I'm too aggressive? Sexually? to my boyfriend!? help

[Anonymous]

=.= So for a while I thought he was just not into me he always ignores me when I'm flirty with him he either laughs, mocks me, or acts like there is some debilitating circumstances that prevents him from acknowledging my advances like "we're in public, I'm cold, I'm tired." He can make out with me in public for ever which initially made me uncomfortable but I got over it. Here it is I'm not asking him to jump my bones in public but at least lean in and say "u better quit lookn at me like that or your in trouble"

=.= Well Ladies and gents I talked to him about it and he said "i'm not that aggressive I'm subtle your too aggressive I don't do things like that. when you act like that I don't know what to do with it. I don't know what to do if you look at me like that I always ignore my feelings if I feel it."

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO don't ignore it! T___________________________T

We're both our first relationship and I mean I'm sick of passionless kisses and bedroom dry humping I want mooooar! how am I being aggressive I'm a virgin for crying out loud I'm really pretty too why won't he =.= take more control I'm noticing a lot lately I'm holding back a lot because I can't take him seriously. Its like I'm putting my attraction on his level for him but its BORING! =___=

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BTW WE HAVE BEEN DATING A YEAR! AND 4 MONTHS! AND I HAVE DONE EVERYTHING I CAN TO MAKE HIM FEEL GOOD EVERYTHING TO STEP OUT MY COMFORT ZONE


Even once we tried to do it and his stuff cldnt fit in side me and he was like meh I thought it'd feel better. Even when I hand job or go down on him for his first time he's like "idk why guys get all hyped all over this stuff it feels good but eh >_>"

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._____. I swear I'm not doing it wrong its like he moans which barely ever happens but wenever you ask him how he feels he's like always dumbing it down. Its killing my esteem because I may not be that experienced but I'm really confident and pretty and I started thinking he's not that into me but he says he is just doesn't know what to do or what he's supposed to do because he's "subtle"


THATS BOOTY! >:(

[mshaker]

rofl your boyfriend seems very dead. I think you guys both need to grow. He also sounds very unexperienced. But he should be experiencing with you. Anyways, not much you can do, just try and get him I guess more in the mood?...

Sounds like your doing everything right. Sounds like he isnt. But that's not your fault. He could just be built like that. Well he is built like that. He needs to explore and open his mind up more, instead of being boring.

[Asker]

So I tried to talk to him about being more open to the idea but he said he is comfortable the way he is and if he acts any different it will feel fake and you shldnt fake those kinds of things

He said it sounds like he's not my type. Its not fair I feel frustrated like I just can't do anything I really want to b with him but he just reminds me of a parent its lik he pays me no mind it doesn't matter how pretty I am I don't know what to do is he taking me for granted? He said I need to figure him out myself

[mshaker]

Hes not taking you for granted. He's just not experienced. This isn't a good enough reason to leave. Unless you feel like it is. But I doubt it. Personally I don't jump into a relationship with someone, especially if this part isn't crazy. But that's just me. Why don't you try spicing things up for you guys?.. aka wearing very very sexy/revealing things. Or getting drunk before having sexual intercourse. All of these things count and help as well.

[ming13]

Maybe you could self stimulate in front of him use dildo or vibrator etc, it turns on a lot of guys watching the girl pleasure herself, it did with me. If still no reaction from him he maybe either to scared or just asexual , either way could lead to a very frustrating sex life and relationship for you.

[Anonymous]

Does he have a small penis?maybe he's not into it because he's self concious about it and thinks he can't satisfy you.has his penis ever even been inside you?is it to short?ive been the same in 2 of my past relationships because of this.whats his length?

[myspacemybroke]

His libido is basically nonexistent. Tell him to strap on a pair, and give it to you or yer done.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Sounds like he's almost asexual. If that's not your thing...well...it may be time to move on.

[mshaker]

Not a good enough reason to leave dude. I suggest you do not give advise like that.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You want to put money on that? Divorce courts are filled with people because one person has a lack of sex drive and leaves unhappy or has cheated. From what she states, she gives a level of affection in public to him and is mocked for it. She engages in sex and his response is 'average'?

If she wants to accept that's how he's going to react for the remainder of the relationship - then by all means - stick with it. But from the sounds of it, they're incompatible.