He wrote he misses my touch. I wouldn't do dirty talk but said I would meet. He disappeared. Why even write then

Fragile37
Over a year ago I've met with this guy a couple of times and then we had what is called a one night stand. After that he disappeared. I've sent him several messages. He never responded, and then I felt terrible, as if I was stupid and a stalker.

A few days ago he found me on FB again and sent message "I miss your touch".

I thought that anyone would say he just wanter sex and doesn't care about me at all. But I was hoping that maybe we could develop normal communication. I very much wanted to be loved , wanted and cared about.

I replied to him. He wanted me to describe in detail where I would touch him. I said that I don't want to do dirty talk and that I could meet with him. He started saying not right now, he is busy etc. I've recognized the same bs that he was doing previously and I wrote "ok, have a good night", and that was it.

I thought I was not going to write anything to him ever unless he showed any interest.

But I couldn't stop wondering why he wrote to me again. If all he wanted was dirty talk then he could have contacted girls who provide that. There are plenty of them on the internet. Why did he need to write to a real woman who puts real feelings into this and obviously gets hurt when not cared about ? I don't understand.

"Why do you say something and then disappear? You could at least say bye".

He is probably not even going to respond, but I felt like expressing myself.

I never ever want to act like a stalker. So, I shouldn't ever write anything else to him.

Can anyone tell me what is going on?

I know men are wired differently, but women will probably understand me. I wonder if anybody ever felt the same and how they dealt with it.

Thank you for the support.
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This makes me sad. I clearly showed him that I wanted at least communication and that I am a sensitive person with real feelings. Then why hurt my feelings again by contacting and then rejecting me?
He wrote he misses my touch. I wouldn't do dirty talk but said I would meet. He disappeared. Why even write then
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