My girlfriend cheated and is ignoring me. What should I do? ;/

[Wambo44]

Ok so I've been dating this girl for 5 months and I found out from her sister she slept with another dude. I kinda knew it because she didn't want me to call or hangout and every time I ask why she put sad face. Now I confronted her 4 days ago and I was nice about it. She is ignoring me now and she'll reply to my text sometime saying I don't wanna talk to you. Of course I don't know what to do because I love and care about her so much. I text her a lot. She puts on twitter she is annoyed and what not and I know it's about me. The thing that makes it worse is she always said she loved me. And I guess she still hangs out with this guy. She is moving out of state for a while in 4 days. What should I do? I still want her in my life. Why's she ignoring me? :/

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+1 y

I just don't want her out of my life. Whether we are friends or dating. She's been crying and stressing out.

[lghulm]

Hiya.

Hmm I hate to say it, but it sounds like she has moved and and is more interested in the other guy.

You have made it clear to her that you are prepared to accept it if she will come back to you.

The ball in now in her court - if she wants to come back to you she can.

I know you are worried and want her back but if you keep messaging her and calling her it gets to be more like harassment, especially if she has really moved on from you and wants some distance.

If you must I say send her a final message that spells out everything you feel and your position - and then LEAVE it.

If she decides at a later date that she wants to stay with you/come back she will. If not you are going to have to move on with your life.

Every relationship we have is a learning experience. It won't feel like this now but everything you have learnt from this relationship will help make the next one even more special. Not all girls will cheat and now you know what it feels like to be cheated on try not to do it yourself ;)

[evenlift]

She clearly doesn't respect you at all. Do you even respect yourself? Trying to suck up to someone who has betrayed your trust is ridiculous. Unless you start respecting yourself, you're going to attract more people like her into your life. I would make it clear that we're over.

[Eiffelgirl21]

She is not mature and unfortunately doesn't love you sweetie.

The best thing to do is to find a better looking chick to talk to and with a better

personality. I am not saying move on right away...but my ex, as of 2 weeks ago, cheated...and I got rid of him. I gave him too many chances. ANyway, it helped by meeting multiple guys who are better all around and show me how much better I can do..and deserve. I am just friends with them, but it still helps. I talk to them everyday and I fill my missing void with them. It is kind of like how people do rebounds...but it is safer because you need your time to get over your ex and you aren't sleeping around...so if they did change..they could come back (with a fight) and you have done nothing wrong. You deserve better! And, honestly, I am so much happier without that dude...I feel free...free of worry...I only worry about myself =) message me if you need me xoxo

[desidoll]

I'm sorry to hear that you have been cheated.I just couldn't believe what kind of guy on this earth would cheat a beautiful women like you.I guess some people are just too selfish and heartless.

[Wambo44]

I'm just the type of guy who cares... I guess too much? Like I treat girls how I want my sisters or friends to be treated. And it's worse because the guy texted me bragging. I feel like she's doing it because she's moving out of state for a while. I just want her as either a friend or more because I care and we've told each other stuff I haven't told many. Like we were best friends and I've heard she was drunk. She making me the bad person now and it's just making me depressed :/

[Eiffelgirl21]

you shouldn't blame yourself...that's what I did...its not good. its not your fault. nothing I say will change your mind...she will have to hurt you really bad first...she will have to make you angry...like he did me...i took him back 4 times after he cheated, he cheated 4 times! and I made excuses...well no more...that is what will happen to you. I wish you the best and you sound amazing guy. we should be friends. add me? :) I will help however I can

[Wambo44]

Thank you :) and I did. But yeah it's nice to have someone who's been in the same situation. And it's seriously scary how similar our situations are. She's cheated before but it was early on in our relationship and she started dating her best friend but she admitted she was stupid. And she said I was the best guy she's been with. I guess I just feel like I won't find a girl that made me feel like she did. I don't know if you felt this way but I feel like I was a joke

[Eiffelgirl21]

I feel the same way sweetie. And, you will find another girl MUCH better. I have already met guys that are WAY better than my ex. For example, you are WAY better than my ex. Just an example. There are girls out there that will love you and cherish everything about you forever...

