Just got rejected, but I feel GREAT?

[Anonymous]

I got rejected today, but instead of feeling disappointed or depressed I feel great! Like I have honestly never felt this good since who knows when! But why am I not sad? Is it because I already know I would be rejected and why I would be(she was already into a guy at work)? Or did I not really like her? Does anyone have any idea why I don't feel sad?

[OpenClose]

1. Give it a bit. It usually takes a bit of time for it to sink in, and usually not in the way you think. You may start thinking about WHY she rejected you or WHO she rejected you for. I only say this, because mentioning it ahead of time is a good way to prevent it.

2. You're not sad because you're too busy being awesome. Awesomeness is a full-time job. You weren't hung up on this girl, you had nothing hanging in the balance. So basically, you're healthy. Stop questioning a blessing! :)

3. It's a hella load off your chest. You don't have to think about opportunities with this girl or "what if". You can move on to other girls or to yourself (I suggest the latter) without wondering what potential relationship you're missing out on, because there's NO relationship to miss out on.

4. Keep being awesome. Go out and join a gym or rock-climbing or some group or something. Get some practice at being awesome so you can power through those times that aren't so awesome.

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

"When I get sad I stopped being sad and become awesome instead."- Barney Stinson. I think that's what you did. All I can say is kudos to you and I wish I had the balls to do that. Hopefully they'll grow on in a couple of days or weeks so I can start approaching all the fine ladies. haha

[Anonymous]

u know I remember I was in high school and I liked a guy like crazyyyy! since freshman year and after like 2 yrs...i found out he wasn't into me like that...i didn't care either! I kinda just shrugged it off lol

but at the same time I was so young, and so are you, you're under 18...and sometimes its hard to know what real love feels like...

either way its a blessing your not hurting!

i fell in love with a new guy in college and man it still hurts today years later. he was the love of my life I guess you can say.

[xTeacup]

To me it sounds like you're probably just excited you got that out of the way?

You had a hunch that you were going to get rejected.

But you wanted to make sure, so you wouldn't wonder "what if?"

Now that you've been rejected, that's off your shoulders?

That's really the only logical explanation I could think of. :]

Maybe you weren't crazy into her either, but that's good considering she's into someone else. :]

Or maybe you didn't like her? That's really up for you to decide.

[CrystalMinds]

Be glad you're not sad! It could be that you kinda knew she was going to reject you, but still, it isn't something that makes you feel fab ;)

That's the way to go!

I got dumped last week and I'm feeling quite good too, I'm more like: well, if he doesn't want me, I'll find someone else :)

[TooOldForThis5545]

You don't feel sad for several reasons:

1) You're an independent guy with a healthy level of self-esteem. You don't depend on the acceptance of a girl for your happiness.

2) You knew what you wanted, and you had the guts to go for it.

3) You don't have to spend months or years wondering, "What if?" You know exactly where you stand with this girl; you know that you can stop wasting your time on her and move on to a girl who is actually interested in you.

[Anonymous]

Because you had some balls to do what 50% of guys won't do. Even though you failed, at least you have balls and you feel great about that :P one time I walked up to this super hot girl that was studying in the library. It was a quiet zone so I couldn't talk to her and she was with her friend so it would have been awkward. I wrote my number on a piece of paper and said she's cute and should give me a call. She never did, but after that, I felt so great. ha ha I had a bounce in my step and everything.

[animalwithin]

Because you stepped up and did what many guys are afraid to do. I always tell guys, if you see a woman you like, go talk to her. Who cares if she rejects you, you're a much better man if you go against all the negativity and fear that goes on in your mind when you approach a woman, no matter what the end result is.

[Uglyfatass]

Sorry I disagree, I would rather not say a word then get rejected and laughed at.

[animalwithin]

Because you're looking at it incorrectely. If you are held back by the fear or rejection, you will never approach a woman or interact with one with regards to dating, etc. and that could lead you to being alone for a long time. The problem with most men is that they take rejection and apply it to who they are as a person. Oh, she rejected me, that must mean I am a worthless human being who doesn't deserve a woman. That is when things go bad for the guy, where all the bad feelings come from.

[animalwithin]

Guys associate rejection internally and that does tremendous damage to one's self esteem and self worth and leads to a life without women. I'm here to tell you that those who succeed in any aspect of life are those who got rejected and failed the most. I've been rejected by more women than I can count when I was back in high school. I then went on to date many attractive women in college and looking back, all those rejections I took made me stronger. Its all in how you look at it.

[SuperNurse42]

The same thing just happened to me a couple hours ago with a crush in my nursing class. To me, it's the satisfaction of knowing that I had the balls to ask her out instead of being a pussy like usual and always wondering "what if?"

