Are men always attracted to women that look like their mom or sisters?

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BeMuse · Accepted Answer

No. If anything we learn which traits our Mom's have that we don't like as we grow up. Your Mom is a loving family relationship. So certain personality traits that annoyed the shit out of you growing up, you will likely avoid in other women you date. I think my Mom is overall a good woman, that has a lot of good personality traits, but I've never been into anyone that had the same sort of physical look. When I see women with similar facial traits to how my mom looked when she was younger, it's a turn off for me. When she was young she was a 5’6” cheerleader with long brown hair, blue-green eyes, she was thin and athletic, etc. Most of my life she cut her hair short. Would I date a 5’6” woman? Sure, it’s within an acceptable range of height, but more often I have been attracted to women a couple of inches shorter than that. Would I date a women with short hair? Maybe, but longer hair has always been more attractive. Do I tend to like thin women? Yes. Would I date a woman with blue-green eyes? Yes, but I have often been more attracted to women with dark eyes for whatever reason. I place a lot of importance of the face. My Mom would be considered attractive y some standards. She did some beatify pageant crap growing up and she never had to wear makeup much, but her face isn’t what I consider attractive to me. Not my type. Different shapes, expressions, etc. tend to attract me. If I see a woman that looks like my Mom use to it’s pretty much repulsing sexually. But, if a woman is beautiful enough to not have to wear make up to be attractive, she’s fit, she has a lot of the good personality traits my mom possesses, etc. then there is a chance she might be attractive.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I picked up behavioral characteristics from my parents, especially my mom.

I hadn't given thought to why I'm attracted to the kind of physical appearance I like in women. My mom was 5'1" or 5'2". My dad was probably 5'7". I turned out to be 6'2". LOL
My sister is about 5'7" and doesn't have a similar figure as my mom.
My mom, sister and I all have chestnut colored hair and my dad's is dark.

My mom had a nice figure with decent-size boobs (perfect for 1950s bras and sweaters). The shape of her hips and ass were sexy, too, when she was young.

I happen to be attracted to women with similar figures. I always thought of them as Playboy playmate figures, the standard 34", 24", 34" type. Nothing unusual about that being a feminine ideal.

But I am attracted to short women. I mean, I'm not hung up on it, but I do think short is extra cute and sexy. It's creepy to think that the reason is some kind of subconscious thing having to to do with my mom. I kind of doubt it. First of all, she didn't seem small when I was a kid, so how could I have developed a sense that short was sexy or ideal?

Also, I'm more attracted to light colored hair - light-brown, and especially shades of red, ginger, strawberry blond, and blond.

So I really don't think I'm attracted to women because of any similarities to my mom. And, personality wise, my wife and previous girlfriends were quite different. I wouldn't have gotten along with a woman who was like my mom.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

I would say not necessarily. My boyfriend is Cambodian and I’m white so I look nothing like his mom. His mom is a very kind/giving person and my boyfriend liked me because we had that in common, however we are not the same person. I think people tend to go for what is familiar but if it is too familiar it would be a turn off (for example looking exactly the same and acting the same as the parent)

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I noticed a lot of men go for women that have similar physical features to their mom and the girls like guys that look similar to their dad. I can admit i liked maybe 2-3 dudes who had similar features to my dad and even shared his name. But idc for my dad like that so i def ain't lookin for someone who reminds me of him lmao. My main preference looks nothing like my dad

Anonymous · Answer

No, men are not always attracted to women who look like their mothers or sisters. Attraction is a complex and highly individualized experience that varies from person to person. While some men may find similarities between their partners and female family members, such as shared physical features or personality traits, it is not a universal pattern or preference.

Attraction is influenced by various factors, including personal preferences, cultural influences, life experiences, and individual characteristics. Each person has unique preferences and attractions based on their own personal history, values, and individuality.

