I don't want him back, but I want him to want me...

[sexi-timeouts]

how do I this. I really do like him but we just don't work out and its hard to see him flirting with other girls. I don't like the way he treats me so I don't want to get back together (again). We've broken up many times in 6 months. I don't want him to be my boyfriend again but I do want him to want to be my boyfriend. He's an ok friend and I like that he is a friend but I want him to want to be more, just make me feel special...this isn't a he broke my heart now I want to break his, its more f I don't want to go to the party but its nice to be invited...

[Roy_from_Alabama]

The way that your feeling makes since. We all want to be wanted and it seems to be empowering to be able to hurt someone in the way they hurt you. While having these feelings is normal, you need to move past them and recognize them for what they are. Allowing these feelings to develop is harmful to you and prevents you from moving on after the relationship is over. Acting on these feelings is worse. It would put you in a position with your ex that may end up confusing and harmful to the both of you. While your feelings are not wrong or immature acting on them would be. When you find yourself feeling this way recognize your feelings for what they are and try to act in a wise manner.

[youngfranchize]

You're obviously extremely immature and confused. Nobody is going to help you do that.

[BirdofParadise]

The way you feel is they way a lot of people feel after a break up. Things didn't work out and there is no hope for the future but you don't want him to move on just yet. I have felt this way about my ex and I am sure he felt that way about me. The best way to get over it, is to find someone else who makes you feel special.

[Reeses-pieces777]

why put so much effort into an EX boyfriend?

I honestly would move on and not think about him anymore. it does NOT make sense to even be thinking about these elaborate plans to make an ex boyfriend jealous. really does not.

i agree it's good to feel desirable. but he's an ex. who cares.

[answerguy]

That sounds pretty narcissistic.

[Anonymous]

Classic ego problem...