Maybe in the future I will give it another shot.

[ThatsNotMyNameX]

Well that happend to me once, I was dating this girl and everything was fine and then just one day ( Valentine's day), she just dumped me over Facebook, I felt awesome I didn't know why eaither but I can just tell you, that was the best day I've had in months!

[sweet_18]

It's because you're proud of yourself that you took the chance and so now you will never be left wondering what could have been had you not asked her out. You feel like a strong person because you can handle rejection. And also you're no longer feeling anxious about whether or not she'll accept you. Relationships and the anxiety that comes with them are stressful

[LifeEqualsLove]

I couldn't have said this better.. so true

[CasaNorba]

did this just happen now? cause when you get rejected right in moment you always will feel kinda euphoric. but then after a few days of knowing you got rejected is when you start to feel down; I don't know, that's how I feel when I get rejected along with a few others. or maybe that's just you psychologically fighting it

[Asker]

Yea it was yesterday around 2:30 when school ended

[MarikYo]

You got over her.

Happened to me before. I liked a girl but didn't have balls to ask her out for a while. Once asked her out and she said that she has a boyfriend I felt like 100kg of weight just fell of my shoulders and now I could go and chase other girls.

[LexiNinja]

I think you feel "great" about it as you say because you finally got verification that she wasn't interested in you. Now you can move on about it. I think it's somewhat of a feeling of relief of some sort

[Anonymous]

you are probably just feeling a sense of relief. I had the same feeling when I found out the guy I liked slept with someone else. I was sad for a minute and then felt the happiest I had in a while. I think it was being I finally knew where his head was and that was a relief to me and I was able to move on.

[Anonymous]

You're probably just relieved that it's over and done.

I felt the same when I was once rejected by a guy. It was because I didn't really like him that much. I only asked him because I thought he liked me and I felt sorry for him. So when he rejected me, I was extremely relieved and felt great that I could stop worrying about him.

[Uglyfatass]

Thats wrong, what if he did like u?. You would date a guy based on pitty?

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

You asked a guy out out of pity or is that the lie you're telling yourself to get over the rejection?

[Anonymous]

I think you feel great because you have no worries. Before, you were probably nervous about what she'd say or you had an inkling that she might be into someone else.

I felt the same way after getting rejected by a guy who had been leading me on a few months ago. I was just happy to have the answer, whether it was the one I wanted or the one I didn't. Then, I had nothing to worry about. Problem solved.

[crookthings]

Maybe because at least you got it over with, haha. You put yourself out there and the worst that could happen happened and you're still fine. It's freeing.

[arashmenalagha]

Feels good doesn't it?! I would like to pull something like this, but I get the answer yes. and now I have a girlfriend and I can't leave her.



but in high school they would say no or I wouldn't try.

[shumailkazimi]

thats the spirit ...ur not sad since you were prepared for this mess and wen it came you did as it shld be done you never took it over your heart...thats what every1 shld do

[lmea78]

That's great! That's how we should take things...!

Is better to have the idea we'll be rejected by someone...give me the tip! ;)

[froggyboy51]

Its great you feel great. Back in the day I'd feel something was wrong with me, but nowadays if I get rejected I pretty much forget about it and move to the next girl. You probably just felt it wasn't a mistake you made and moved on.

[Operations]

It takes a lot of guts to ask. It's never easy to do. By doing so, you have the confidence to do it and next time it won't be so hard. But hat's off to you for handling it like a pro.

[rockhaha]

You probably don't feel bad cause you really didn't like your ex to much

[Anonymous]

Because your gut had the instinct that she was a bitch & your mind & body are on a natural high right now.. Nah... Just kidding.. I dunno.. That was my honest guess?

[Anonymous]

Because you took a risk and the world didn't end. Good job!

[JustReallyBored]

Maybe because you went for it. You just did it and because you did it, you aren't going to sit there and say "what if" because you went for it. :)
Plenty more fish in the sea

[Uglyfatass]

I don't care how old you are, or what you look like rejection sucks.

[yopyopyop]

It will come later ;)

[drummerdude25]

So true, lol.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Indeed.

[Anonymous]

Well, maybe u were tired of crushing on her and when u finally got rejected then u didn't have to think about her anymore? This happened to a friend of mine...

[Anonymous]

It's probably because you weren't expecting her to say yes. If you had thought she'd say yes then you'd probably be a bit more upset.

[drummerdude25]

Ehh... give it a day or two.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

haha this.

[Anonymous]

Cause you swallowed sadness...like a boss.

[Yeahhbro]

i think you are in denial my friend

[Anonymous]

Dont question it just be thankful your not hurting

[LonelyandInTheDark]

wow, I wish I had that talent...