It's important to recognize that generalizations about attraction can oversimplify the complexity of human relationships and individual preferences. Attraction is subjective, and people are attracted to a wide range of physical appearances, personalities, and qualities in a potential partner. It's crucial to approach relationships with an open mind and recognize the diverse range of attractions that exist among individuals.

hahahmm · Answer

Not really. I think it's more likely that women of a certain fitness level tend to be in the same social circles so when he was a kid 99-100% of mom's friends had a similar body type AND he saw dad/dad's male friends with that kind of woman. When I was a kid 100% of everybody else's mom was hot, hot, hot. No exceptions. Saying a guy was attracted to women who looked like his mom was silly.. There was no difference between mom and all the other women. I guess nowadays it's different with so much fat acceptance, fugly acceptance, mental health disorder acceptance, man face acceptance and so on.

DaveJord · Answer

So how would I know what your mom or sister looks like if I just met, and was attracted to you?

All I can say is that I married my ex-wife... and I met her mother. 22 years later she looked just like her mother looked.

But when I was 20, I thought when I met her mother, that I could see how she could of been sexy if she was 20 years younger, but I also thought her mother was bat shit crazy as well. Within 10 years of marriage her mother ended up divorced and homeless and she disappeared for 5 years, before resurfacing. Bat shit crazy right?

My ex-wife, well she ended divorcing me, and it was pretty crazy... so if your question is if the old say is correct "If you want to know what she will look like in 20 years, look at her mother".

I would say there is something to this saying, but at 20 years old none of that matter to me.

Minahh · Answer

Well actually most of the time they are. There have been many studies on this topic and I like to read about it. I've also noticed this around me. Especially with blondes. If their mother was blonde they tend to form long term relationships/are in love with blondes. However what I noticed also if you're completely different from his mother and he finds you attractive, you've awakened in him his healthy desires. Which is a good sign. Actually it's not just men tho women subconsciously find attractive guys with similar facial features and behavior to their fathers. In the adulthood we want to essentially "recreate" the past. It stems from traumatic experiences and until you heal your wounds you'll be attracting people looking and behaving like your caregiver from childhood.

Sanser · Answer

I have never asked that question myself, i think that not really, maybe something that can be atractive is some kind of behaviours or even the type of humor that can be something similar but I can't tell thats something that ALWAYS happens. I dont know if Its the same with girls but in my case my sister is dating literally a person who is just me but in a different body and I have to say that its very weird lmao. He think like me, says the same idiot things like me and has the same humor, its weird but funny i guess.

Jay3344 · Answer

No way, I don’t have any sisters but all the women I was attracted to looked different. My Mom was a blonde most of her life. I only dated one blonde out of all of the girls I was with. Face shapes were all different, half had different eyes and all had different noses. Plus all of the personalities were totally different. Tbh my mom is pretty unique for a woman so if there was another girl like her out there I would run for my life at a full sprint. I love her but would be terrified of a doppelgänger.

JaneDoe08 · Answer

Not always, but a lot of the time. The same is true for girls and their fathers.

I think it is because, if you have a good relationship with them you develop the same values and ideals, so you seek that out later in life. Inversely, if you had a bad relationship, you are more likely to be drawn into abusive relationships.

Our childhoods define most of who we are, to act like sexuality is separate from that doesn't make much sense

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I've read from some articles that we're attracted to those that look familiar to us or like a sibling or other relative. It's not bad though. But that might matter less when it comes to finding a partner. Traits and personality is what will be looked for.

PartyHostSebastian · Answer

Not that I ever heard but I did make up the phrase or euphemism 'You could tell if you really wanna be with her by whether or not you think her mother is ugly' but then didn't consider one of their mothers to be 'sexy' or then it was the M. I. L. F. engagement period.. good thing some of it's legal today in this city

KingslayerC · Answer

Strong no. It's literally a criteria of mine they the girls look nothing like my mom or sister. Like, I won't even date my own ethnicity.

Now for women, it might be different. Turns out I'm pretty much identical to my wife's dad. Height, weigh, muscle build, style, personality, hobbies, career choice, the way we talk, etc... One massive difference is that he's black and I'm white. Maybe that was conscious though since she refused to ever date black guys.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I don't recall dating or been attracted to trolls recently so no? My mother is ugly af and her personality matches.
Maybe if one grew up with a sweet mother who was pretty then sure. I would guess you would look for a woman having qualities like that. But I think ya would want pretty and sweet anyway lol.

