Why does my ex flirt with other guys right in front of me when she broke up with me?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating this girl for 3 years (pretty much all of high school) We broke up 2 months ago and I still have feelings for her. She flirts with my friends and other guys right in front of me and I know she does it on purpose because she looks at me and then continues flirting and laughing. Why does she want from me? And she asks me if I like anyone, what do I do?

[nicenthic]

knowmeyourself gave you a very good answer. Read it carefully and read it again. Now, the question is: What do you do if you indeed want to get back with her? There are two realistic options.

1. Play her game a bit. That is, game other girls and make her sweat a bit. Then, grab her and make out with her. Don't have a conversation about it. The kiss will say more than you can in an essay.

2. Call her on it. Tell her what she's doing and that you see through it. Then before she says anything, go in and make out with her.

Since you're under 18, I'm not going to suggest you go any further physically. But whatever happens, happens. By the way, if it was me, I'd go with option 1. Unless you're both tipsy, in which case, I would go with option 3 and just make out with her. Forget about then conversation and forget about gaming other chicks.

[Asker]

Ya but she doesn't drink and do single hook up stuff. Well she didn't before she met me. She tells me that she still loves me but people change and she doesn't love me the same way. Which is bull.

[shadowelite102]

I think you should mess with her and act like you're okay with it.

Maybe you should just get over her and then she won't have much of an effect on you. Sounds like she is trying to make you jealous for some dumb reason, just ignore her.

[knowmeyourself]

She is pushing you to get back with her. She thinks by letting you know that A LOT of guys are surrounding her and want her that you will chase after her and ask to get back with her. If she wasn't interested in you, she wouldn't be flirting in front of you with other guys. She won't be interested in getting a reaction from you. She won't be asking you if you're still available.

She wants YOU to ask her to be your girlfriend. She doesn't want to take this step herself. This is why she's using other techniques like making you feel jealous. Usually, when a guy likes a girl he will feel jealous when he sees her with other guy. Some of these guys will act upon the jealousy feeling by asking out the girl as quickly as they can fearing that another guy might have the girl first.

Hope this helps. :)

[Asker]

It doesn't seem like she wants me back. So I just stopped talking to her. Hoping that she would start talking to me and missing me but she seems not to care.

[knowmeyourself]

See, sometimes an immature girl will want to get back with you but will play hard to get. When you are distant, she will appear and tease you and once you seem interested or curious she will run away. If she's this girl, you need to get her out of your mind. Also, there is another possibility that she wants to make you feel jealous and miserable to TEACH you what it feels like losing her. Yes, it's very stupid but there exist girls who are so immature like that. She doesn't deserve you anyway.

[Asker]

Ya it's been a rough couple months but I'm trying to get over her. Thank you for your help!

[knowmeyourself]

She will blow hot and cold inorder to drive you crazy. Try to forget about her. You're welcome! :)

[knowmeyourself]

Thanks for BA!

[Asker]

No problem! :P

[aGuyfromTexas]

F*** YES DUDE , Knowmeyourself. Those are the kind of girls Who LOVES attentions and only wants attentions she's bad for you dude. RUN AWAY!.

[Asker]

I can't just run away bro. She was 3 years of my life.