My crush's best friend is hitting on me big time!

[Anonymous]

i really like this guy and I think he likes me too by the way he was acting .. anyway he has this friend and they are really close and 24/7 with each other . me and his friend started talking but nothing that would give him any ideas . last night we were at a party and I was kind of drunk . my crush has some work to do with his friend he told me that they would go and come back to pick me up . but he went and his friend came back to stay more with me and he hugged me and kept holding me . I did not think of it that way until I went home but not with them my sister picked me up and we were chatting and he kept saying stuff like I wish you would think of me like you think of him and what if you liked me and if I had a girl like you I would'nt let go of her and then he said today for a while I felt like I wanted to kiss you . I changed the subject and logged out . and when I talked to my crush and asked him is it okay that am talking to your friend he answered that he is close to him as a brother ... and I think that his friend made me have second thoughts because my crush did not make move since forever .. what should I do ? do I tell him or I don't or I ignore it ?

[collegegrl18]

One question? Are you and your crush in a relationship? If you're not in a relationship and he hasn't made any moves on you then unfortunately it may be that he only considers you as a friend. Does your crush know you are interested in him? If he is well aware and doesn't do anything then it's time for you to stop dwelling on him and move on to someone who is actually interested in you, it may be his friend, or it may be another guy that you meet. Why were you chatting with his boyfriend online? Are you guys friends? Or is it that you like the attention he's giving you (not that anything is wrong with that) but at times we sometimes push a lot of great potential boyfriends/or girlfriends away because we are infatuated with this one person and hold on to the thought that maybe just maybe if we devote enough time they may turn around and see how great we are.

I'd recommend not telling your crush anything because if he hasn't made a move or showed any interest in you, hearing that his friend has been hitting on you may not effect him at all (since he may just see you as a friend) and he'd probably in his normal guy attitude encourage his friend and tell him about your conversation. This is is all while being totally oblivious to the fact that you like HIM not his friend.

If you think you can get this guy then I would be more forward and direct with your approach to clearly spell out that you are interested. If he doesn't take the obvious hints you're giving him then move on. There are plenty more fish in the sea as they say and there's no point wasting your time with one that refuses to take the bait.

[Asker]

the problem is he made a lot of moves and he get jealous and he is all over me when were out and does not talk to other girls like me but whn I told him I like you he said am not ready ! I was like am not askin for a relationship but I just want to know where I stand and he still never gave me a clear answr he only said . stand where ever you want ( not that I knew what it meant ) and now I think his friend was only testing me am clueless

[collegegrl18]

Well any guy who wants to use a friend to "test you" is a jerk anyway because it means he doesn't trust you and any relationship that starts with a lack of trust is sure to stay with a lack of trust. It seems like he's either not ready to commit to you or is placing the ball in your court for either fear of rejection, or because he's not man enough to tell you straight up what he wants. If I were you I wouldn't get too attached, if you want to keep seeing him that's fine but I would keep options open.