Emelina · Answer

Not exactly, depending on the relationship you got with your family. If you have a crappy relationship with your parent and siblings then no. But most of the times I go for guys that would be kind and respectful, outgoing and easy going, bc thats how my mom and dad brought me up, and my sister.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

My mom is red hair... my sisters are platinum blonde (natural). My chicks are all black hair and brown eyes. I'm not saying much for others, but for me that logic doesn't match up. I'm dirty blond with green eyes... that sometimes change to blue.

sheenagwapa · Answer

my ex mom doesn't look like me. we both have slanty eyes but mine is just a slight slant. my eyes is horizontal with a slight slant. my ex find my knees funny i remember him backbitinh a girl playinh soccer with gigantic lega and because of his comment i was so conscious with my legs i have thick legs too 😁😁but he encourages me to wear shorts. i think he is into shorter women. his mom is short. i am short.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

God, no!!!

Now some may wish their girlfriends would love them unconditionally and care for them as their mothers do.

If children are repulsed at the thought of their parents having sex…..

I guess then depending on if a guy lives in the hills of Missouri, Arkansas, Tennessee, or maybe Kentucky; then that might determine how he perceives his mother, and if that is the case; mother may not allow him to see other girls.

ariadneR · Answer

I don't think so. I think it's more of the traits, characteristics, morals and values that we hold that they are attracted to.

I don't look anything like my mother in law, my mum. Doesn't look anything like my grandma, my sister in laws don't look anything like my mum, but we all have the same characteristics, traits, values and morals.

StrangerSwotto · Answer

Not necessarily, imagine, growing up looking at a face for thirty years viewing it as your mother or sister and then suddenly dating someone looking like that. It would feel as if dating your sibling or parent and it would feel extremely wrong in all situations including when you have sex.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Typically so. We tend to like women that resemble women in our family since that's what we been around our whole life.

The girl I'm currently crushing on doesn't look like my mom a lot but she does resemble my mom a bit in the eyes plus my mom skin color.

zhang121 · Answer

No, men are not always attracted to women who look like their mom or sisters. Attraction is influenced by a variety of factors, including personal preferences, individual experiences, and cultural influences. While some men may find similarities between their romantic partners and female family members, it is not a universal or exclusive pattern.

Lansolot · Answer

Behaviors maybe, not looks. At least for me. Feels engrained because my moms behaviors aren't exactly positive and logically they're not what I want in a relationship but I am attracted to girls that have similar flaws.

Anemone978 · Answer

I don't think they like ones that look like their mom necessarily but a lot of guys with bigger moms like bigger girls to be their girlfriend, I think they like similar body types because it is comfortable.

ohsheeT · Answer

No I run with my hand in the air flopping side to side. RUNN EVERY ONE FOR THERE LIVES   Just kidding I think so some time but I have my way and I pick someone because of whom they are on the in side

Anonymous · Answer

Not the same “looks”, but the same qualities. I dont know if its true, but thats what I've heard of before. Guys subconsciously love a woman who thinks, acts, and make them feel loved and cared for the way their mother does for them. Maybe not completely the same but on some level.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

No, my brother and I have talked that there would be no way for us to ever be friends if we weren’t siblings, we are very close now, he’s my best friend, but we are the polar opposites of each other.

Alaskan_123 · Answer

Definitely not. I dated a man that both of his parents were black haired, so black haired children. And short. I'm blonde and tall. I think I'm the complete opposite, he called me the most beautiful women he ever dated.

ShellyB · Answer

My brother's girlfriend does not look like me, or my mom. I do not look like my fiance's sister. I do look a little like his mom when she was younger, though.

AqIvii · Answer

After asking many of my female friends their responese was no. They said that if anything they would be less attracked to them because they look so much like their relativies or family memebers other may have different answers but that was the evidence I collected after asking all the boys from each period of my class.

