How do I get over my crush and stop stalking him? HELP :)

[Anonymous]

So I recently found out my crush has a girlfriend he never told me about and because of the summer break I know I won´t see him for sure for the next couple of months. These two things combined have worsen my heartache. I spent way to much time stalking him on the internet. It´s really creepy to think about all the things I found out about him, using just his accent and another insignificant information he gave me some time ago. Not only is this creepy, but also a huge waist of my time, but it´s like I can´t stop myself! I´m even supposed to be studying for an exam, instead I found myself stalking his little brother´s friend´s friend´s friend´s sister! (ok that ´s an exaggeration, but you get my point :) ).

How do I get him out of my head? I usually only crush on people once every 3-4 months, so just finding someone else won´t help it!

And is this normal?

[Anonymous]

This is a hard one and I have been there myself so I can relate to what you are going through. This is a step-by-step process. Firstly, you have to commit to only stalking for so long during the day. For e. g., I will only check the internet upon waking and then again at 12 (Noon) and then again at 3pm and then again at 6pm, etc. You have to give yourself time limits for checking the internet. Once you have gotten used to those time limits, you then increase the time. For e. g. checking upon waking and then at 12 (Noon) and then at 6pm. This is your first hurdle to get over. Secondly, you have to fill up your life with other things and be active in doing it. Going to the movies is a good one as you can't use your phone. Thirdly, you need to be around other people and get involved in their lives so that their news becomes more interesting and news about your crush becomes less relevant. All of this won't happen overnight but you must start it sooner rather than later. You will break the hold it has over you but you have to be active in trying to break that hold. I hope this helps a bit.

[Anonymous]

block him from your news feed or avoid evreything about him.

[Asker]

He doesn?t have Facebook :)

[Anonymous]

just try to not see anything about him

[Asker]

Thatt?s the problem, not the solution :)