My boyfriend keeps bringing up marriage but does not propose. What's going on?

[Anonymous]

We have been together one in a half years, and every week he says Oh, I'm gonna pull out the ring. It was nice when we first met, when he said those things I would just smile and say nothing. Now it's bothering me and I told him one night when I had a few drinks that if he is going to ask me then just do it. I think he got offended but really. If a guy gonna ask you why is he doing this? He lives in his apartment and I have my own house. He hasn't even discussed moving in together. Is he playing me? I make a lot more money than him. Now I have my own timeline inmind and he doesn't know about it. What should I do?

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All of his previous relationships that were over one year long were moved in already. I saw a video of his old girlfriend and I asked him whose house was it in and he said me and Jackie's house. his previous girlfriend. I said what year was that and he said 2003 which made me realize that they were only going with each other for 3 years before they moved in together. My question is that I don;t know why he hasn't asked me to move in yet but he brings up the marriage thing?

[umasaha]

my husband did the same thing to me. He would talk about marriage and I would too, but he wasn't ready for it so never proposed me. He did eventually propose me when he was ready. I think you can wait or ask him straight forward but don't tell him about your time line...i did that once and it got him nervous..cuz guys kind of go with the flow and they get nervous when the girl has this timeline. You can ask him like "hey, since you brought this up, can I ask you something?" and he will say "yes sure" then ask him "what's your plan though, like when would you want to get married"...ask him like in a way its no big deal to you...and see what he answers then go from there. but DONT PANIC. Also he probably wants to marry you one day and sees future with you but isn't ready to marry yet. Which is normal.

[Asker]

thanks

[Anonymous]

Perhaps he's thinking about it but is not ready to ask yet? It's a good sign that he's at least bringing it up, it shows he is comfortable talking about it, and talking about it with you! I would be more concerned if he couldn't even say the word marriage.

Keep your timeline in your head. But talk to him about it. Don't be pushy, just ask him what he sees for you two in the future.

[Asker]

Thanks that's what I plan on doing. Don't be pushy but I'm not ready to ask him where he sees us in the future because I might get an I don't know. I'm gonna wait it out for a little bit and see what happens but I am afraid to bring it up right now of it only being a year in a half.

[lauramor]

I think that you need to give him hints that you would marry him, because if you don't react and just tell him just do it then he might be reluctant to actually do it. Ask him where does he see you guys going as a couple and be honest

[Asker]

In the beginning I was game and he knew it. Then after awhile I would just smile when he said those things, now I say just do it.

[lauramor]

And have you talked to him about it or not yet?

[CylonSexFiend]

Shure you could always pull out a ring and ask him.

Perhaps not in public. Just pick a obviously romantic setting And take a knee.

Should let you know where you are at even if you don't get a yes on the spot.

It will set the bar for a real proposal from him (so no trips to Paris and booking the Eiffel tower) after you go to some trouble he will probably cut back on the insincere proposals.

Good luck

[Asker]

Why is he giving her insincere proposals?

[Asker]

To keep her in? What do you mean? Can you explain it?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I have NO idea what is in his mind. But if your goal is to be married and he's not willing to do it, it may be time to move on.

[Asker]

Why is he giving insincere proposals?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

To keep you in.

[Asker]

to keep you in what? I don't understand.

[Asker]

To keep her in what? Can you explain it to me?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Keep you in the relationship.

[Asker]

why does he want to keep me in the relationship if he has no plans to marry me as of yet? Do you think he ever will propose?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

What does he gain by changing the relationship from dating you to marrying you?

[Asker]

Driving a nice car and a nice place to live. He does not make a lot of money at his. Job

[yaddayaddayadda02]

That might not matter to him.

[Asker]

Ok thanks for the advice. Haveagoodevening

[Anonymous]

How have you reacted when he says those things? Does he get the impression you are game?

Sounds to me like he may be insecure and is looking for some reassurance from you that you would say yes.

[Asker]

in the beginning I was game and he knew it. Then after awhile I just smiled and looked at him, and now I get offensive when he brings it up like I would say "Why are you saying that".And then he would say nothing after that

[Anonymous]

It seems that he's still not financially abled