[Eiffelgirl21]

thanks love. If you need me, I am here. Seriously. I can even text through cell :)

[Wambo44]

Sucks to be played like this whether guy or girl. I guess what really is getting to me is I don't want her to be with a douche like the guy she cheated with. Like I kinda said before. I care about others and I hate when guys are douches and ruin relationships or even are disrespectful to girls. To me, guys should be like the girls protector in way. Kinda hard to explain but if the guy cheats or is disrespectful and helps another girl cheat then they're a boy. Like your ex, that's not a man. :)

[Eiffelgirl21]

I agree 100% I wish all guys were like you!

[Wambo44]

A lot are! Just gotta find em! It sucks now because I have this pandora charm bracelet with charms that's got no use now. Ahaha no more valentine :x

[Eiffelgirl21]

I will be your valentine ! :D

[Wambo44]

Ahah yay! You just want the bracelet! C:

It's terrible how I can't stop thinking about her. Ahaha

[Eiffelgirl21]

aww... I know the feeling. but, then I met someone better, and I think about them and I am happier with the new guy. we are just friends but I am still happy dating

[Wambo44]

It's kinda scary and sad how similar our situations are and the fact that you said two weeks ago you broke up and she cheated two weeks ago but I just found out a few days ago. :0

[Eiffelgirl21]

maybe it was meant that we meet and help each other through these bad times :)

[Wambo44]

Of course :) it has to be. I feel like I she will ignore me untill Monday which is when she moves. When she moves ill feel better because she won't be around the douche bag. Glad I found this site :D now I have to deal with this cold. :c

[Eiffelgirl21]

aww :((( feel better! hey do you have any pics? I like to know WHO my friends are ha ha and maybe I can exchange numbers..if you need me that is. You can text me if you are upset or need to keep your mind busy

[Wambo44]

Ahah I was going to say I need a picture! :0 but that'd be awesome. And ill always be ready to help you out or talk about things since we've been through the same thiinnngg

[Eiffelgirl21]

yeah you do! do you have FB?

[Wambo44]

I'm never on it but yes I dooo haha

[Eiffelgirl21]

k message me. and I don't have one lol but my pics are on here :))

[Wambo44]

I did I don't know if it sent though or how to see my messages ahaha :/

[Eiffelgirl21]

lol oh ha ha well I was trying to give you my # and stuff ha ha but its all good. I just thought we could both use a good friend :)

[Wambo44]

I fell asleep :0 but I messaged you

[angel1142]

She is the female version of a douche bag...

You should stop caring and thinking about her because that's exactly what she's doing to you right now: she cheated on you! And you didn't say a thing...! She knows she is in control in this relationship and knows how much she can play you now...

You should stop contacting her and find a nice and pretty girl who will be faithful to you.

[NoOneListens21]

Tell her to go f*** herself. It would be one thing if she was actually sorry and tried to make it up to you. This all seems ass backwards. You probably are a nice guy and I'm sorry this has happened to you. If you cheat on someone then you really don't care for them. So let her go and don't talk to her or let her back into your life EVER.

[Anonymous]

She cheated on you and you're worried about annoying HER? Wow!

I'm so sorry she cheated on you and acted this way, but it's time to get over her and move on. She clearly doesn't want to be with you. And frankly, she sounds selfish and immature.

I really don't understand your chase of an unfaithful woman, but I digress.

Work on getting over her, don't waste another minute on her.

[kangaru]

I would suggest you have a clean break from her. she is not serious about you . cheaters sux!

if a person truly love you she will remain faithful to you

[Wambo44]

Yeah it's just hard. Call me stupid but I still haven't said one bad thing about her.

[kangaru]

@Wambo44 it is hard IN THE INITIAL STAGE but you know you deserve someone better. there are so many nice girls around.

[Transgressionista]

in 2 words or less: move on.

seriously though, she's not interested in you. she probably moved on emotionally a while ago and had just recently taken the physical steps to break away. Do the same.

[HopelessAli]

Try to forget about her. Treat her the way she's treating you.

[Anonymous]

don't be a doormat man, she's a hoe and a bitch, move on

[Anonymous]

you can't do anything if she doesn't like you anymore, just move on.