I can't believe how fast he moved on

[Anonymous]

I've been in a relationship with a guy for more than 3 years we were crazy for each other buying so many expensive gifts to handmade crafts all the cheesy stuff and even bought tickets to go to Japan together. He would do anything for me and I would too but then I started to feel like he was getting to needy complaining on how I wasn't there for him, I would invite him places and he would say no, eventually I got tired of how he was behaving and broke up with him. it tore me apart but I knew it was for the best and after we did talk like friends talking things out things seemed to be getting better but then I got really sick and lost contact with him. Less than a month after our breakup I find out he's with some other girl and that now she's his new girlfriend I felt really hurt by it like all we went through never mattered to him all 3 years gone, his friends came and talked to me and tried to make me feel better and it helped a little but I can't believe how fast he moved on. I can't sleep at night I cry every time I think about it. guys have asked me out and one even asked me to be his girlfriend he was really nice but I told him I couldn't that I'm not over my X its to soon and I never went out with the other guys. I just don't understand how he can just fall in love with some other girl so fast. I feel like I had a good point breaking up with him because to me this makes him seem desperate. what do you guys think?

[QueenBeatris]

YOU left him and wonder why HE moved on? think about what you are saying,basically YOU moved on first now you have a problem with his jumping into a new relationship? he is not IN LOVE yet,its the beginning of the relationship...he was probably devastated when you left him and found refuge with someone else...let him be happy,and you find someone to make you happy too.He didn't do anything wrong here,if you loved him that much a breakup should NEVER have been an option,working through things was the only way to save this,too late now

[AnnieVincereVelMori]

As much as I wish I could make you feel better, we lose the right to care how fast they move on once we leave them. Some people NEED to be in a relationship and the only way they can move on is to be with someone else. If you truly loved him, just try to be happy that he is happy again and give yourself permission to move on as well.

[candlewax]

It's not love.

One, it's a rebound.

Two, you said he's clingy and apparently he's codependent if he's jumping into something else so fast.

I wouldn't take it personally. Dude has issues.

[DodgersGM]

I can relate to how you feel. I recently broke up with my Girlfriend of five and a half years (honestly, the breakup was as mutual and cordial as it gets), and about five weeks later I heard through some friends that she was hanging out quite a bit with some other dude.

I won't lie...it hurt like a bitch to think that she might possibly start seeing someone new so fast. But when I thought about it rationally, it really just solidified the fact that she just wasn't the one for ME.

[cavmanier]

You broke up with him because he seemed desperate to you, but then ironically he kinda showed he isn't desperate. Yeah he moved on to a new girl it sounds like. The reason you two broke up seems a little silly to me.

[M_A_X]

You threw away the 3 years you had together when you broke up with him, and it doesn't sound like you were giving him what he wanted/needed anyway, so all you can, and should do is hope that this girl can and move on yourself.

[Anonymous]

It's not love, it's a rebound. It'll fizzle out soon enough. Sounds like he's ultra clingy too and just needs someone to give him attention.