Does she like me or just wants a rebound ?

[Anonymous]

my friend whom I've liked for a long time finally tells me she likes me but it feels really odd, I asked her what happened with her and her boyfriend she said they broke up a couple of months ago and I asked her if she still loves him and she tells me she does, me trying to protect myself I tell her if she cares for him she should try and be with him or if she likes anyone she can go for them and I've told her that 3-4 times already, but she keeps telling me she wants to see how things work out with me and her. She told me she's in no rush for a boyfriend, when I asked her if she wants to be my girlfriend she says not yeh or eventually and when I asked her the cause of her break up with her boyfriend she tells me I ask too many questions. Is she playing with me ? Does she really like me or Am I just a rebound ?

[RaoAyush]

I wouldn't get into a relationship with her right now. I was in the exact situation as you but I took a leap of faith and it backfired. She broke up with me for good after dumping me twice on the 3rd month because she was still in love with her ex and wanted him back.

Even if you become the sweetest most caring guy and always be there for her, I don't think it'll work out.

For it to be fair, ask her to wait for some time and if she is serious about going out with you, you can get together later.Right now all she needs is a shoulder to cry on. She's just attracted to the idea of dating you. She'll tell you she loves you but it won't be the case.

Do yourself a favour of not going through the pain and refuse the relatioship for a while.

[gonyr]

If you love someone it won't just go away right away. She's easing back I to the dating game. Don't be so insecure about it. Just enjoy it. Try to make her happy but don't take your relationship too seriously and try to have fun. If it works out it works out, if it doesn't, oh well, you both move on

[hrtsnstrs]

It's hard to say. As far as her still loving her ex, that isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes you still love someone even after parting, but it's not the same kind of love. Do you feel like a rebound? Or not? You can usually tell when someone is rebounding - if she's pushy about dating and lingers on affection and attention more than she does on your interests in addition to affection and attention - then she might be rebounding. If you're supposed to end up together you will, and if you are just indeed a rebound, chances are she will quickly find someone else to take the place of "boyfriend". If she hangs around with you, she might actually have realized that she wants you after all this time.

[lumos]

She seems to be really unsure of her feelings. If I were you, I wouldn't get into a relationship with her, especially since she apparently still loves her ex. If she's really serious about getting into a relationship with you, she'll be able to wait. Hold your horses. I say wait a few months and see where it goes from there. If she's still around and still willing to try, you'll be able to tell that she is serious about it. If she just gives up on you after a week or two, then yeah, you were pretty much going to be her rebound victim. Time will tell.

[nicknack]

don't ever start something with somebody who still has feelings for someone else. all that would happen is a back and forth roller coaster of painful feelings. just be friends for now if you can. because one day if her ex decides he wants her back you will be left in the wind.

[Anonymous]

Why would you even want a relationship with her? Think about it, girls your age gave it away freely when they were younger. And now they have the audacity to make you wait for a used product?

Why not just go after 18-21 year olds? They're hotter, not used, and more likely to date you since you're older.

[tiffybaby]

She sounds like she is still hurting from the break up. Personally, I think it is still too early to get involved seriously. You should just wait a while. It doesn't sound like she wants you to be a rebound though.

[freewill10]

a rebound I think, something to try and see if she likes you. And something to keep her mind off him. She's not nice for telling you that you ask too many Questions. She's an ass really!

[titoloco]

O.O Rebound written all over it. She still loves her boyfriend, and still would like to see where things go between both of you.

[titoloco]

Two conflicting ideas in her brain.

[Racez]

It must be that she wants to take her time entering a relationship for now.

[Anonymous]

sounds like she is confused and doesn't know what she wants.

[Anonymous]

i hate this ridicules mentality of girls. plan A not working try B.