Why is he ignoring my apology :(

[Anonymous]

I recently broke up with my ex because he was still online dating even though he said he saw our relationship going somewhere. I admit I handled it wrong and should have talked about exclusivity with him instead of dumping him. He flipped it and pretty much dumped me saying I was dramatic like his ex and he couldn't handle it and I should have just talked to him. Well I flipped out at him for comparing me to his ex. He sent a nice apology back and then blocked me on Facebook (in my anger I deleated him :() I realize I made a tonne of mistakes and sent two texts apologizing and a couple of texts a week later asking if we could still be friends. He has ignored both my apology and reaching out texts. Why would he do this if he liked me as much as he claimed? Why doesn't he just reply with 'leave me alone' I don't understand how one can throw everything away over one mistake.

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Well if that's the case why bother introducing me to his good friends. It's not drama. I'm just trying to understand because I miss him

[CrystalMinds]

That's the question: why did he do it if he liked you so much?

Maybe because, in the end, he didn't like you as much as he claimed, or he actually thought you crossed the line and needs time to cool down.

If he went mad at you for not talking to him about it, well, he didn't do it either did he? He flipped out and dumped you.

You apologized, twice, and he ignored every attempt to keep in touch. I would just leave it be, to be honest. If he liked you and he's a grown up, he'll cool down and get in touch and talk to you. Apologizing and letting him know you still wanna be friends is all you can do. It's up to him now.

[Asker]

thank you. you are so lady like. I wish I could have your decorum instead of being a grovelling idiot

[CrystalMinds]

You'ree welcome! As an outsider it's easier to know what to do than when you're involved in the situation yourself.

[Asker]

It's already been two weeks though. Wouldn't he have cooled off by now. Maybe I should accept it's over for good and despite him introducing me to his friends and the things he said, he wasn't that into me

[CrystalMinds]

Keep him at the back of your mind, don't forget him but don't focus on him either. You did your part, it's up to him to make a move now

[BeautifulMischief]

It just doesn't sound like he was ever that into you. Some guys will try to make you believe that it is entirely your fault but it takes 2 to make a relationship work and it takes 2 for it to fail. Stop wasting your time missing someone who is obviously not thinking about you, move on.

[Amarone]

HAHAHA I just love the drama you women create :)

Well he didn't like you as much as he said he did. We men say the darndest things in order to get access to vagina for a few more times/weeks. Then we are embarrrassed to take a confrontation with a woman so we just shy away. Then the first excuse we get for breaking up with her, we'll take it. All this just to rationalize to ourselves and not feel so bad about deceiving her with relationship talk etc in exchange for vag.

Listen if he was still online dating while seeing you, sorry to break it to you but he wasn't that into you.

[BeautifulMischief]

This

[Belgie]

"Why would he do this if he liked me as much as he claimed?"

The person he said he liked, turned out to be an illusion, It was not the real you, it was not the true you. The real you is the psycho drama lover, just like his ex.

"Why doesn't he just reply with 'leave me alone' "

Because girls like you never take that for an answer.

Any response to you, is just giving you a toe-hold.

"I don't understand how one can throw everything away over one mistake."

Why not? You threw him away for the same reason.

[Asker]

I am not a psycho drama lover. I do not like this at all.

[Belgie]

Im explaining his perception ...

[honeyltsme]

Based on the way you acted sounds like you are prone to acting irrationally / overreacting when angry or stressed and then trying to take it back. Even though you are referring to one mistake, if the mistake is simply a window into this general trait of yours, then perhaps that is enough for him - the mistake count does not matter if he feels you might throw fits like that in the future.

That said, he is a cheater in the making.

[expos]

Because he is done with you.

Two things to always remember: 1. You can apologize to someone, but they do not have to accept your apology. 2. Just because you apologize to someone, whatever you said or did is not errased. And words said are always there.

[Anonymous]

what's he supposed to say? Well thanks for the apology but it's still not good enough. Ignoring you is just the nice way of letting you go. It's hard I know but just accept it. There isn't really a way to say he can't accept your apology without insulting you more. So he just doesn't say anything at all instead. You never know though. Maybe a month or two later he'll text you again or something. Always think of each guy as another possible opportunity but don't think too much more than that cause you never know what could happen. The guy who's talking to you at the coffee shop who just walked up to say hi could be your future husband or it could be one date and it's over. You just never know so just don't expect too much to come out of something and just hope for the best.

[akadatank44]

Your still interested in him and you know you blew it by saying something. Its called regret. Maybe next time grow up and talk about it. Remember the old saying, when you "assume" you make and ass out of "u" and "me". Maybe he bought a subscription to a dating site before he might be and wanted to use it up. And if he told you he saw your relationship was going somewhere that sounds like in the beginning of a relationship, give the guy some time. He let you go and you need to do the same.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Because he was tired of what you were putting out there. It's over, you got your answer. Move on.

[Nelson78]

You must of done something wrong that hurt him. It may take a while for him to cool off a bit. I done the same thing before but it was worst then that. She did accepted my apology.

[Xena1990]

He was still online dating?! What an assh*le...