SphynxUK · Answer

Sometimes we get on with people that share traits of people we know. I don’t think it’s an issue. I might have dark hair like a partners mother. Doesn’t mean we are the same.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Hell no! My mother is 92 years old and my sister is as big as a barn!

Phoenix98 · Answer

Women go after men that subconsciously remind them of their fathers and likewise men go after women that subconsciously remind them of their mothers. It happens whether we like it or not.

HarryS98 · Answer

God no ahaha. I mean my mum and sister are brunette and my girlfriend is brunette but that’s about the only physical similarities they share.

Nik1hil · Answer

Yes, but more important than looks is that girls behaviour..  If his mom is toxic, he will chase toxic.. Because he feels that toxicity is love..

nitsuj86 · Answer

no, i think guys like women that act like their mom, but not looks like them.  I like dark skin, my family is very whhhhite.

abc3643 · Answer

NO! In fact, that's often NOT the case. (Sisters often look like the father, so that would be problematic.)

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Priscilla chan looks nothing like Zuckerberg's mom. Melinda Gates looks nothing like Bill Gates mom.

DiegoO · Answer

The resemblance is not physical, but behavioral. Many are confusing it with physical appearance and is not the case. The resemblance as I said, it's behavioral.

Caramelpie · Answer

Yes! I believed it when I first met my fiancé’s mother. Same hair, same eye color and similar personality that he told me about. Her and I love the same perfume too and share a very kind & caring personality.

imfreeze95 · Answer

Hell no that’s just messed up. I will say that they may be attracted to certain character traits. Ones they might have in common with their mothers. Like kindness and maybe some hobbies. Things like that.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Hell no!! Mom didn't look a THING like grandma and none of my girlfriend's ever looked at all like my mom or my ex-sisters!

Raaj4you · Answer

I am attracted to all types of girls and women. There is no fixed criteria. But my mom is chubby, she was slim when I was a kid. My sister was slim but she too got fat after few months of the wedding.

TrillXHippy · Answer

If I’m attracted to a freaking woman that doesn’t freaking mean that I’m freaking attracted to her freaking mom or her freaking sister cause oh no she might look like them. I don’t freaking care

FireGodGoesSeeknFire · Answer

No. I can dispell the always right here by citing myself as an example.

boombastik · Answer

We're men, if you make my dick hard it doesn't matter what you look like. As long as you don't stink or have more rolls than a bakery.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I’m sure not everyone. But I have heard that it’s common for people to choose partners who have similar features to their parents

MystiKaL · Answer

Strange question. I would have thought it was the opposite.

MrOracle · Answer

None of my girlfriends have looked like my mother to any significant degree

razelove · Answer

No, if that was the case then how do you explain interracial long term relationships?

exitseven · Answer

Ne, but I know somebody who married somebody that looks like his sister. I always say they Freud would have a field day with this guy.

elizamichale1 · Answer

I m not really sure but i think it is possible coz many of my clients ask me to roleplay as their sister

Bethany22 · Answer

Yes, in terms of eye color and height, studies show that to be true.

xColinx · Answer

I'd say hard no on that but then again I've never lived in the south.

strateguy632 · Answer

gross, but often personality accidentally similar

Faith18letsgo · Answer

No but honestly I don’t think it matters. You like what you like.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not at all. Hardly any women I've dated in the past look like my mom.

lillie_mie · Answer

I don't know, I think they look for certain characteristics that they are comfortable with.

mobiusforniner · Answer

My mom is Asian. I married a white ass red head. So, um, no.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Ew no. The people i find attractive look nothing like my mom or sister.

DSan09 · Answer

In my experience as a psychologist, they actually do. Not in a physical. It has do more with personality

mommymommymommy · Answer

No, only if he's a mommys boy Do girls only like guys who like their dads, uncles, brothers, boy cousins etc..

OddBeMe · Answer

Not this man. Fck no. Im sure parental upbringing has left indelible psych marks that may make us like some traits in partners over others more.

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