue, but be aware that there is a high probability that it will end badly. She could even come to blame you in the end.

[Anonymous]

most likely an in the monent kiss

probs means nothing since she didn't follow it through

[debzhere]

you didn't do anything wrong...this is the time people find out who and what they like and it seems she wants it both ways with you...to kiss you and have you there as a friend as well as thinking of you as a bf...id keep it as a friend or she might hurt you since she is so unsure

[Paigeheart]

shes just really confused jus give her some time to think it through.i don't think you ruined the friendship you might have jus made it better.

[DeLaSoul]

STAY AWAY FROM HER!

AND SHAME ON YOU FOR KISSING HER; SHE IS TAKEN!