Are girls attracted to men like their dads?

[Anonymous]

do you think this is true? and is this in looks, personality, or both? I am just noticing that a lot of my friends in serious relationships are with guys who have some similarities to their dads!

this scares me because I don't want a guy like my dad at all. I don't want to be treated the way my mom is and he is a difficult personality and I would not be happy with someone like that. I compare guys to him sometimes. in the past I dated jerks and they had similar characteristics. now I am older and more experienced in dating and I look for nice guys, I try to find ones who are NOT like him.

but I often find myself attracted to older men like 10+ years older. I do think I have some daddy issues because he never fulfilled my emotional happiness.

[jacquesvol]

Indeed, I often remarked that too. Freud wrote about it. Not only Freud but he was probably the first doctor to write it.

It's not that illogical.

When a girl meets her first male being 'man', gets her first impression of what a 'man' is (should be thus), who is that man?

Her father, most of the time, thus every time, she thinks 'Man', the image her brain sends her (unwillingly) is the image she got at 1, 2, 3, 4 years old. Her dad.

Who was the man telling her what nice girls do and don't? Her dad.

Unless she takes conscience of it (and even if she does!) and revolts young enough, what image will remain deep in her brain and come up when she thinks 'Man'? Her dad.

When she hesitates about doing or not doing something there's a little voice saying 'good girls don't' . And it stops her from a lot of things. Daddy's voice inside.

Some never get rid of it.

But it goes further.

Have you ever wondered why many guys go so crazy about big boobs? When a baby is born, it is hungry and what gives the baby it's milk? That boob. And to a little 20 inch baby even an A-cup (full of milk) looks BIG. Thus in the baby's brain hunger, relief from hunger, being comfy are associated with breasts, breasts looking big. It remains somewhere deep in the brain.

That's why girls want to have big breasts too: on Day one they learned that those are GOOD.

Have you ever wondered why some girls are into spanking? Think about it.

And if a girl sees dad beating mom, it's her world. When later her husband beats her there will be no voice saying 'NO'. Dad did it too, Mom accepted it.

That's why daughters of abused women so often become abused women too. (unless they revolt consciously)

Their acceptance is greater.

And sons of abused women did see it happen. Dad did it , Mom accepted it.

Thus their threshold is lower.

OH, let's all get rid of daddy-mommy issues! It should be explained and discussed at school.

Like many other subjects. Too many subjects.

And parents would object.

By the way, my wife has about the same sizes as my mother did. Before starting to date my wife I did think 2 days about that.

I'm as introvert as my dad.

We're happy together. My wife revolted against her dad when she was very young. He didn't like it, of course.

Who wonders?

[jacquesvol]

Thus, yes, it's good that children revolt against their parents.

[bruvleigh]

yep although they say guys go for girls like their mums too. and I like tall redheads with a cynical outlook and sarcastic sense of humour. my mum is a shy and quiet blond at 5''2 so that theory doesn't hold ground with me lol

[Bethany94]

I think that people who dates guys like their dads are people who had good dads that were good role models. It could also be that people tend to date people in their same range of attractiveness, tax bracket, race, and geographical area, so that ups the chance of a guy looking/acting like their dad.

However, my dad is 5'4" and I like guys who are approaching 6'. I also like guys with really long hair (which my dad happened to have back in the day, but that was in the 60s) and guys who are really smart (which I've always thought my dad was), have a good sense of humor, and sweet (which my dad is to my mom). I don't think I like my boyfriend because he's like my dad, my dad is just a good guy and I want a good guy for myself to love me like my dad loves my mom.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Eww no. I'd hate to have a man like my dad. He's awful. Looks wise and personality wise. He's basically everything I don't look for in a man. Sooo no. I don't think that's true.

[gravygirl]

I'm not. I'm in love with a skinny redheaded liberal. My dad is a fat, black-haired conservative. Except that they are both good to me, they could hardly be more different.

[Anonymous]

Kinda the guys I've liked have reminded me of my dad in one way or another. A guy I kinda like

now is a lot like my dad. He's impatient, sometimens nasty for no reason but he can also be nice and helpful and funny... Just like my dad. Liking guys that look like my dad? Not really.

[CuriousSteve]

Purely cod-psychology on my part, but I've often wondered if women who are attracted to much older guys had issues with their father when growing up.

[Asker]

well I do have some issues to be honest but being aware and knowing how to work with it is more than half the battle

[CuriousSteve]

Absolutely.

[skinandbones]

no. I'm into really rough, gruff, fiscally intelligent men. my dad isn't that.

[Anonymous]

I think they might be attracted to the positive things they saw in their dads (if there were any). I don't know, but I don't think they would be attracted to the bad things.

[Anonymous]

I sure hope not then ill be in the dog house forever.

[xzinax2]

my father is scum,i would prefer a slow death.

[Anonymous]

i think it is completely true but more in like personality.

[katiesmuff]

Most certainly I am not! lol

[Anonymous]

yes I think that skind of true.

[Anonymous]

no, I am not